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MarieB23

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Hi everyone. How was everyone diagnosed? My husband was told yesterday that he is type2. He has never seen anyone face to face and he was told over the phone by the diabetic nurse. He was given no guidance or advice except for a large pouch of paperwork and magazines.
He has gone through the literature as best he can and is now point blankly Refusing to eat anything in the house, and I’m sure he thinks I’m trying to kill him. He wasn’t told what his ‘goal’ is so how am I meant to create a diet for him. I don’t even know what his blood sugar levels are!!
It’s all a bit boggling and confusing. Knowing him I know he will refuse to eat most of the things that are recommended. Any suggestions or advice greatly appreciated
 
MarieB23 said:
Hi everyone. How was everyone diagnosed? My husband was told yesterday that he is type2. He has never seen anyone face to face and he was told over the phone by the diabetic nurse. He was given no guidance or advice except for a large pouch of paperwork and magazines.
He has gone through the literature as best he can and is now point blankly Refusing to eat anything in the house, and I’m sure he thinks I’m trying to kill him. He wasn’t told what his ‘goal’ is so how am I meant to create a diet for him. I don’t even know what his blood sugar levels are!!
It’s all a bit boggling and confusing. Knowing him I know he will refuse to eat most of the things that are recommended. Any suggestions or advice greatly appreciated
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Hi,

Welcome to the forum.

Has your husband been prescribed any medication for his diabetes..?
 
Hello and welcome.

Can you tell us if your husband has been prescribed any medication, and what it is? This is important because it can affect our answers.

Next, your husband needs to phone the surgery and ask for a print out of his test results. This is important because he needs to know where he is starting from and how mild or bad his diabetes is. He is entitled to such a print out. If you are in England he can apply through the surgery to have his test results put on line.

Next, and very importantly, is to buy a blood glucose meter and plenty of test strips. We can help you with this because there is a great variation in price of the test strips. You only need one meter, but many thousands of test strips, so look for the cost of these.
 
MarieB23 said:
Hi everyone. How was everyone diagnosed? My husband was told yesterday that he is type2. He has never seen anyone face to face and he was told over the phone by the diabetic nurse. He was given no guidance or advice except for a large pouch of paperwork and magazines.
He has gone through the literature as best he can and is now point blankly Refusing to eat anything in the house, and I’m sure he thinks I’m trying to kill him. He wasn’t told what his ‘goal’ is so how am I meant to create a diet for him. I don’t even know what his blood sugar levels are!!
It’s all a bit boggling and confusing. Knowing him I know he will refuse to eat most of the things that are recommended. Any suggestions or advice greatly appreciated
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Ooh, "food is poison"! I went through that phase. A lot of us did, while we were leaning about food. But after a while you get kinda hungry, and you'll have to start fuelling your body with something, right? https://www.diabetes.co.uk/forum/blog-entry/the-nutritional-thingy.2330/ is a bit of a quick-start guide, it should help with the basics and the first grocery runs. If he's on nothing, or just metformin, he should be fine tweaking his diet and lowering blood glucose to normal levels that way. If there's gliclazide in the mix or similar medication, hypo's are a very real possibility, so be careful. (That's why everyone's asking what he's on).

He's going to be okay, okay? Tell him Aunty Jo said so. And have him read The Nutritional Thingy too, maybe invite him on here..?

Hugs to you both,
Jo
 
I just found this in his book. What does it all mean? He is overweight and has digestive complications and no Gaul bladder. Obviously all of this is my fault and I’m a terrible wife
 

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MarieB23 said:
I just found this in his book. What does it all mean? He is overweight and has digestive complications and no Gaul bladder. Obviously all of this is my fault and I’m a terrible wife
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Hi,

It's a bit blurred. The top scrawling looks like blood pressure.
The one underneath looks like a possible HBa1c.

I'm sure your not a terrible wife. Lol, if you were trying to kill your husband, you wouldn't be here.
More likey a "hit man" forum instead.. ;)
 
If his hba1c is 50, he isn't too far into the diabetic range. If we could see the literature he was given, we would probably tell you to put it in the bin. Unless it advises low carb it's probably the usual rubbish they put out.

Tons of food ideas on dietdoctor.com.

The Diabetes Code by Dr Jason Fung is a brilliant book to get a handle on things.

This should be fixable. Get the diet under control and he should lose weight without thinking about it.
 
@MarieB23 really sorry to read about how you are feeling at the moment.
Yes, I mean how YOU are feeling.

Your husband is probably going through grief and shock at the moment and taking it out on you. You need to make sure you are looked after as well as his, probably understandable, tantrum.
It is likely that his diet needs to change but if something didn't kill him before he spoke to his doctor, once off tonight will not kill him now. Between you, you can both (yes both of you ... not just The Wife) plan what you can do about his diet and what to but on your next shop. If what he eats is important to him, I would suggest he takes some responsibility for it.

As you can see from the success stories on this forum, a type 2 diagnosis can be managed and maybe even put into remission if the person with diabetes takes responsibility.

And, please take care of yourself.
 
MarieB23 said:
I just found this in his book. What does it all mean? He is overweight and has digestive complications and no Gaul bladder. Obviously all of this is my fault and I’m a terrible wife
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I'm not entirely sure whether you're joking, or whether your other half has been lashing out because of the diagnosis. If he has been, keep in mind a couple of things. First, this is a life-changing diagnosis, and with that comes grief. One of the stages of grief is anger, and you can be the recipient of the brunt of that. It'll pass. Also something to remember: You don't deserve to be told off for HIS genetics. Neither one of you is to blame there. But you can try to fix it together.

You're getting help, which seems to be more than he's doing right now (Or is able to. Like I said, it is a shock/trauma and it can be quite crippling.). Make a study of The Nutritional Thingy, get Dr. Jason Fung's The Diabetes Code, or watch his video's on youtube for free. Not all food is poison, but with a missing gallbladder it'll be harder for him to up the fats. There are enzyme supplements available that may help him process fats, and he should up the intake of them gradually, as to not feel sick. Diet is different for everyone, but going low carb and low fat is very difficult, as it can leave one hungry and eventually, malnourished. So take it a day at a time, don't rush things. If the 50 in the blurry pic is his HbA1c, he's just barely diabetic and should be able to get his numbers back into the normal range within months, maybe even weeks. He'll always be a T2, but he could be a well-controlled one, with no complications and progression of the condition.


Edited to add "Up the intake of them gradually" referred to fats, not any enzymes...
 
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JoKalsbeek said:
with a missing gallbladder it'll be harder for him to up the fats. There are enzyme supplements available that may help him process fats, and he should up the intake of them gradually, as to not feel sick.
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Lots of members on here, including myself, have reported no ill effects from high fat food after gall bladder removal.
I've never heard of enzymes needed for this.
 
Antje77 said:
Lots of members on here, including myself, have reported no ill effects from high fat food after gall bladder removal.
I've never heard of enzymes needed for this.
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Not *needed*, per se.... I still have my gallbladder, but I experienced pain when I upped my fat intake some this year, and I'd been using enzymes from Holland & Barrett's to ease the transition some. Helped with the pain, anyway, until I was fine with the new intake... Just saying, not having a gallbladder or having issues with it if it's still there, doesn't mean people can't up the fats. It's often ruled out without even trying for fear of the pain/nausea.
 
Antje77 said:
Lots of members on here, including myself, have reported no ill effects from high fat food after gall bladder removal.
I've never heard of enzymes needed for this.
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Some people do need to use digestive enzymes after removal. They can help with breaking down the fats if that is problem post surgery.
 
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