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Ignorance

Discussion in 'Diabetes Discussions' started by Mystrose, Apr 1, 2019.

  1. Mystrose

    Mystrose · Member

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    I have a rant...

    Those people who say, "oh, it's ok for you to eat that it's not going to hurt you." really disturbs me to the point where I feel very upset with the person.

    I am very careful what I put in my mouth. I don't eat carbs unless there is a good amount of fiber involved. My A1C has been as low as 5.7 and I'm proud of that. For someone who knows nothing (obviously) about Diabetes to tell me something I know I can't eat is ok.....arrrrgh! I just get so mad.

    What do you tell these people? I tell them I can't eat whatever it is and and why but, they still persist and tell me it's not going to kill me. UM HELLO? I feel like I'm dealing with high school peer pressure sometimes. I've tried to educate, but they just don't get it. I've even gotten the cold shoulder for not eating a plate of pasta my friend made for dinner. What the heck is wrong with people?

    Ok, I'm sorry, I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening and I'm thankful this forum exists.
     
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  2. Rachox

    Rachox Type 2 (in remission!) · Master

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    I just tell them I like my feet/eye sight/kidneys more than cake/sweets/pasta etc.. If that then leads onto an opportunity to educate I go for it, if not so be it. Stick to your guns and well done on keeping your HbA1c nice and low.
     
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  3. bulkbiker

    bulkbiker Type 2 · Oracle

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    Thats ok rant away we've all experienced it.. if you want to really freak people out tell them you are trying carnivore...always good for a laugh..!
     
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  4. Mike d

    Mike d Type 2 · Expert

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    Join the queue ... just ignore
     
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  5. kitedoc

    kitedoc Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Yep, blocks up my kidneys, makes me go blind, impotent and my legs drop off.
    That will usually stop them in their tracks.
    I usually do not need to get past the blindness comment and as @Rachox says,
    that provides a chance to provide some education if they are willing to receive it.
     
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  6. Mystrose

    Mystrose · Member

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    I have a friend who over the past few years has said, oh it's ok just this one time. It's not going to hurt you. Well, his diet was horrible and I kept telling him to eat better. Well, guess what? He was diagnosed with type 2 last week. It's horrible thing and I'm doing my best to support him. I feel like saying to him, "Hey, now what do you think about me having Chinese food? Would you eat it?" Sigh, I can't do that tho.
     
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  7. Rachox

    Rachox Type 2 (in remission!) · Master

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    Rise above it and help as best as you can, he’ll be glad of your help one day.
     
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  8. kitedoc

    kitedoc Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    This sounds like a golden opportunity for him to change his dietary outlook on health. Good on you for supporting him.
     
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  9. Mystrose

    Mystrose · Member

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    Thanks, I will do my best to be a rock for him.
     
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  10. Member496333

    Member496333 · Guest

    Second word “off”. First word is your choice depending on the setting ;)
     
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  11. JAT1

    JAT1 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    I totally agree it's super annoying but it's better to ignore it so that your blood sugar doesn't go up from the anger. This is one of the reasons I prefer to eat alone and at the job where the vast majority are fat I don't participate in the monthly cake and fruit binges to celebrate birthdays, the Friday donuts and the restaurant lunches. I don't bother justifying my diet to those who won't understand.
     
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  12. Muddikins

    Muddikins Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    The stupidity of others is not your problem and you are not responsible for educating them. I just growl at people until they go away.
    Your goals are far more important than their opinions and being strong willed and determined are character traits that are going to help you in every aspect of your life. Think of the people you most admire and I bet they display the skills necessary to overcome obstacles without getting bogged down with trivialities, and the people irritating you really are just trivialities to be ignored.
     
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  13. Traceymac23

    Traceymac23 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    **** straight

    Edited by mod for profanity
     
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    #13 Traceymac23, Apr 2, 2019 at 3:53 AM
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    Traceymac23 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    To be fair most of my pals are more likely to kick me up the backside if they see me 'falling off
    the wagon'.......usually smoking too much or one beer too many as well as food and although it's annoying at the time I always thank them afterwards.

    Those are your real friends.
     
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  15. Tophat1900

    Tophat1900 Type 3c · Well-Known Member

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    It's up to them to respect your choices in life.... I'm sure they expect the same from you. You will find out who your friends really are in situations like this.
     
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  16. lovinglife

    lovinglife Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    No thank you - I don't like ...... - I always keep it simple :)
     
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    Tophat1900 Type 3c · Well-Known Member

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    That is certainly more polite then @Jim Lahey's response suggestion. :)
     
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  18. Member496333

    Member496333 · Guest

    I was only kidding, really. That’s just a last resort reserved for those who won’t let it go.

    When I get the “so you can’t have this?” or “you mean can’t have that?!?”, my default response is “I can, but I choose not to.” The “[insert your own word here] off” comes afterwards for those who won’t shut up about it. I’m not bashful :D
     
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  19. Tophat1900

    Tophat1900 Type 3c · Well-Known Member

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    You don't have to explain, we all know what you're really like :D
     
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  20. Listlad

    Listlad Prediabetes · BANNED

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    There is a bit of a rule which says that the degree of understanding of a problem is inversely proprtional to the distance you are from it. This is so true in so many cases.

    So if you (they) don’t have it, it is so less likely you (they) will understand it.
     
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  21. JohnEGreen

    JohnEGreen Other · Master

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    Be careful last time I used the first word of your post I got hauled over the coals and threatened with excommunication for using such a profane word.

    Edited by mod for profanity in quote box!
     
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    #20 JohnEGreen, Apr 2, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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