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DiabeticSweety

DiabeticSweety

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Type of diabetes
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OK so this is more about life than anything but I seriously need some help. My life has gone upside down with regards of parental problems and my best friend arguing with me. I have let these people know that this is upsetting me and I'm sick of it. While we speak my friend is at me. Then says sorry and says someone is trying to ruin her life. I'm literally shaking. I can't look at her anymore without going, wat the hell am I doing here. I'm sick of it and having diabetes is not helping. Please help.
 
Sounds as if you are totally stressed and anxious due to others... but not happy having diabetes to contend with as well.

Diabetes should not be stressful as such... it should be manageable... however it depends totally on your control and regimes etc.

Your friends and family?? We all have people come and go in our lives... are they causing more aggro than nice, warm, loving feelings, why do you need them?, do they help or hinder your feelings? All of these tjings are very important to consider.
I have few close friends a d no close blood family at all but I am happy with my own company and hubby and the few people that are 100% genuine friends...
 
DiabeticSweety said:
OK so this is more about life than anything but I seriously need some help. My life has gone upside down with regards of parental problems and my best friend arguing with me. I have let these people know that this is upsetting me and I'm sick of it. While we speak my friend is at me. Then says sorry and says someone is trying to ruin her life. I'm literally shaking. I can't look at her anymore without going, wat the hell am I doing here. I'm sick of it and having diabetes is not helping. Please help.
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I think you need to put yourself first. If so called friends aren't supportive, maybe they are a hassle you can do without.
 
Then sit dpwn and write down your options and try to decide on some positive actions to make about this froendship.
 
DiabeticSweety said:
Yes but this friend is someone I care about. I cannot just put her behind me. We've been friends for years. This isn't an option.

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Has your friend explained why she's arguing with you? Do you know what she means about "someone ruining her life"? Is she 'just' arguing or is she being aggressive or nasty towards you too?

If she is, give her some space. You don't have to cut her out of your life, but a brief space might help remind her how good a friend you are.
 
@azure I asked her who this is and she said. Well can't tell you. I reckon it's some stupid excuse to make me feel sorry for her because it pops up in the middle of arguments all the time. She has said that I am a coward and I'm hiding stuff. I have gave her space! I gave her 2 mths of space and nothing has changed.

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Are you 100% sure that your friend isn't horribly pointing these remarks towards you?

Just makes me wonder as:

If you are good friends, then normally you can tell each other anything;

And perhaps they are just hedging their bets? Ie being horrible but indirectly so, so this just keeps you hanging in there for when they want you.
 
DiabeticSweety said:
@azure I asked her who this is and she said. Well can't tell you. I reckon it's some stupid excuse to make me feel sorry for her because it pops up in the middle of arguments all the time. She has said that I am a coward and I'm hiding stuff. I have gave her space! I gave her 2 mths of space and nothing has changed.

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It does sound like a complicated situation somehow. You might be able to delve into the reasons behind it, but don't allow it to bring you down. You have enough to contend with just managing your condition. All the best
 
Based on what little info you have supplied. Your relationship sounds very negative, chaotic and one sided. It shouldn't be that way, but it's your life... where you go with it is up to you. Sounds like you care a lot, also sounds like that isn't being reciprocated.
 
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