You're not sounding committed there Nicola.
There is little point asking for help losing weight, then say I wouldn't stick with this or that. Sadly, there is no way I know of to lose weight by continuing to do all the things one did to gain the weight in the first place. If weight loss was easy, nobody would carry any poundage.
Whilst I have no doubt you would like to lose weight, this isn't the first time I have noticed you asking for ideas. But, until you can actually commit to doing something, we can suggest until we're blue in the face, or have worn away fingertips, it won't make a blind bit of difference. The hard fact is, that until you change what is maintaining your weight at its present level; be it by calorie counting, or changing the composition of what you eat, and probably add in some exercise, your weight is unlikely to change.
Sorry. But, that's it in a nutshell.
Is there an emoticon for "bad cop", as that seems to be where I am in the forum dynamic, at present.