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My mum passed away this evening.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Mazzer, Aug 10, 2014.

  1. poshtotty

    poshtotty Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Marilyn, I'm so very sorry to hear this. My mother went in the same way - a fall, taken to A & E, then on to the ward for observation and tests where she died during the night. I only live 7 miles from the hospital but didn't get there in time to say goodbye. So please don't feel guilty or upset that you couldn't be there at the end.

    Do you know this poem? I hope it helps you at this sad time. To live in the hearts of others is not to die. For love cannot die. Diana x

    Don't think of her as gone away
    Her journey's just begun,
    life holds so many facets
    this earth is only one.

    Just think of her as resting
    from the sorrows and the tears
    in a place of warmth and comfort
    where there are no days and years.

    Think how she must be wishing
    that we could know today
    how nothing but our sadness
    can really pass away.

    And think of her as living
    in the hearts of those she touched...
    for nothing loved is ever lost
    and she was loved so much.

    Ellen Brenneman
     
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  2. Patricia21

    Patricia21 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    So sorry to hear about your mum.Its a hard time and I know how you feel.
    Take care.x
     
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  3. cold ethyl

    cold ethyl Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself x
     
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    Andy12345 Type 2 · Expert

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  5. Loobles

    Loobles Prediabetes · Well-Known Member

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    Oh Mazzer, I'm so sorry to hear that. I do hope you have some friends and family who are helping you get through this. Father in law died a couple of years ago, loved him to bits and really missed him, but enjoy retelling stories of funny things he'd said and done. We talk about him so often, it's like he never left! My thoughts are with you x
     
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  6. zand

    zand Type 2 · Expert

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    Hi Mazzer, still thinking of you,
    hugs
    xx
     
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  7. Mazzer

    Mazzer Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Hello everyone, I am sitting here crying my eyes out reading all your heartfelt messages, I am overwhelmed by your kindness, you are all such wonderful caring people.

    @dianagrace Thank you so much for your lovely poem, I am going to copy it into my documents so that I can read it when I need to, the words are really comforting.

    I am going back down to London this Sunday to finalise the funeral which is being held on 27th August. I went to see my mum at the hospital and she looked so very very peaceful. She has now been tranferred to Chapel of Rest so I can see whenever I want to, but it is really going to hit me after the funeral when I know I won't see her anymore.

    I can only thank each and everyone of you from the very bottom of my heart for being there for me during this awful sad time.

    Take care and make sure you all look after yourselves.

    Lots of love and hugs

    Marilyn xxx
     
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  8. Bebo321

    Bebo321 Family member · Well-Known Member

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    So very sorry for your loss Marilyn. Your mum will I am sure be smiling down on you and will be there for you in every smell of blossom, every warm breeze, every birdsong that touches your heart.x
     
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  9. connie104

    connie104 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Marilyn my friend posted this on Facebook when she lost her mum or always makes me cry ImageUploadedByDCUK Forum1408203971.137137.jpg
     
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  10. zand

    zand Type 2 · Expert

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    Hi Mazzer, still thinking of you and wondering how you're doing.
    xx
     
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  11. WeeWillie

    WeeWillie Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Such a sad and stressful time for you, Mazzer.
    Death has such a sting in its tail, it's almost too painful to accept.

    You have my sympathy

    willie
     
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  12. chris lowe

    chris lowe · Guest

    Hi Mazzer, It does take quite a while to get over, just grieve in you own way at your own pace, don't let any one say further on in time that you should have got over it. My mum passed 10 years ago and I still think of her and the things she's say. Sometimes I'll be shopping in the supermarket and see something new and think that Mum would like it. Just keep her memories close to your heart. I do hope you've got family and good friends who can help you over the bad times.
     
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  13. Mazzer

    Mazzer Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi Willie, Thank you so much for your kind words. I am back home now so hopefully will be back on line in the near future. Take care. Marilyn xx
     
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  14. Mazzer

    Mazzer Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi Chris, I am sure she will live in my heart and thoughst forever, it just take time to come to terms with it. I appreciate your kind words, fortunately I do have two brothers who have been brilliant and some good friends when I need a hug. Take care and thank you.

    Marilyn xx
     
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    Robinredbreast Type 1 · Oracle

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    My daughter bought me a pink notebook for Mothers day. These are the words on the front cover :-

    A MUM shares your hopes, dreams
    & fears and always knows
    the right words to say .

    ( I think it's lovely)

    Take good care, with my very best wishes.
     
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  16. pavlosn

    pavlosn Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    My commiserations on your loss.

    Pavlos
     
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  17. coco44

    coco44 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi so sorry to hear about your loss. The raw feeling will fade in time, but the love, memories and closeness stay forever. Take good care of yourself. Will be thinking of you. Big, big hugs, love Coco xx
     
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