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the_anticarb said:Hi Leb/RRB/anyone!
I know I should be pleased that my eye is doing well, I am actually a little bit sad tonight
I have realised that I don't think I could go through with another pregnancy as I just couldn't risk the retinopathy coming back, I'm trying to shut the door on it so I can get on with my life and getting pregnant again would be like opening the door to it. Also no one can quantify the risk, Mr. C said think of the worst case scenario and whether you can risk it, well for me I don't think I can as the week I had the bleed I just about lost the plot and I can't go through that again and we'd struggle to find the money for private treatment again.
I don't know if adoption will be right for us, it's not that it wouldn't be my biological child, that doesn't faze me, it's more that it would very likely be a child rather than a baby, I think very new babies are very rare in adoption, and what I really want is another baby fresh out of the womb not a child with a history when I haven't been there.
Why does this retinopathy have to affect so many areas of my life - my work (through driving), my family?
Oh well at least we have the one, I keep telling myself that a lot of people don't ever get the chance to be a parent at all.
I just really wanted two to complete the family and give him a play mate, but I really don't think I could go through with it
What would you do if you already had one, would you leave it at that or risk it?
AC my heart goes out to you, its such a horrible situation that you are in.
I have 1 child at home and 2 grown up children. I was 42 when I had my last child, who is 11 now. I know deep inside she would like a playmate and it is a bit lonley for her. She goes to lots of clubs, in term time, and has a friend coming round tomorrow, her friend was also here last week and we all went out for the day . I try to make sure she does has company of her own age, but I do feel quilty. Her birth was an emergency and after that, even if I was in my 30's, I don't think I would of gone through another pregancy, just in case. The friend who is coming round tomorrow is one of seven children and seems to enjoy her big family and wants to work with children when she leaves school.
Only you can make that decision, do the positives out way the negatives? How would you cope if your sight was put under a great strain again? Some will only see the positives and go ahead anyway.
An only child need not be a lonely child. I am run off my feet during term time with after school clubs etc Phew!!!!
I'm sure your boy will grow up happy, secure, with confidence and most of all.............loved. Best wishes RRB x