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Serious depression

I am in a better frame of mind, i thing actually laying it out there has helped so much.

Im not the type of person to reveal my feelings, i keep them bottled up inside in a tiny ball. But actually letting it out has made me see that its not bad to release feelings now and then.

It will probably all change again next week. But heres hoping it wont!
 
Keep positive.. And keep a smile on your face from being proud of yourself. When you smile, everyone smiles. Your starting anew, just one smile a day from being proud of yourself can mske a huge difference..
Well done, you'll get great empathy and support here..
 
**** bottling it up spill everying out thats annoying ya, get over it and move on, else ul just be a drifter like me lol.. ive been out tonight had a couple dont feel guilty one bit ive been there hitting the shops drinking in the house but i found feeling guilty about it just makes it worse.. then it feels like a vicious circle..do something you think your not suppose to do feel guilty and and worthless then think thats what i am so just carry on anyway...nope at the end of the day we are all human everyone has flaws and good sides.....foook that stop feeling guilty and just try small bits and for god sake dont say opps i slipped and bought a few cans and whack it on here its not a problem ul get there and for what its worth i feel where ya coming from so ive decided iam geting a bible something to belive in and geting my weights from the parents and gona get some life back and also spoke to the wife everyone says i need a hobby of somekind so ive decided to take up dogging ha ha. lets have it :thumbup:
 
Crikey Danny, You're the first bible toting dogger I've ever heard of:o:grin:

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MHogarth - good to hear your ok, sounds like you've got some quality mates to do that for you, maybe by ringing the doctor or your nurse you are doing your mates a favour, i'm sure they are worried about you, so if you just pick up the phone now and call the docs, get an appointment and go - you are taking a step in the right direction ?

Just do it and your mates will be grateful, i'm sure they would like you round for a long time to come. Also write everything down on paper that's bugging you and take this with you. I find sometimes I get to the doctors and I haven't really told them want I came for and walked away feeling worse, so make sure you get everything out in the open.

I personally would like to give you a big hug and tell you that it can be ok but it's down to you. You control your own destiny so pick up the phone now and let me know how you get on.

Danny - you need therapy for anger management !! Widescreens arent cheap, therapy is free !! My brother had the same, not illness related, but he had therapy and he's ok now, doesnt hit anything/one any more !

Jx
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mhoggarth said:
I am in a better frame of mind, i thing actually laying it out there has helped so much.

Im not the type of person to reveal my feelings, i keep them bottled up inside in a tiny ball. But actually letting it out has made me see that its not bad to release feelings now and then.

It will probably all change again next week. But heres hoping it wont!
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Sometimes it just pours out doesn't it?

Have a great weekend and keep thinking of the positives of changing your lifestyle, they will outweigh the negatives tenfold :thumbup:

Good luck and take care

All the best RRB
 
So sorry things are bad for you. I know how you feel,diabetes and depression seem to go hand in hand for a lot of people. Please talk to your DSN, and know that I am thinking about you, and hoping you can improve things.
 
Congrats on not buying the alcohol. You must be proud of that choice, and rightly so. I'm so glad you decided to share with this forum. It really does help to get your feelings out

PS - Bible toting doggers?? Maybe start a club! Or a new forum!!!

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So much for a new start and good weekend.

By dad has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Life just isn't Fair. I'm devastated. It's taken everything away and I just feel numb. And I am reallydo feel useless now.

How do I come back from this. I just want to curl up in a ball and make it all go away.
 
I was injecting each time I had a beer, 3 units I think it was. Now, I have given up on booze for good. It causes cancer and I have passed out the street once too often. I was using mary jane instead, but the munchies, hmmm, been lucky I suppose. Life is a struggle, can never take it for granted.
 
Mhoggarth

So sorry to hear of the cancer diagnosis. Words cant express the empathy I feel for you.
Sometimes life is ****... However with your dad now.. He wont want you crying for him... Or feeling sad... Or down.
My dad when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer, just needed to see his children still happy and caring and valuing their own life's.
My dad wrote us all lovely letters.. We didnt know until after he died. He asked for all donations to go to what was then the British Diabetic Association.. As he felt it was the last thing he could do for me. He asked my mum in letter to take extra care of me because of my diabetes.
I was 28.
The thing is now to ensure that whatever time is left to have good times and also to remember him, when the terminal time comes by those good times... My dad got awful treatment at hospital in last 3 days... But its no good remembering those times... My memory of my dad is giving him his last xmas present.... A private hited plane that took him and my mum over the portland, wemouth and poole where he had lived.. It was the last thing he really did... And he loved it.. Thats my memorys.. All the good ones...

So please, grieve later... That time will come.. But now try to value the time you have with him and make the most of it...

Dont let your dad worry about you in this time, be strong for him. Grieve later.. He is still living now, make the most of it.
 
My dad is My rock and My role model. He is the person I look up to and turn to when I need advice. I don't know what I'm going to do when he does pass.

He asked me to be strong for My mum and sister, yet im struggling to be strong for myself.

I've drunk a lot again tonight, I feel like I have nothing else left. I just feel like everything is falling apart. And I can't see a way of stopping it.
 
Do as your dad asks...strong for your mum and sis..

Not much.. But you also have us here.

Alchohol although nice to drown your sorrows ... Can make those sorrows even worse and overwhelming.

We'll support you through this, but do try to keep yourself well enough with your diabetes so that you dont concern your dad...
 
Il just say garth, bit selfish but your actually keeping me going....dont want to go on about diabetes but il say now had a few drinks, i wont say anything bout my stuff but one thing i do know for saying your the one that needs the house tidying by ya mates, your the one with the drink problem hiding cans probably quiet sensible bloke that has a outburst now and then.... wonder why ya dad asked you out the family to be strong cos he knows what the crack is, hes got faith in you even though you aint got it yaself, its along road this is mate listening to Johnny Cash HURT
 
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So sorry about your dad. I know this is a spectacularly hard time for you. My Dad died when I was 18 and it felt like the end of the world. But the world didn't end. You just get through one day at a time. Alcohol won't help here. To paraphrase a song you can try to drown your sorrows but sorrows learn to swim. In the end you have to get through this and alcohol plus your feelings about your drinking will only make it more difficult. You can do this. Yes, it is unbelievably difficult. Yes, you would rather thinhs were different. But believe in your own strength. If not for yourself then for those you love and who love you. They need you now and they will need to draw on your reserves to get through this. Be the man you always wanted to be and you will make it. Lean on your friends, they have already shown that they are there for you. You also have endless support here. You are not in this alone. My heart goes out to you and your family. Sometimes there are no shortcuts. Stay strong.
 
go to the doctor and listen to what they say. just get it over with. I hate going, i also get down in the dumps but its got to be done. Whats the worst thing they can say to you? You are going to die? Well thats a fact, we are all dying, who nows when? Hopefully a long way of if we look after ourselves. If you dont care about yourself then you dont need to bother but that would be a shame. When I have to do something tough that I dont want to do I think about little kids who have horrible illnesses but they still smile and try to play and be happy everyday. How the hell can we mope around feeling sorry for ourselves when there are children, old people, vulnerable people being hurt and not cared for everyday of the week. Get a grip and sort yourself out, you have good friends and lots to live for.
 
Go to your doctor. He or she can get you a counseler and you can talk until you can't tall any more and it gets it all out and works wonders. I used to watch all those American shows where they all went to shrinks as part of their daily lives and think what rubbish. But now I for and feel great after and she really helps me.
It al happened after my heart attack which happened because I drank and smoked too much had diabetes and did not know and was a fat idiot. Was having a great time but out of control I suppose. Now one the road to recovery and thanks to my talking to this lady my head is getting there also. Talking is the answer.Don't worry about your friends they are just being your friends and you would do the same for them I am sure. And its amazing you will find some of them have the same problems and need to talk also. I unburden all the time and find that there is half the world glad you have done it so they can follow suit.
 
Hi guys,

I want to thank everyone that has posted on here, and thanks so much for the words of support.

I have made an appointment to see My doctor and have written a list of things to talk about so I don't forget. I have told lots of My friends what is going on and they have been great too.

It's going to be some awful months coming up with everything going on with by dad and it's great to know I have so much support.

Again, thank you everyone.
 
Well done, that's good news, i'm glad your taking a list too, it's so useful to keep you on track and get everything out while you get the chance. It's hard sometimes to accept we need help and that's the first step towards getting better, keep taking little steps..

Good luck at the doctors and keep posting updates, hope things improve.
 
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