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So [Expletive Deleted] Frustrated: A Rant

zand said:
That's me put in my place then. I was feeling quite proud that I have reduced my BMI from 44 to 34.3 (still higher than yours) Hey ho, time to take a break from this place methinks.
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I apologize. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad. I'm very frustrated by my lack of weight loss when it "seems" I'm doing everything right. My apologies.
 
Hey @neithskye and @zand, I am going to make you both honorary members of the club I am president of: Those Of Us Who Don't Lose Weight Easily. You can both be VPs if you wish!! Seriously, if I let the lack of weight loss take presidense - O can't spell that word right today!! - over all the other benefits that I have gained with better controlled blood sugars, I would be of all women. most miserable. I have one screwed up metabolism and I fight very hard for every pound I lose and it used to rip me up a good one when I would read about those who lost weight without any "so called effort".....but you know what? I've gotten to the place where I cheer for those fortunate people and gotten an attitude change about my own journey.....it's not about them, it's about me and my journey.....I don't know what else is going on in their lives and I don't need to know....what I do need to know is that they are battling the same dreaded diagnosis and forging their way as best they can and so am I.

We are all winners in attacking this disease and gaining health, confidence, control, better outcomes for our futures......that is what really counts. Do I wish I could look differently? Some days, but most days I get up thanking God for another day to live joyfully with my loved ones, try to spread a little cheer and encouragement where I can and not let diabetes or any of the other conditions I battle get the best of me.....

Enough preaching!! Hang in there ladies - and I don't mean that as a pun - and be the very best you can be. Remember to smile and live with a grateful heart! Blessings/L
 
neithskye said:
I apologize. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad. I'm very frustrated by my lack of weight loss when it "seems" I'm doing everything right. My apologies.
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Sorry, I apologise too, I share your frustration. I had a bad day yesterday when I felt the whole world was against me. Today I am staying away from the world....
 

Hi @neithskye,

Congrats on your brilliant achievements re HbA1c and fatty liver. Well deserved after this much hard work.

Have you considered dropping the diet soda? I seem to remember that artificial sweeteners can cause an insulin response (at least for some of us) -- and raised insulin levels are what keeps us from accessing our fat reserves. Might be worth a try anyway.
 
It just doesn't go exactly fast for all of us... I know I struggle with it. I lost 10 kilo's because my bloodsugars were high. I thought it was cancer, as that runs in the family, and the doc thought it was cancer too, but in the end, it was the diabetes-diagnosis that explained it. So that was 10 kilo's I didn't have to fight for, those I got for free. (They just scared the living sh*t out of me). The next 15 kilo's were a 2 year long struggle. I mean, this monday I was 75,5, today I'm back at 76,5. Yesterday was 77. So close to my target of 75, and it all went to heck again. It's a constant struggle, even with IF and Keto, but you know what? My HbA1c is beautiful, my fatty liver's doing loads better, my cholesterol is okay, and I have energy. Even when I do get a flu-shot, a cold or even a bladderinfection, my bloodsugars are next to perfect, I dont go higher than 9 for a few hours, even if I get a steroid shot! And then back down to 4's and 5's! That's nearly a miracle! That's what I'm in this for. I may still be a big girl, but at least I'm a healthier, happier one. And one that heals faster without requiring a bunch of antibiotics to back her up.

Besides, you're excersizing more and muscle mass weighs more than fat, so you might want to go by measurements rather than what the scales say... Call it a win. We can't all be a keto-posterchild. I wish I could be one, but I take my victories wherever I can get them.
 
zand said:
That's me put in my place then. I was feeling quite proud that I have reduced my BMI from 44 to 34.3 (still higher than yours) Hey ho, time to take a break from this place methinks.
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I know there's a hug icon, but still. *HUG*
 
How about trying some resistance training, this might unlock the whoosh effect. You might want try dead lifts and squats; whilst you may not get as much weight loss as cardio due to the lean mass, you could get the desired shrinking size. It is my view that it is better to say have a 30 inch waist and have 5 kg extra lean mass, than a 30 inch waist with a greater proportion of fat. It may be worth a try using the weight training stress (it will not make you a muscle bound monster outwardly, but will ramp up metabolics).
 
I wanted to thank everyone for the wonderful replies. I took a break, ate an entire 280 gram bag of Cheese Puffs, and feel better. My doctor's referred me to some diet program and I see a personal trainer on Wednesday. I'll ask her about resistance training, @Mbaker. Thanks for the perspective, everyone. Onwards!
 
neithskye said:
I apologize. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad. I'm very frustrated by my lack of weight loss when it "seems" I'm doing everything right. My apologies.
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@neithskye just a thought. This thread prompted me to look back at my records. They show a very similar loss rate to yours at the start - took over 3 months to lose 13 pounds. The breakthrough for me in weight loss terms was regular intermittent fasting: always skipping breakfast and a sustained (many months) period of eating only once a day at least 3 times a week, with a few periods of 14 consecutive days of one meal a day. If you’re not already trying that it might be worth a whirl - it does wonders for BG control so you can’t lose (pardon the pun).
 
Thanks for that. Unfortunately my body just doesn't lose weight easily. For example, when I had my gallbladder out I didn't eat much for days and didn't lose a single pound.

I randomly fast but not on purpose. It's because I'm not hungry. For example, I haven't eaten currently for 17 hours. Does that count or does it have to be "structured" fasting; i.e., a strict 16 hours off, eight hours on schedule?
 

17 hours definitely counts as intermittent fasting - being guided by hunger sounds like a great strategy. Sounds like you’re doing great to me.
 
Thank you. I'm 47 and went into menopause at 42. I guess I should say perimenopause because just when I think I'm finally fully in it I'm not! I'm sure my hormones being out of whack isn't helping. And most of my fat is belly fat, and that doesn't help either.

I just didn't understand why others have lost so much more weight than I by this stage. Technically I'm obese, so I figured the weight would just be flying off. Plus it's math. Calories eaten < calories burned = weight loss. Logic. Obviously bodies are a bit more complicated than that.
 
neithskye said:
I apologize. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad. I'm very frustrated by my lack of weight loss when it "seems" I'm doing everything right. My apologies.
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Why the hurry? Why so impatient? This is not a question of dropping a few pounds before a wedding, but a question of something far more important, your health for years to come. We're all different, and we've all lived our lives in different ways, and I'm sure this reflects on how our bodies behave today, science or no science. You'll get there steadily albeit slowly, like me and like so many others. I do agree with the other posters in this thread that your BS readings are excellent and I'm in no doubt that so many other diabetics would give their right arm for those readings.
Cheer up, be proud of your achievements and love yourself for that magnificent spine of yours Most importantly, like others have already said, stop comparing your achievements to those of the 'superlosers' out there.
Geez, you sound like me
 
I wasn't so much in a hurry or impatient. More like I thought I was doing something wrong.

I've seen many "I lost 30 pounds in three months" posts, and thought I must be doing something wrong. Especially since the changes I've made are so drastic - I'm swimming now where I was sedentary before and my diet is so healthy now where it was complete junk before.

I also lost no weight in July and August, lost 13 pounds in September, and haven't lost a single pound since the end of September. I find that puzzling.

I didn't want six months to go by and suddenly learn I should have been doing something different that whole time. For example I saw a personal trainer today who told me I should be on some bile digestive pills or something because I have no gallbladder and that could be affecting my weight loss. I had my gallbladder out 27 years ago and this is the first I'm hearing about this?
 
I’ve nothing to back this up but I’ve seen on low carb forum repeatedly advice about how the body “heals” initially before losing fat. Inflammation/function etc. Your body has certainly healed in terms in glucose/insulin management. Many of these posters talk about a point in time, sometimes months into it, where it suddenly clicks.

Gallbladder. I’ve had mine out last year. Some people struggle with fat digestion afterwards. Some don’t. Bile digestion pills can help those that need it. Others produce enough bile at one time to cope with the fat they eat and it’s will do nothing to help those.
 

Ok, that makes sense, and you still sound like me These plateaus are normal, I believe. When I check my app I notice that between Sept. 4th and Oct. 31st, almost 2 months, I lost as much as ... wait for it... a whopping 1,2kgs!! Mind you, we could both be doing something wrong On the other hand, when you gained weight, did you notice if this happened in steps too, or did you, like most of us, avoid the scales like the plague?
I weigh myself almost every day. My trick is to blatantly ignore the mornings when I've gained a kg or even two. I only open my app and make an entry when it's lower than it's ever been before? Cheating? No, I don't think so, because no matter what I'm still losing weight, sometimes very slowly, and then, like yesterday, suddenly I'd dropped 1 kg from the day before. I was too much of a coward to weigh myself today
If you read my bio you'll see that years ago I lost a massive 35kgs. I'd lose 1 - 1.5 kgs/week, so when I started LCHF I expected the same kind of results and was disappointed. Some say that my rather slow rate of losing weight could have to do with previous yo-yo'ing, and I'm sure that it also has to do with my being 12 years older.
As for exercise I'm not so sure it makes much of a difference to weight loss. It does to general health, no doubt, so going for walks and swimming is great for BG control, but in my experience not so much for weight loss.
However, if you're still not sure if you're doing something wrong maybe hop over here and read. https://www.dietdoctor.com/q-a-not-losing-weight-lchf
 
I don't know about the gaining weight. I started gaining weight when I was seven when I started comfort eating after my parents divorced, and kept right on gaining up until adulthood. I've never been a normal weight since I was seven, 40 years ago.

I don’t own a scale because I know if I did I'd be on it every second. I weigh myself at my doctor's office whenever I go there for whatever reason. That's why I was in such a flustered mood when I wrote this original post. I'd gone for a prescription refill, and excitedly weighed myself. I was *so sure* I'd lost weight because I "felt" thinner, and to see I hadn't, especially as I hadn't lost a thing in the first two months, was just so discouraging.
 
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