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Stillbirth

I have no support from any medical area.
Just my family and friends.
The dr said that the investigation results are in draft form and they were waiting to discuss post mortem results before finalising the report. That was a week ago today.
 
13lizanne said:
I send you, and your partner and your little girl, my deepest love and wishes for a peaceful life together really soon. I am appalled at how you were treated Sioux and have unstinted admiration for how you have conducted yourself - with grace, strength and bravery. Much love
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All the right words 13lizanne:)
 
Words fail me:(. I had a stillborn granddaughter just over a year ago, non -diabetes related but my thoughts are with you. Your son will not be forgotten xx
 
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. There aren't enough words to cover such an awful thing. My heart goes out to you...

You didn't do anything wrong, and make than that, it sounds like you did everything right for your son and couldn't have been a better mother to him.

All my love and sympathy to you and your family XXXX
 
I'm so very sorry for your loss, that must be devastating for you and your family. I hope you get to the bottom of this and have some kind of resolution as this most certainly wasn't your fault. Xx
 
sioux said:
I have no support from any medical area.
Just my family and friends.
The dr said that the investigation results are in draft form and they were waiting to discuss post mortem results before finalising the report. That was a week ago today.
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Sorry, I've been out for a couple of hours.

It might be good for you to engage with your GP, just so that he/she knows what you're going through. You can then gauge whether he/she could help you interpret some of the documentation you should be getting access to sometime soon. There may be some hefty terminology it could be helpful to have someone to interpret.

I do hope your family and friends are able to get close to you. It must be difficult for them too, although only a sliver of what you and your closest feel.

Whilst I appreciate you don't want to talk about lots of detail, please let us know how you're getting on, and I'm sure I only say as others have thought or are thinking; if we can help in any way, please do let us know.
 
Hi @sioux

I don't have the words to express my sympathy other than to say that a stranger from the other side of the world has shed a few tears for Forrest John, yourself and your family. As for your treatment I am disgusted.
Please look after yourself and use this forum for support whenever you need it
 
Hi @sioux

You have my sympathies and virtual hugs. Your story has given me many conflicting emotions.

First I'm devastated that you have had to suffer so much.

Next I'm frustrated that our health professionals are tying this all up in jargon that is not well understood outside of the professional realm.

What has really made me angry thing is that you are shouldering so much blame at this time. I have seen so many women who do not take care of themselves or their baby when pregnant that to see such unkindness and cruelty to someone who does their best is just maddening!!!

I am more sorry than I can say.

You are correct that midwives (and I would argue rgn's also) need more training on diabetes.
 
Thank you to everyone for your kind words.
I have spoken to a my consultant regarding the results.
Because someone wrote that I was a poorly controlled diabetic this also influenced the pathologists results, which the dr agreed.
It's a sad world when the medical profession are happy to falsify records in an attempt to justify their treatment towards myself and my son.
My gp is only now as of 2 days ago that my son was stillborn as I had to inform her.
 
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Your strength, courage and devotion to your children is so evident, even reflecting back to you in the empathy and kindness Yzabella is showing at such a young age. They are lucky to have you as their Mum, you have never, and will never let them down.
 
I am so angry I could spit bullets. How dare they try to lay the blame on the 1 person who has done her best to have a healthy baby.

@sioux
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
This is far easier for me to say than for you to accept at this time. The blame is not yours, the guilt you feel is because you couldn't prevent this tragedy NOT because you caused or contributed to it.

My daughter was stillborn on 12th May, 1972 ( I found out 2 weeks before that she had died). She was full term and weighed 4lb 15oz. I never saw her and never held her. I was consumed with guilt, what if's and if only's. It was years later that I was told that the reason was because the placenta had stopped feeding her.

Take the time you all need to grieve for your precious, most wanted and loved son & brother, he will live in your hearts forever.
RIP Forrest John. xxx
 
sioux said:
Thank you to everyone for all your beautiful words.
I will keep you updated and will NOT stop fighting!!!
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Good girl.

I doubt your journey through all of this will be quick, so make sure you look after yourself and keep looking to the future where you can.
 
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