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Kat100 said:
Lots going around .. take care @debrasue
People are going to walk in clinics to get antibiotic treatment , due to some GPs believing we don't need them ..
Well I believe if we can't get rid of nasty coughs etc then we should have some ..
I think you should get some as a prevention, hope you have a good nurse or GP x
Hugs to all xxx
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My GP's pretty good about doling out antibiotics if I need them - he'll write a 'scrip if I phone him and describe my symptoms - but I'm a bit cautious about taking them unless I really have to. I contracted MRSA following surgery some years ago, and it took over a year and about 15 different types of A/Bs to conquer it, so I'm very wary about taking them too often, or not finishing the course, etc. And I guess they won't work if this turns out to be just a cold, anyway...
xxx
 
Because of Brexit it seems the French government have said that british ex pats will not put their clocks back one hour tonight it is for EU members only. Anyone ignoring this order will have to put their clocks forward 2 hours next saturday in compensation.
 
SWUSA_ said:
Okay this looks like normal chatter-I was looking for the scream thread. I am just getting a handle on this stuff and they are changing my insulin. I just found a message buried on my phone from last week telling me they are changing my insulin from lantus to toujeo. Two more messages are from my pharmacy telling me they are out of one of my prescriptions and I have not ordered anything. It's Sunday night and they are closed. I just googled toujeo and found that the patent is expiring on lantus and this is a new insulin with a new patent that just got approved. I do not want to be the first group of patients on a new drug that may affect your heart. I have already gone through that with Vioxx and Seldane. I am appalled that my doctor would change it without even talking to me. Does my insurance cover it? It is 3x as concentrated as lantus but the dose is the same and may need to be adjusted up based on the drug trials. Will my needles fit these pens? Are the needles covered under my insurance.AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! okay I feel a little better now.
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Seems like a call to your doctor on Monday morning is in order! Hugs xx
 
I'm hoping this is the right thread to post in? Anyway, here goes . . .

My oldest and best friend just doesn't seem bothered about trying to stay in contact with me or meet up. We've been friends since secondary school so have a 25yr+ friendship. And geographically we're less than a 45 min drive from each other. It's slowly been going downhill since she got married. Prior to this we'd meet up, I'd go over to hers with my husband, we'd talk on the phone etc. Now, she hardly responds to my text messages. I personally think her husband doesn't like me/us very much. She seems to have lots of new friends now which are predominately his friends and contacts.

I last saw her at the beginning of the year and have tried to arrange to meet up, suggesting dates etc and asking her to let me know when she's free as well. I'm getting nowhere. I'd try phoning but I know from personal experience that phone calls are ignored. I've been there when one of her husband's parents phoned and they just ignored the answer phone (and not just because we were there).

Although it makes me sad it also makes me angry. I don't want to be "used" but my husband tells me to keep trying and not to let a long friendship go. But what else can I do? She texts to say she'll phone - she very often doesn't. I've sent a few texts over the last week and the one I sent earlier today has been ignored and she's not responded.

AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHH :banghead::(
 
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tigerlily72 said:
I'm hoping this is the right thread to post in? Anyway, here goes . . .

My oldest and best friend just doesn't seem bothered about trying to stay in contact with me or meet up. We've been friends since secondary school so have a 25yr+ friendship. And geographically we're less than a 45 min drive from each other. It's slowly been going downhill since she got married. Prior to this we'd meet up, I'd go over to hers with my husband, we'd talk on the phone etc. Now, she hardly responds to my text messages. I personally think her husband doesn't like me/us very much. She seems to have lots of new friends now which are predominately his friends and contacts.

I last saw her at the beginning of the year and have tried to arrange to meet up, suggesting dates etc and asking her to let me know when she's free as well. I'm getting nowhere. I'd try phoning but I know from personal experience that phone calls are ignored. I've been there when one of her husband's parents phoned and they just ignored the answer phone (and not just because we were there).

Although it makes me sad it also makes me angry. I don't want to be "used" but my husband tells me to keep trying and not to let a long friendship go. But what else can I do? She texts to say she'll phone - she very often doesn't. I've sent a few texts over the last week and the one I sent earlier today has been ignored and she's not responded.

AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHH :banghead::(
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Aww, TigerLily I really feel for you! I've been in exactly this position with my (then) best friend for over 45 years. We went through everything together; marriages, divorces, and then remarriage for both of us, and we were closer than sisters. I think during that 45 years we probably spoke to each other every single day.
The problem came when her second husband - who is a massive control freak and who's fallen out with his entire family as a result - became jealous of our relationship and started limiting the times we could see one another. As part of that they moved out of the area to a place about 60 miles away.
We limped along for a few years, mainly behind his back, but she started to let me down a lot, in the ways you describe. I finally reached a point where I decided I was worth more than that, so I stopped calling her. That was five years ago. I have 3 grandchildren now that she's never seen.
Last year she called me, "just for a chat, as it's been ages". She calls now about once a month, and sometimes I call her. She's not happy in her marriage and has suggested several times that we meet up, but I'm not ready to do that - she hurt me too badly the last time - so I kind of hedge around the issue. I don't want to hurt her, but I'm **** sure she's not going to hurt me again, either.
In my experience, if you let your friend go, she WILL want to come back at some point. Whether you want her to by then, only you can say, but at least you will have taken care of yourself and your feelings.
Big hugs xxx
 
Seven months on and still no closer to what's wrong . Now Ron has to ring up hospital and chase up his test results himself. Scream ..... I could swear .
 
tigerlily72 said:
I'm hoping this is the right thread to post in? Anyway, here goes . . .

My oldest and best friend just doesn't seem bothered about trying to stay in contact with me or meet up. We've been friends since secondary school so have a 25yr+ friendship. And geographically we're less than a 45 min drive from each other. It's slowly been going downhill since she got married. Prior to this we'd meet up, I'd go over to hers with my husband, we'd talk on the phone etc. Now, she hardly responds to my text messages. I personally think her husband doesn't like me/us very much. She seems to have lots of new friends now which are predominately his friends and contacts.

I last saw her at the beginning of the year and have tried to arrange to meet up, suggesting dates etc and asking her to let me know when she's free as well. I'm getting nowhere. I'd try phoning but I know from personal experience that phone calls are ignored. I've been there when one of her husband's parents phoned and they just ignored the answer phone (and not just because we were there).

Although it makes me sad it also makes me angry. I don't want to be "used" but my husband tells me to keep trying and not to let a long friendship go. But what else can I do? She texts to say she'll phone - she very often doesn't. I've sent a few texts over the last week and the one I sent earlier today has been ignored and she's not responded.

AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHH :banghead::(
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Aw, that's so sad....I'd feel angry at him.....
I disagree with your husband, sad as it is.....to have a once close friend keep ignoring you is awful and hurtful. I'd say it's time to let go and move on....
Big hugs
 
debrasue said:
Aww, TigerLily I really feel for you! I've been in exactly this position with my (then) best friend for over 45 years. We went through everything together; marriages, divorces, and then remarriage for both of us, and we were closer than sisters. I think during that 45 years we probably spoke to each other every single day.
The problem came when her second husband - who is a massive control freak and who's fallen out with his entire family as a result - became jealous of our relationship and started limiting the times we could see one another. As part of that they moved out of the area to a place about 60 miles away.
We limped along for a few years, mainly behind his back, but she started to let me down a lot, in the ways you describe. I finally reached a point where I decided I was worth more than that, so I stopped calling her. That was five years ago. I have 3 grandchildren now that she's never seen.
Last year she called me, "just for a chat, as it's been ages". She calls now about once a month, and sometimes I call her. She's not happy in her marriage and has suggested several times that we meet up, but I'm not ready to do that - she hurt me too badly the last time - so I kind of hedge around the issue. I don't want to hurt her, but I'm **** sure she's not going to hurt me again, either.
In my experience, if you let your friend go, she WILL want to come back at some point. Whether you want her to by then, only you can say, but at least you will have taken care of yourself and your feelings.
Big hugs xxx
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Exactly.....
And I agree with you about keeping your distance with yours ....
Hugs to you too
 
debrasue said:
Aww, TigerLily I really feel for you! I've been in exactly this position with my (then) best friend for over 45 years. We went through everything together; marriages, divorces, and then remarriage for both of us, and we were closer than sisters. I think during that 45 years we probably spoke to each other every single day.
The problem came when her second husband - who is a massive control freak and who's fallen out with his entire family as a result - became jealous of our relationship and started limiting the times we could see one another. As part of that they moved out of the area to a place about 60 miles away.
We limped along for a few years, mainly behind his back, but she started to let me down a lot, in the ways you describe. I finally reached a point where I decided I was worth more than that, so I stopped calling her. That was five years ago. I have 3 grandchildren now that she's never seen.
Last year she called me, "just for a chat, as it's been ages". She calls now about once a month, and sometimes I call her. She's not happy in her marriage and has suggested several times that we meet up, but I'm not ready to do that - she hurt me too badly the last time - so I kind of hedge around the issue. I don't want to hurt her, but I'm **** sure she's not going to hurt me again, either.
In my experience, if you let your friend go, she WILL want to come back at some point. Whether you want her to by then, only you can say, but at least you will have taken care of yourself and your feelings.
Big hugs xxx
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Thank you for your heartfelt reply. It is hurtful and I feel I'm worth more, especially given the number of years I've been there for her. She had quite a few relationships in her twenties and very early thirties. She moved away from the area at one point with her then boyfriend and I was devastated at the time. It didn't work out and my husband drove all the way up north to help her out, collecting her and all her belongings.

She married in her very late thirties. I am convinced she's done this to avoid being on her own and has settled for "second best". In fact she once told my husband she didn't want to be on her own and without a partner or husband. Unfortunately for me, she is my only real friend and the person who knows me well. I'm easily hurt and despite not setting out to be, am a bit of a loner and I find it hard to make new friends.

Maybe, the more I run, the further I push her away? As hard as it's going to be I think I need to sit back now and see how long it takes her to contact or need me.
 
tigerlily72 said:
Thank you for your heartfelt reply. It is hurtful and I feel I'm worth more, especially given the number of years I've been there for her. She had quite a few relationships in her twenties and very early thirties. She moved away from the area at one point with her then boyfriend and I was devastated at the time. It didn't work out and my husband drove all the way up north to help her out, collecting her and all her belongings.

She married in her very late thirties. I am convinced she's done this to avoid being on her own and has settled for "second best". In fact she once told my husband she didn't want to be on her own and without a partner or husband. Unfortunately for me, she is my only real friend and the person who knows me well. I'm easily hurt and despite not setting out to be, am a bit of a loner and I find it hard to make new friends.

Maybe, the more I run, the further I push her away? As hard as it's going to be I think I need to sit back now and see how long it takes her to contact or need me.
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Sound like a good plan, and you have heaps of friends on here. We'll all be there for you, honey!
Big hugs xx
 
Sable_Jan said:
Aw, that's so sad....I'd feel angry at him.....
I disagree with your husband, sad as it is.....to have a once close friend keep ignoring you is awful and hurtful. I'd say it's time to let go and move on....
Big hugs
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I think I'm just going to leave it now and see if she bothers to make the effort and get in contact with me. I consider myself a loyal friend. If I say I'll phone you I do, and usually dead on the dot.

I find it difficult to form close friendships although I have quite a few "friends" at work and hopefully am liked by most of them.

I'm not a person to want or have dozens and dozens of friends but a good one or a few good ones would be nice. x
 
debrasue said:
I'm so sorry to hear this Tina. Sending you and Ron big hugs xxx
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Thanks. So frustrating. Ron had another seizure in bed last night. Explained to doctor about memory loss he agreed it could be the medication . I asked if he could reduce it on those grounds he said we could but pointed out that because of these unexplained episodes he wouldn't advise it . Ron's got to phone and chase up the EMG study results as three weeks in and not heard a thing. Ron's had a blood test to test for b12 deficiency. Doctor said we might as well do it while we're waiting . Ron also asked for all future tests and things to be transferred to Queens or city hospital doctor said yes but for now to stick with kingsmill or dead mill as I'm calling it . I came out of the surgery feeling really deflated . Next they will be wanting us to diagnose ourselves. Everytime we end up waiting for test results it's always us that has to chase them. Aaahhhh.
 
@tigerlily72
I found this on my Facebook page and it made me think of your sad situation. Have you got an FB page you could post it on.....so maybe she would see it and mayb understand
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