@Lamont D
Very pleased my response was taken so positively.
Kindest regards to you
Much in that post for the passerby to think oh dear at first glance.
However so much positive might be overlooked by that first glance through post
I just wanted to respond to say how positive it all sound, but please allow me to post such a shot reply, and mull a while
What comes to mind right now, due to my own current position.
Sidelined due to an RTA.
Back in hospital because one of the wounds became infected.
I'm left with time to think.
I can't walk or mobilise very well.
Full recovery is expected
So challenged myself to decide at each stage what success would look like .
Would day one post op be as good as any day pre RTA....of course not.
And looking back, that was the same principle once DX was given and I started LCHF.
Goal was to finally be as well as possible. Targets were to eat and enjoy in sufficient quantity AND quality while under going such a ' big' diet change.
Would it, could it .....ever be in either situation THE SAME as it was before ?
As good / easy as it was before ?
Possible, perhaps unlikely but it would be different, right ?
We'd see a cast, a crutch being used and make sensible adjustment to our own & others expectations of ourselves.
Perhaps at expected end date, we'd expect to walk unaided, traverse to toilet alone, maybe even return to work in some maybe, limited capacity.
All things we'd judge as "success" from those first lonely days when our 'incident' happened
But we'd all push on, to get better until we perhaps finally realise that today, we aren't quite as good as we were...and maybe won't be tomorrow Either.
Does that stop us being who we are
Or Who we were.
No, I say.
And why should I see mine or anyone's mental health differently, just because those 'issues'' are less easily observed if ever ?
A longer reply then expected.so apologies.
Best wishes
& Kindest regards
No need to apologise
@jjraak, I am the epitome of not doing short posts!
My best wishes to your recovery, and coincidentally I am watching an America hospital drama, with US bikers filling up the ER!
If I may, I will relate to your experience, with my old foreman who bought a bike to get him to work and back.
But after three attempts with arguing with the bend of the same stretch of road and losing every time. The last time was a leg break, dislocation of his shoulder (again) and nine months off work. He had to miss his daughters wedding, a holiday in Cyprus and a whole season of football. Oh yeah other than a few scratches the bike was fine.
Whilst in hospital, unbeknownst to him, his wife sold his bike and went to the shops and bought some furniture.
The first reading of your post highlighted by your optimism, grasping the situation and being proactive that there will be a time, when the bad days are only so often and good days are surrounded by ok days, and it's not so bad, is it?
Well, yes it is, you just can't measure how low you feel and how it's affected your state of mind and others around us, cos sometimes and only when we have the lows, your not interested in other people, you can only just about abide others.
The prospect of going out to somewhere, anywhere can be difficult, if not impossible, especially if you have experienced a bad turn, putting yourself in a packed stadia, cos you don't want covid and you are supposed to be shielding, you were a mask and you are the only one! Aaaagh!
It is sometimes really difficult to plan ahead, or be proactive or say you need a rest from everything when your life becomes your house and your life.....
Enough, now!
Sidelined by injury, football, dodgy ankles and very poor football pitches.
During my football life, I would imaine, the loneliest place for sporting elite, is the physics bed or being told you need to think about another way of earning a living! Injuries and missing games due to modern football technology and the speed of the game, the intensity, the pressure to perform and if you don't play or perform badly, get sent off, score an own goal. Some knock and strains, are common now, some injuries can be really bad.
I have had to respond cos you are responsible for the youngsters that plays for your team and first aid is a must. A couple of broken legs,one was a compound fracture, and a towel I wisely covered it with, never came back, a broken unattached ankle, the foot I held for over twenty minjtes, waiting for the ambulance, a knee cap dislocation, when just standing waiting for a free kick and no where near him. Really strange!! Blood concussion, mouth injuries, my son bit through his tongue, hanging by a thread, 26 stitches,, kept overnight in hospital to monitor any swelling, kicking a football the day after! And that was the youth! My eldest playing cricket, spent two weeks in hospital to get his jaw reset and back in place, taught him to avoid, rather than use his best feature to field.
Adults in professional footie, I have seen all manner of things, especially when the player doesn't want to miss an important game. The tricks and quick physio tricks, the supposed fitness tests, and despite all best efforts, accidents and self imposed injuries, to get out of training of games. Is prevalent.
The best tale is a player feigning injury to get a free kick or a player cautioned got told by his own physio to get up and get in the game, with lots of swearing and exasperation from the teams bench.
Just remembered, our star striker went for a meal the night before and after half time, had to run back into the changing room and the smell was something from the stomach ward, nothing could get rid of it, fresh air turned stale, spray just didn't do it and we could have done with gas masks. Still bad at full time and clothes line pegs a necessity!
In footie, you will get booked if you leave the field of play, and you remain without permission that is another booking. However, the referee despite protests from the opposition about getting the player booked, dismissed the ravings!
In my opinion, the player should have received a booking for condemning the dressing room. Wether it was lodged in my nasal passage, but by the rest of the teams reactions, it was still bad, a couple of hours later, when we left!
He certainly left his calling card that day! I still remind him!
That is the one major consideration of my mental issues, after my breakdown, the people who did the major damage to my mental illness, cannot take away the unbelievable memories of my time there and the friends I made, and respected the job I did! However, the guilt I wrongly felt, the thought that I caused my dismissal. Because I wasn't told the real reason and how I was treated, because I was just a number, and tossed aside, like land fill. My status within, was not rewarded fully for what I had to experience and obviously worked for. My contract was deliberately changed within the law to avoid a proper recompense for the number of years I contributed, and for what I was worth. An absolute disgrace.
But this is typical of British life now.
Our health workers are heroes, getting their wages in real terms cut. No workers rights and having to put up with tax rises, while the Tories party.
No contract is valid. Contempt of standards and lying and lying, and wal!owing in sleaze, while a working family queues for charity at the food bank!
Happy new poverty, mate!
Regards, tomorrow's a better day!
Always look on the bright side of life!
