I have just spent ages trying to find another source of soya margarine for Neil, with absolutely no success. The one we used to buy (Pure soya spread) was discontinued because it was no longer a viable product for the company. The next one we found was Suma and we bought a case of it and put it into the freezer, However, there are only 2 cartons of it left and now I can't find the supplier, or any other supplier. It is so frustrating. There are lots of sellers online, but they only do local deliveries and they all seem to be in the south of England. I'm sure it was Neil who found and ordered that last case, but he's sure it was me! We were only last evening having a discussion about memory. I always had an awful memory, as does No 2 son, but I always thought that Neil had a good memory. He tells me that, in common with other Asperger cases, his short term memory for facts is poor. He often disguises it by being able to work out what the memory ought to be but actual memory is not there. After the very long discussion (aka lecture by Neil - that's an Asperger's thing as well) I think that both I and No 2 son have elements of Asperger issues, but not to the same extent as Neil. Neil thinks DIL also has ADHD but is not aware of it. Certainly Em's eldest brother has it, although he is managing it pretty well now. We got into this because Em was telling me that she thinks she has ADHD and I was looking up information about that. The video I was watching was conflating ADD with ADHD, so it was probably not the best source of information. She must have heard somebody talking about ADHD and decided that she has some of the issues she heard about. But I am not happy to have her labelling herself. No 2 son tells me that they are, in fact, beginning to suspect something of the sort but she would need a diagnosis before it was taken further. It's a very complicated subject and I seem to have come across quite a few people in the last 20 or so years who should at least have been checked and could have been diagnosed with one or other of these conditions - mostly people who managed life pretty well despite, or even because of, the issues they have but who might have found it easier to achieve their potential had enough been known about the subject at the time. I think it has only really been generally known about since the 1980's. Not that teachers, or even all child psychologists knew enough about it then.