That was my experience as well, with the flu jab. Never had a painful jab before but I was pretty sure that it was the way the nurse did it that hurt and maybe bruised my arm. It went away after a day or so though, so no harm done.Actually, the first one I had 6 months ago was completely pain free. I don't think it was the vaccine itself but how the nurse injected it into my arm.
I have been told in the past that because of my skinny arms it is quite difficult to give me injections - but I have never had one where it felt the needle was drilling through the bone. It was really painful as she administered it and the pain got worse that evening.
Yes @Annb I agree that the nurse more than likely bruised my arm. It was a tiny bit sore in the morning but now it is absolutely OKThat was my experience as well, with the flu jab. Never had a painful jab before but I was pretty sure that it was the way the nurse did it that hurt and maybe bruised my arm. It went away after a day or so though, so no harm done.
I don't think on first glance that I was expecting this post.While asking questions re mums condition, an overly acute fixation with money is very common .
I did come to the conclusion it's part of the regression back to earlier times.
Perhaps when money WAS harder to find.
Best description I had is that memories are like a pile of eggs.
The disease randomly takes away some if the top row of eggs
And gradually moves on down to the next layer when layer one is depleted
Made a lot of sense why mum didn't know me or dad yet kept asking about people who had long since passed .
For mum, that was where she was in her life.
Back at 50, 40, 30, 20’s.
There is some suggestion that carers should address THAT time frame to encourage engagement .
As in discussions about items of that era, music or films.
Can't see it does any harm & likely better going with the flow than causing more confusion by constantly correcting a loved ones view of the world....
And trust me, I feel your pain, I well remember how annoying that was.
Love and best wishes to you both
Even if you're ala Gweneth @ sliding doors slightly on the time frame, you're still sharing this Xmas time together.
And sadly that's not always a given.
Seize the moments, as I know you do.
We pass this way only once.
It seems such a crude method of emojis here.I don't think on first glance that I was expecting this post.
it is like opening a letter or such and finding out that yes, I knew I was more or less right, but not as m much as was in the letter. It makes sense.
does it?
of course the interpretation can be different but it does sum it up very well @jjraak.
I thank you for the thought and the clarity.of understanding what I am going through and the ever, may I say, the silly question, that is asked.
I am gathering films and programmes that is good to watch for her. For instance....Shirley Valentine...... Scrooged...... Cool Runnings etc.
And it does divert attention from Mrs L, from the thinking about other times. Too many examples lately.
The only other critique.......
Is not so much in front of me, cos I expect it, most of the time, but in front of the kids and grandkids. I know one of my son's gets extremely upset, and he himself needs time to get through it.
but it does hurt...... In many ways.
And, cos Mrs L doesn't realise it. Mrs L is unaware of it, and would not like it, if Mrs L did.
does that make sense?
kitchen duties are shouting at me.
I thank you lot for your candour and your putting up with my blatherings.
@jjraak it is indeed so very pleasant to learn of others p!lights in this area.
And I'm still learning.
Best wishes.
It does hurt, so much, when the one you love and have spent your life with become different people. I was lucky in that both my sons understood what was happening and coped pretty well. The ones who didn't cope well were his sisters. They just couldn't understand why he had reverted to the little boy they grew up with. It was the same with my father. The one who didn't understand and was seriously hurt, was his youngest brother. We all, living with him, did understand. Tom was one of us then but we didn't think of him going the same way. Perhaps that experience helped our boys when he did. They were the rocks that I clung to. My big fear is going the same way myself.It seems such a crude method of emojis here.
What I wanted to give was an " I understand , your so right, it absolutely sucks "
A hug barely touches the sides of what you're going through ...I tip my hat to you, sir.
No one gets how heartbreaking this until they've been there.
sat in a world full of people yet still very much alone,
Sucking it up day after day, hoping tomorrow is a little better.
And even when it's not, salvaging whatever moments of joy there is, and getting back up tomorrow to do it all again....gladly .
I like the movies idea...terrific stuff.
Entertaining Mrs L on a level you know she'll appreciate ...top man.
As for family ..mmhhm
I doubt there's any way to insulate them from the hurt.
But if I may.....
They're in the pool admittedly but are able to hang on to the sides even though they might struggle occasionally.
You.... You're in the middle of the stream
Hanging onto to Mrs L, waves lashing over you both at times, trying to stop you both going over the edge of the waterfall.
With respect you don't have the time or the strength to swim over and help them, if you want to keep that grip on the rocks and a firm hold on Mrs L
They got to look after themselves for now.
Sorry if that sounds hard.
But it's the truth.
They need to see that too.
Sounds like a fun filled festive season ...Good morning everyone on a spectacularly quiet start to the day here in the dark and dangerous north. 5.4 this a.m. and we are off! We have changed a vehicle - The Girl In The Bubble’s trike cum grandad powered push chair vehicle has been outgrown so we got her fitted for a bike at the bike recycling shop on Friday. Optional extras were fitted in the form of outrigger wheels and for the princely sum of £22 was collected yesterday. It will do her for a couple of years and then we will hand it back and get a bigger one. Every penny spent twice and saving the planet at the same time. It’s challenge time - how to prepare a smashing three course Christmas lunch for 6 people using an air fryers, a slow cooker and an induction hob? Sandwiches is it then - but not just any sandwiches, Waitrose do a Christmas merry club’mas sandwich - see what they did there? We can toast them in the air fryer. Well, that was easy; prawn cocktail crisps to start, the magic toasted sarnie and a packet of Christmas pudding flavoured crisps to finish. Should be OK, we have managed with less when camping and it’s all a bit of fun. Joking aside, I need to make a plan - veg prep the day before and parboil some King Edwards - I think that they have the most fibre of the spud species. The rest is just juggling. Art bit, a lazy boat. Hope you day is a Tuesday, I shall finish my koffy and get ready for a wander into town.
As I am on my own I just make sure I have all the basic fresh foods and stuff. I don't really need any more.Good morning everyone on a very blustery day here in the dark and dangerous north. 5.5 this a.m. I have not really caught up but freely offer hugs to those who are going through difficult times. Writing things down may be of good consolation. @Lamont D the movies are a grand idea - the familiar, music from the past, photographs, familiar things. Your absolute care, love and determinism shine through. Each day, a battle won.
Girl in The Bubble has been with us for a couple of days now as her dad has some lurgie and doesn’t want the wee girl getting it. Her long covid little body is easily damaged. No idea what we, or even I are/is doing today. Supermarkets full of over the top excess stamped with use by dates that expire too early for intended useage - unless of course you are partying early. Oh well, we are content to wait until next week. Tuesday maybe and see what’s left on the shelves - roast elf perhaps. Might go for a wander into town through the woods - trees are wonderful for calming the mind. Art bit - I’m being a bit lazy at present. No mind. Hope your day is kind to you, as kind as you can make it. I best make some koffy and selfishly use my time to do a bit of reading. Video call with my mother later today.
Thank you @ianpspurs and for that reminder of the intertwining of life and art.Morning all from a drear morninged December in Suffolk. No shock just the perfect backdrop to seriously afflict any who suffer from SAD. I was unsure about the seriousness of that until I worked with someone badly affected. @dunelm thank you for sharing another wonderful piece of art, not lazy possibly just following your Muse or Yeats' Circus animals. The best I feel I can add to this thread just now is to offer sympathy and where wanted prayers for the, humility, bravery to be honest, wisdom, deep love and advice shared, however painfully, over the last two days by @jjraak @Lamont D and @Annb. Total respect to you all.
Thank you @gennepher for your kind words. Fresh food - that’s the key. I don’t think anything covered in breadcrumbs and arranged gayly in an over the top plastic box will appear on our shopping list nor maple syrup or pomegranate molasses despite what Jamie Oliver and his gargantuan chums blathers on about.As I am on my own I just make sure I have all the basic fresh foods and stuff. I don't really need any more.
It is great that you have those Woods to walk through....
Another brilliant art bit @dunelm
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