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It is a while now since I posted on here about my partner (now ex-partner) so thought a brief update was in order....
...of my choice we are now going our separate ways and I have asked him to move out....he has found a one bed apartment and will be moving out within the next couple of weeks...
....I can already see the signs that he will be on a slippery slope of rapid decline but this is not my problem anymore...I am stepping back totally and having no further contact or involvement in his life or his diabetic care...as far as I am concerned I have done what I can over the last few years but now is the time to start living my life...
..as I say the signs are there.....he has already cancelled his annual review with the diabetic nurse that he was supposed to be attending today....he has binned the appointment letter for his diabetic retinopathy screening on the 15th of this month so is clearly not intending to attend that either...
.....his meals now consist of microwave ready meals plus the usual bread, bananas, milk and porridge....this I guess will be his diet of choice when he moves out or ordering takeaways /visit to local chippy...
....a couple of days ago I noticed spots of blood on the bathroom floor....when I questioned him about this it seems that the foot problem he has of a patch of hard skin on his big toe had become sore and inflamed and was bleeding ....he hadn't even noticed until I pointed it out....he has not seen anyone with it but has done his best to cover it with a dressing (I told him to do this as didn't want blood on my carpets!)....when i asked yesterday he said his toenail was going black and that he had a split in the skin near the joint of the toe....I did my usual suggestion of saying he should get it looked at by doctor or nurse but know full well he won't and will probably leave it till his next podiatry appointment in two to three weeks time...
'....he has also for some weeks complained about back pain in the area of his kidneys but once again refuses to go to see a doctor ....just dismissing it as 'must be constipation'....
...and so the slippery slope of decline has well and truly begun....the question is not "when" but "how soon" will serious diabetic complications set in ........but now, as stated in the title, is totally out of my hands..
..as for me I couldn't be happier....I have met someone who I really love and care for and who is making my life far happier than I could ever have imagined possible....I am looking forward to a much brighter and more positive future and just can't wait to really start living life to the full again..
..I guess every cloud has a silver lining.... so my cloud of the last few years is finally lifting and I can once again see the sunshine...
...of my choice we are now going our separate ways and I have asked him to move out....he has found a one bed apartment and will be moving out within the next couple of weeks...
....I can already see the signs that he will be on a slippery slope of rapid decline but this is not my problem anymore...I am stepping back totally and having no further contact or involvement in his life or his diabetic care...as far as I am concerned I have done what I can over the last few years but now is the time to start living my life...
..as I say the signs are there.....he has already cancelled his annual review with the diabetic nurse that he was supposed to be attending today....he has binned the appointment letter for his diabetic retinopathy screening on the 15th of this month so is clearly not intending to attend that either...
.....his meals now consist of microwave ready meals plus the usual bread, bananas, milk and porridge....this I guess will be his diet of choice when he moves out or ordering takeaways /visit to local chippy...
....a couple of days ago I noticed spots of blood on the bathroom floor....when I questioned him about this it seems that the foot problem he has of a patch of hard skin on his big toe had become sore and inflamed and was bleeding ....he hadn't even noticed until I pointed it out....he has not seen anyone with it but has done his best to cover it with a dressing (I told him to do this as didn't want blood on my carpets!)....when i asked yesterday he said his toenail was going black and that he had a split in the skin near the joint of the toe....I did my usual suggestion of saying he should get it looked at by doctor or nurse but know full well he won't and will probably leave it till his next podiatry appointment in two to three weeks time...
'....he has also for some weeks complained about back pain in the area of his kidneys but once again refuses to go to see a doctor ....just dismissing it as 'must be constipation'....
...and so the slippery slope of decline has well and truly begun....the question is not "when" but "how soon" will serious diabetic complications set in ........but now, as stated in the title, is totally out of my hands..
..as for me I couldn't be happier....I have met someone who I really love and care for and who is making my life far happier than I could ever have imagined possible....I am looking forward to a much brighter and more positive future and just can't wait to really start living life to the full again..
..I guess every cloud has a silver lining.... so my cloud of the last few years is finally lifting and I can once again see the sunshine...