Hi
@EdieLou , I would definitely second the suggestion made above of flash glucose monitoring/CGM as a way to increase testing. By the sounds of it, I'm about the same age as your daughter now, and was not that much older than her when I was diagnosed. I've had a Freestyle Libre for about three weeks now, and I'm actually testing properly again, for the first time in so, so long. The novelty of it helps, but also how easy it is. It's not perfect, of course, but it is something, so at least I have an idea. I've never really wanted to test when I know my sugars are high because I don't want to know, but because FL involves less 'conscious thought' in doing it, I test a lot more, and if there does come a time where I get resistant to testing again, boyfriend can grab hold of me and just swipe my arm with my phone.
I really identify with what your daughter is going through right now. It was less extreme, but I had a similarly bad patch about a year and a half ago, where I was totally off the rails with it, and overdosed on insulin as well as not taking any for long periods. Your daughter is lucky to have such a supportive, caring parent as you, and I know it is difficult to see any positives in this situation, but at least with her being fairly close you still have some idea of what is going on.
Feel free to drop me a PM if you'd like to chat further, or if you could encourage your daughter to join up, I would be happy to talk to her as well. It's made a real difference for me being here. I sometimes feel that Diabetes is a really lonely disease, because you can't 'see' it, so even if you do know someone else that has it you might not be aware of it. It's nice to know that you are not alone.
Sending hugs and good wishes your way