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Living with non-diabetics

I think you have to reassure your partner that she is entitled to eat what appeals to her and that you genuinely do not wish to stifle her choices. The thing is that you may naturally over scrutinise her choices, this can be really difficult on both sides. Keep talking and everything will be fine.
 
My husband is the evening meal cook in our house, and I am the diabetic. He knows exactly what I can or can't have and he accommodates me perfectly. We mostly have the same meal but he will have some carby additions to his. He has given up on some things but has never grumbled.

He still eats white bread and white toast. I have Lidl rolls. Initially, and for maybe a year, he continued to eat low fat spreads and I had butter. He has now discarded his spreads. He has a high fibre cereal with milk in the mornings for breakfast. I have a boiled egg and coffee with cream. He occasionally has bacon butties for lunch. I have egg mayo or tinned salmon with cherry toms etc. He always has a dessert of some sort. (shop bought) I have nothing. He has yorkies on his Sunday roast. I don't. It has never been a problem and I don't feel guilty, nor do I drool over his choices.. I don't even notice what he's eating.
 
At home it is just me & my 5 year old. She doesn't go without and we eat the same for many meals. In fact she is pretty good at policing me and we cook together a lot.

My boyfriend is also very supportive. If he wants high carb stuff he eats it, I don't mind, but when we are together we often share meals. He likes making sure when we go out there is plenty for me to choose from.
 
I'm the only diabetic in our household of 6. I eat LCHF, the OH eats low fat, 2 teenagers and 2 pre schoolers. It's a bit of a headache sometimes because everyone likes to eat differently but at the end of the day I wouldn't want to eat stuff I don't like so I don't complain, if they still like to eat carby food it's up to me to be strong.
 
I would have thought that most diabetics live within a house full of non diabetics, I have a wife and two young adults still living at home and the cupboards are full of crisps and biscuits but I dont generally indulge, its called self control.

I wouldnt dream of telling my wife and children that they should eat as I do, there is no reason why they should and I am am not selfish enough to believe they should either.

If I were vegetarian should I tell everyone else that they should be too? Its all about personal choices for me, I eat what I want to eat and they eat what they want to eat, we dont have different meals I just put fewer carbs on my plate than they do, live and let live.
 
Sid Bonkers said:
If I were vegetarian should I tell everyone else that they should be too? Its all about personal choices for me, I eat what I want to eat and they eat what they want to eat, we dont have different meals I just put fewer carbs on my plate than they do, live and let live.
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I am vegetarian, and don't eat out .. because cannot eat food round the smell of dead animals .. We are all different and need to find the path that we find the best for us
 
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smithjohns said:
Yes I can elaborate a bit. My partner is beginning to complain that she is missing out on the stuff she used to enjoy, and it is making me feel guilty and uncomfortable.
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I would listen carefully to this complaint as it can start to build significant resentment. There is no reason why your partner cannot eat whatever she chooses to eat. In fact once your partner has raised this you would do well to sit with her and have a very detailed discussion that should include your own insecurities around food and your own will power around high carb foods. If you are fine around potatoes cake or whatever she feels she is missing out on then let her know so she can indulge without guilt. If however you feel you will partake if said food is about then she needs to know. Bottom line is you need to involve your partner in your decision making process so you can both meet somewhere in the middle. There is an answer to this situation but it can only be gained by talking to each other in a very honest fashion. Good luck.
 
In our house hubby has his rice and noodles and takeaways whenever he wants although he has stopped having potatoes for the most part. If takeaways I have my own go to meals and he has whatever he wants. When we cook (we both do) he usually chooses to eat what I have ( he thinks its nicer) but I have never not cooked roast potatoes if he wanted them.. I just don't have them. There really isn't any need to restrict what your partner eats so long as you can resist. I much prefer sight and toes to carbs.
 
My daugther does most of the cooking and gets money for doing so... she is a vegetarian and I am fine with that, but also demand that she doesn´t put too much carb in my part of the foods and also do take into acount that I am low calories... but besides that she can eat and drink almost what she wants luckily she is rather healthy foodwise, but I am happy she has also started doing fitness as she do eat a lot of sweets and chips too, still being slim and good looking, but one can get this thin-fat kind of unhealthy inside if not doing any kind of sports or movements at all..

I think it is unfair to demand that the surrounding people live like diabetics foodwise... I would not have accepted that myself when not being diabetic.. I know and I see it as my special condition and I also do make potatoes for my guests if I serve a steak sometimes besides the salat for us all, and also do buy or make treats for my guests too.. if I invite peopple here... It doesn´t bother me much ... maybe we are all different in that matter... ....
 
smithjohns said:
Yes I can elaborate a bit. My partner is beginning to complain that she is missing out on the stuff she used to enjoy, and it is making me feel guilty and uncomfortable.
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There is no reason why she cannot eat what she wants. My husband is non diabetic and when I cook a meal I have more meat and veggies and he has more potatoes; he has cereals for b/fast I have Greek yoghurt and berries; there are still crisps and biscuits in the cupboard because that's what he likes to snack on. It's all about compromise.
 
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