keto is great but for some people it’s just too much, too soon. Everything to lower carbs though is beneficial even if you take it step by step. Though for me personally I struggle with “just a little bit” and find all or nothing easier.
you don’t have to buy almond flour or any of the other “replacements”. They can be useful to keep you on track but really it’s about changing how you view what is normal to eat. You don’t have to have a “bread” on your plate. It might be more meat or veg for example. Or using cauliflower rice instead of the real thing. That all said almond and coconut flours are more expensive but you also use less by weight per recipe than normal flour. Online retails can be useful for bulk buying at better prices. ( ie use the real food source and amazon a lot) Again you don’t have to fill up on cheese or any one item unless you want to. Your dad is lucky. My numbers would be way too high on that diet. But we are all individual and that’s why we test to see what works for us. Again what are ok numbers in your book?
You mention oil for cooking . Processed seed and vegetable oils are terrible. Stick with natural fats. Ghee is great, butter, meat fats, olive oil Etc.
What is your husband’s attitude to these changes? It’s all very well him being put on this way of eating by you but he has to stay with it. It has to be sustainable and life long not a fad diet. All the problems will return if he goes back to eating the current way. If you have a history of diabetes in your family it is worth considering if it is beneficial for you to at least partly follow a lower carb way of eating as a preventative measure and for simplicity in the kitchen. My families carbs are on the side” a lot of the time, whereas not required or even missed anymore on my plate.
I am definitely going to start using another oil that's the first step I think. Yes keto does scare us both but I have asked him to at least try some of the things to try to go...lower carb then now and he has agreed to it. So hopefully he will like some of the things and then we can switch over to it completely in the next few months.
For now he wants to control his portion size. He is measuring the rice and stuff eats and really trying to reduce his portion size and calorie intake.
Also I was telling him about this thread and how people said that he shouldn't have any fruits except for berries and he mentioned that a while back (before corona virus) he met with a diabetic nurse in a group and she said that you can eat any fruit so long as it fits in the palm of your hand??? But people here have said to completely avoid everything except berries. So...what is right?
His attitude is that he really wants to lose weight and reduce carbs but is afraid of jumping into keto so we are going to gradually introduce keto dishes and see if he can eat them no problem while reducing portion size and lowering carb intake and eating salad.