Catriona, if you had been told you had some form of food sensitivity which meant you had to modify your diet, to feel better, would you have handled it differently? I'm absolutely not a believer in labels, and fine the diabetes labels is something many people, including ourselves, associate with fear and negativity.
There are many, many other conditions that require a lifelong change of some sort, but I accept what we eat, and the social aspects of that are quite fundamental to how we live, and, to a lesser extent, how we interact with others.
I was diagnosed in October, and have modified my diet, based on what made my sugars bounce, and have achieved great results so far. I was diagnosed just a couple of weeks before embarking on a very long foreign trip, so I just had to get my act together, pronto. I spent a lot of time reading, and thinking about how I could take control of this thing. For me, pro activity is the key.
I wouldn't tell you to get a grip, because I understand that's extremely unhelpful when you feel so low, but you must try to find a way forward for yourself. Once you have been without sweet things for just a few days, your cravings are likely to reduce. For someone who can't handle sugars too well, eating sugars is almost like an addict feeding their addiction. It's a cycle we need to break.
Stick with us here. We all have a story which is a variation on a theme to everyone else's, so we can relate to you. Sometimes life stinks, but I can honestly say that 5 months in, I have a great diet. I am ultra slim, and I feel fantastic. I have a bit of an ongoing craving for a chocolate eclair, but, thus far, I'm able to push it to one side.
Ditch the labels, and get into the next phase of your life. Life's too short to waste it railing against something we can't change.