Thank you both for being the voice of reason xx As I said, I am so confused with it all that, yes, I do tend to push the panic button. It really doesn't help when you look up things on the internet and they make you panic saying that you need to seek medical help immediately or go to Accident and Emergency! My GP does have emergency appointments but they insist that they are for 111 referrals and they won't budge on that which just puts more strain on 111. I am in such a heightened state or worry and panic lately that I can't seem to calm down and as you say, it's making things worse. My GP did prescribe me some Diazepam when I was not sleeping or eating just after my partner died but I only took it when I was feeling extremely anxious and I'm not sure whether I can take it now or not. I think I do need calming down xx
Do consider talking to someone, whether at CRUSE (
https://www.cruse.org.uk/ ), or via your GP.
As I said, I used a counsellor after Mum passed away. It just helped to say all the things in my head, but not to someone going through their own version of grief, or who is too close. We don't want to worry or over burden those close to us, but sometimes we need to lean without fear the person we are leaning on will topple themselves.
One day at a time, but losing the acuteness of that panic attack is important. Living on the edge is no way to live long term.
These are horribly tough days, copey, but they will pass.