I hate what the insulin does
If you don't mind sharing, what does insulin do that you hate?
I understand being angry and resentful at a chronic illness. I have several, and it makes you feel weak and stripped of your power - you didn't choose these things, they just
happened, and there's often no real reason why other than you got dealt a bad card. Things like withholding insulin injections, frivolous spending of money, reckless activities and so forth can make you feel like you're in control again because 'you're living on your own terms'.
The issue with this is that you end up spiraling out of control with it. You stop being in charge at some point and it overtakes you, and then you'll be off even worse. And as you say, it just makes you feel poorly because your body is not meant to go without insulin, which makes it even harder to pick up the reigns and get back in the saddle.
Remember: the suggested range of 5-7 is a
suggestion - strive for it because being at these levels makes you feel good, not because some dude in a white coat tells you to. You can even start higher for now. Just be anywhere between 5-10 for the time being until you've gotten more used to it. It helped me a lot to tackle this in steps. I started with trying to stay below 10, then as that was stable I moved on to trying to get it below 8. Now I set my goal between 5-7 and that's where I am most days.
There will be bad days, weeks, sometimes months - and that's
perfectly okay. There's not a single human being on the planet whose vitals and bloodwork are perfect every second of their life. Right now I'm in an extreme period of stress and my values are going all over the place. That is not my fault though, this is because of stress. I do what I can. I recognize that I will have increased values until my source of stress is reduced or removed, and I am
totally okay with it. I'm only human, I only have so many resources. Doing what I can is the most I can ask of myself.
@catapillar is absolutely right. Learn everything you can about diabetes, listen to your body, understand what's happening. Nothing has made me feel more in control over my illnesses than knowing as much as I can about it. I know more about myself than any doctor possibly can. If I hadn't known stress was such a big factor in my management, I would feel awful all the time for 'failing myself'. Now I understand I'm not. And that kind of power and control is better than any missed injection can provide.
Whenever I struggle, I remind myself of Captain Picard's words of wisdom:
Furthermore, don't be afraid to seek mental health counseling. Therapy can be a tremendous help by giving you tools to get your control back and to reconcile with your body and physical health. My only regret is that I was diagnosed pretty late at 25 years old, when I had been struggling since I was 15. Therapy is not shameful, or makes you weak - asking for help and working on yourself takes immense strength, strength which you've shown by reaching out to us. You can absolutely take your life back and be happy and healthy in doing so. I know where you're at right now, things feel horribly frustrating and useless, but I assure you that it's within your power to make positive changes.