Hi
I'm sorry to read about your girlfriend.
I've read your posts for a while, I am not medically qualified in any way But it would seem that food as a massive hold on you that you cant seem to get a grip on
I wonder if you need some help or counselling from something like over-eaters anonymous to help you get a better relationship with food and how it is affecting your health
I wish I could read that you have found something that works for you, way of eating that makes you feel better
Cara
I have tried counselling at my uni and joined a healthy living programme. The counselling gave me a list of do's and don'ts which I have been following most of the time which are:
DO
Focus on the positive aspects of your life now and in the future
Do things that make you feel good that don't involve food - if you can't identify anything think about hobbies you used to enjoy or take the opportunity to try some new things
If anxious thoughts affect your eating try not to resist these thoughts. Anxiety is unpleasant but it by itself it won't harm you. Allow the thoughts to come - this way you can begin to take control over them. You can find more information about overcoming anxiety here
Remember that there is a clear link between food and mood. Eating too little or too much will make you feel worse, which will in turn affect your eating and so on
Take small steps take towards a healthier way of eating. For example, if you can't face eating breakfast, try sitting at the table for a few minutes at breakfast time and just drinking a glass of water. When you have got used to doing this, have just a little to eat, even half a slice of toast
Be honest with yourself and with others about how much you are eating
Remind yourself that you don't always have to be achieving things - let yourself off the hook sometimes.
Make sure you know what a reasonable weight is for you, and that you understand why.
Read stories of other people's experiences of recovery. You can find these in self-help books or on the internet.
DON'T
Don't weigh yourself more than once a week.
Don't spend time checking your body and looking at yourself in the mirror. Nobody is perfect. The longer you look at yourself, the more likely you are to find something you don't like. Constant checking can make the most attractive person unhappy with the way they look.
Don't cut yourself off from family and friends. You may want to because they think you are too thin, but they can be a lifeline.
Visit websites that encourage you to lose weight and stay at a very low body weight. They encourage you to damage your health, but won't do anything to help when you fall ill.
