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This is depression talking. There are many perfectly healthy T1s on here who've been T1 for 40 years or more
In my experience LIFE finds a way.In fact IMO part of why it is becoming more common is because t1s are told now they can have children whereas they probably either didn't have them or didn't live long enough to have them in previous years.
So the genes are getting more common and will continue to do so as long as people with t1 have children.
Again, putting things into perspective and from one who had Type one throughout childhood at the age of 11 months, I shall leave the ending of my book Fifty Years of Malfunction. I hope your children would feel much the same as I did at the age of 55 when I wrote this to my father, as it turned out 6 months before he died:Yes I hugely regret my kids. I was told about 1 in100 risk given my own circumstances (age on diagnosis, age when had children) but no one seemed to take into account I am second generation t1. Turns out it lots higher. Maybe as much as 50%. So there's a good chance I've ruined their lives too. They'd have been better off not being born and given the time again I absolutely wouldn't be so selfish as to have them so I can see why you feel as you do. I always wanted children so I'd had been very sad not to have any but I can see now how selfish that was of me and ultimately if either of them are diagnosed that will be much much worse than not having had them in the first place.
NoKindOfSusie, I'm sorry that lantus doesn't agree with you and your diabetic clinic is being useless. (I guess I've been luckier with my doctors). Have you told them what you feel about lantus and asked to be put onto a different long acting insulin? (Or long term, when you're stabilised, a pump?)
one who had Type one throughout childhood at the age of 11 months
But how would you have felt if either of your children had been diagnosed? I think that would have changed your outlook.NoKindOfSusie and ExtremelyWOrried, I feel very sad reading about the black dogs that are sitting on you both.
ExtremelyWOrried, have you been on a Dafne course (or whatever it's called where you live) or looked at Bertie online? Food can be enjoyable, you can take charge of it, not it of you.
NoKindOfSusie, there are alternatives to Lantus - it doesn't suit everyone. Time to find a doctor who'll explore them with you.
I may be out of order here but you've both given yourselves victim status. Not good.
Sure, we can all have times when T1 really gets us down - I'm just emerging from what seems to be a long sequence of 'bugs' that've altered insulin needs and the fight to overcome this has been tough so I too have ranted and raved and had to forego meals and wake frequently to test. Luckily my friends are still speaking to me despite a period when the T1 was much too important for fun.
But - a big but - knowing life can also be good kicks victimhood out of the room.
What do you enjoy? There must be something? How will you make sure T1 enjoys it too?
I've had it for 48 years now. I'm in my 69th year and have already let my two lovely daughters (neither of them has T1 and both have successful careers, have travelled, are funny, naughty, wise, energetic) know what I want to do for my 70th. We'll hire a barge and go down a beautiful canal and even if we steer it into the bank and all fall in the water it'll be fun. Luckily my two small grandsons can swim.
What I'm trying to say is that T1's not, in itself, a reason to be gloomy.
Please seek help. Please look at what you can do to change the way things are for you both right now, even if it's just small things to begin with.
Modern medicine's given you life. Please don't give up, please seek help. And a hug for each of you too xxx
Not really!!Well that makes it a bit easier doesn't it.
But how would you have felt if either of your children had been diagnosed? I think that would have changed your outlook.
Perhaps I do feel like I'm a victim, I certainly felt that last night when looking on FB at photos of people who used to be friends going out and enjoying themselves. Meals, drinks, parties. I went to bed early having eaten nothing because I can't eat anything anymore, then had to wake and set my alarm every hour and a half to check my blood sugars.
How lovely it must be to just want to do something and do it. By the time I've considered an invitation for something and worried about the possible outcomes I usually decide not to go. People don't bother asking me to do anything anymore because they know I will say no - although I don't cite my diabetes as the reason.
I hated my lantus as well, although it didn't bother me as much as it does you, so I simply asked to switch to another long-acting. I'm happy with tresiba.Lantus is horrible chemical poison that makes me feel like lying in bed all day,