any one has an answers how to get you your libido back.i know people do not talk about it as as it is a tabbo subject and private.but if you have had a healthy sex drive and it is going down the pan you feel very frustrated. :?
diabetes low libido
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Maybe this thread will answer some of your questions ,Moggy.
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LittleGreyCat
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Diet drinks - the artificial sweeteners taste vile.
Having to forswear foods I have loved all my life.
Trying to find low carb meals when eating out.
If I understand it correctly:
Low libido means that you can have sex if you want to but you usually don't want to.
Erectile dysfunction means that you want to have sex but you can't.
The thread pointed to above covers several topics, including mentioning the male andropause and low testosterone levels.
My libido has gone right down hill in the last two years (diagnosed T2 a year last March).
I know it is not erectile dysfunction because on the occasional morning I wake up with a full bladder, pressure on my prostate, and conseqently an erection.
Basically, if I feel the urge for sex I can achieve and maintain an erection, but I almost never feel the urge for sex.
I am 59 this month so would expect some reduction in sex drive with advancing age but the reduction has been very dramatic.
I suspect that I may have low testosterone levels; previously when I have increased my exercise levels I have had an increase in my sex drive but this time although I am now ramping up my running with a target of a half marathon in October I am not seeing a matching increase in sex drive (so far).
In the ED thread one poster said that he had been prescribed testosterone gel and this had made a great difference; I might try some of that myself and see what happens ;-)
Cheers
LGC
Low libido means that you can have sex if you want to but you usually don't want to.
Erectile dysfunction means that you want to have sex but you can't.
The thread pointed to above covers several topics, including mentioning the male andropause and low testosterone levels.
My libido has gone right down hill in the last two years (diagnosed T2 a year last March).
I know it is not erectile dysfunction because on the occasional morning I wake up with a full bladder, pressure on my prostate, and conseqently an erection.
Basically, if I feel the urge for sex I can achieve and maintain an erection, but I almost never feel the urge for sex.
I am 59 this month so would expect some reduction in sex drive with advancing age but the reduction has been very dramatic.
I suspect that I may have low testosterone levels; previously when I have increased my exercise levels I have had an increase in my sex drive but this time although I am now ramping up my running with a target of a half marathon in October I am not seeing a matching increase in sex drive (so far).
In the ED thread one poster said that he had been prescribed testosterone gel and this had made a great difference; I might try some of that myself and see what happens ;-)
Cheers
LGC
smillingjimmyc
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You do understand it correctly and be happy it is low libido not the other way around.I suffer with ed but not sure whether it is meds (blood pressure) or diabetes. Doc suggested it was diabetes but as I had always been told I had good control i thought it must be low libido or another problem however I was given cialis and now there is no keeping me down :wink:
LittleGreyCat
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- Type of diabetes
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- Tablets (oral)
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Diet drinks - the artificial sweeteners taste vile.
Having to forswear foods I have loved all my life.
Trying to find low carb meals when eating out.
Interesting thought, if you have low libido and are given cialis do you end up wth a stiffy but no real urge to do anything with it? :lol:
smillingjimmyc
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Afraid not!! For cialis or the like to work there must still be sexual stimulation. In other words you must have the "urge" before the stiffy :lol:
Sex is nice and pleasure is good for you, but it gets treated as a joke because people are embarassed to talk about it, even in long term relationships.
This means that very many people don't actually have the kind of sex and intimacy that they really want. And when it comes to trying to negotiate with your partner to get the kind of intimacy you want, people get tongue-tired and awkward, especially women, because nice girls don't ask. Although how anyone can possibly bring pleasure to a partner without knowing what turns them on is beyond me. Hardly surprising that the libido hits rock bottom.
The biggest erogenous zone you have is in the space between your ears, if someone can't stimulate that part for me it really isn't going to go anywhere else. There is so much more to intimacy and a healthy sex life than penetrative sex, which is where many discussions seem to start and end, often with bruised egos.
Now, while there can be huge thrill to an illicit quicky, I'd say most of us would like to spend a bit more time. I think you need a running buffet attitude rather than a fast food approach to good sex.
Add to the embarassment some of the problems you get with diabetes, especially if blood sugar is running high and you are fatigues and fuzzy headed or you have the longer term problems with erectile dysfunction or the risk of hypos if you are on insulin... bit of a minefield :? :shock:
Libido can be affected by many different things. Are you depressed? Do you and your partner get any real time together or are you just snatching a few moments here and there? Everyday pressures and strains can put a real downer on our sex drives that become more pronounced as we get older. See if spending some quality time together just being with each other helps.
If I could, I would like to share my exepriance - it may help.
My partner has T1 which didn't bother me when we met, I adjusted to accomodate his eating requirements, mood swings etc, the only problem was the sex (or lack of) side of things.
It's taken us a while, about 2 years of arguing and frustration (on both parts), but now we seem ok.
His sex drive has improved beyond belief (from once every couple of months to 2/3 times a week) , by us speaking about the problem, being very open about how we both feel, and trial and error we have found out what helps to 'flick his switch'. This has made him less stressed, we now have no rows (well, not about that anyway!!) and are both much happier, and have a great & varied sex life aswell.
So do not despair, honesty is best policy (cut the macho BS) and a open mind to new things.
Good luck
My partner has T1 which didn't bother me when we met, I adjusted to accomodate his eating requirements, mood swings etc, the only problem was the sex (or lack of) side of things.
It's taken us a while, about 2 years of arguing and frustration (on both parts), but now we seem ok.
His sex drive has improved beyond belief (from once every couple of months to 2/3 times a week) , by us speaking about the problem, being very open about how we both feel, and trial and error we have found out what helps to 'flick his switch'. This has made him less stressed, we now have no rows (well, not about that anyway!!) and are both much happier, and have a great & varied sex life aswell.
So do not despair, honesty is best policy (cut the macho BS) and a open mind to new things.
Good luck
This is the first time I have posted but this subject has got me so 'very frustrated' (pardon the pun)
I was diagnosed about 18 months ago at teh age of 48 and have seen a steady decline in my libido, this could be a little chicken and egg thing as I am anxious about ED too, when the mood gets going there is no stopping me but the time between is drifting longer and longer, much to mine and my partners frustration although she is incredibly tollerant.
So is the low libido due to worry about ED or does ED match your libido? :shock:
Any suggestions as to how anyone has got around this would be much appreciated.
John
I was diagnosed about 18 months ago at teh age of 48 and have seen a steady decline in my libido, this could be a little chicken and egg thing as I am anxious about ED too, when the mood gets going there is no stopping me but the time between is drifting longer and longer, much to mine and my partners frustration although she is incredibly tollerant.
So is the low libido due to worry about ED or does ED match your libido? :shock:
Any suggestions as to how anyone has got around this would be much appreciated.
John
Speaking as a female, loss of libido is a complete bummer. I do have a lovely husband who has NP in that area but unfortunately because it gives him pleasure and is a real turn-on for him, he does not seem able (whether by poor original design or training/experience) to appreciate that it is perfectly possible for me, to do the deed with enjoyment without actually having several orgasms. This makes the pressure on me to perform even greater and (I'm sure!!) makes the outcome even less likely.
Yes, you do have to talk. Sometimes quite a lot. Sometimes you have to say the same things over and over. As long as you don't argue about it!!!
Depression - now that's another story. When you already have depression/anxiety, GP's will tell you that's why you have lost your libido. Well - it sure doesn't help that's true. But when they dismiss loss of libido and seem to think 'that's solved' is where you and I start to lose our tempers, get even more depressed/anxious etc etc etc. The other thing that doesn't help is that some anti-depressive drugs absolutely KILL libido; it is more documented for men (because it's easier to measure) but I know very well that at least one very, very common drug actually lists loss of female libido as a side-effect in the leaflet in the pack.
The key (as far as I've been able to work out!) is a combination of feeling at one with myself and the world and feeling very relaxed before I even contemplate sex. Things which don't happen very often simultaneously.
Once I have a spark, I very often need to conjure up something I think is very sexy AT THAT MOMENT to keep me going, then I do reach the automatic phase and don't have to think any more. Men don't have much imagination in these things. Seem to think that cos you once told em you had an image of a fireman or a VWE male (or whatever it was at that moment) - then that image is always going to do it for you, I often shout, 'Shuttup!!", in fact - and he does what he's told and doesn't take offence but keeps on with whatever is happening physically. But understand it? - no.
I mean if I knew what it was that would always do it for me, then 'twould be easy, wouldn't it?
I remember being totally and utterly gobsmacked to read that men (generally) think of sex - in one form or another - multiple times daily. I forget how many times they said, but it was a ridiculously huge amount of times. Every so many seconds.
Now, I can't understand that !!!!
Yes, you do have to talk. Sometimes quite a lot. Sometimes you have to say the same things over and over. As long as you don't argue about it!!!
Depression - now that's another story. When you already have depression/anxiety, GP's will tell you that's why you have lost your libido. Well - it sure doesn't help that's true. But when they dismiss loss of libido and seem to think 'that's solved' is where you and I start to lose our tempers, get even more depressed/anxious etc etc etc. The other thing that doesn't help is that some anti-depressive drugs absolutely KILL libido; it is more documented for men (because it's easier to measure) but I know very well that at least one very, very common drug actually lists loss of female libido as a side-effect in the leaflet in the pack.
The key (as far as I've been able to work out!) is a combination of feeling at one with myself and the world and feeling very relaxed before I even contemplate sex. Things which don't happen very often simultaneously.
Once I have a spark, I very often need to conjure up something I think is very sexy AT THAT MOMENT to keep me going, then I do reach the automatic phase and don't have to think any more. Men don't have much imagination in these things. Seem to think that cos you once told em you had an image of a fireman or a VWE male (or whatever it was at that moment) - then that image is always going to do it for you, I often shout, 'Shuttup!!", in fact - and he does what he's told and doesn't take offence but keeps on with whatever is happening physically. But understand it? - no.
I mean if I knew what it was that would always do it for me, then 'twould be easy, wouldn't it?
I remember being totally and utterly gobsmacked to read that men (generally) think of sex - in one form or another - multiple times daily. I forget how many times they said, but it was a ridiculously huge amount of times. Every so many seconds.
Now, I can't understand that !!!!
I have T2 and ED. I have tried tablets and insertion cream to no effect. I still get the yearning, but that's as far as I can go. I've considered inplants, but need to lose some weight first and then they will probably tell me 73 is to old.
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I am 10 years younger than you and suffering from the same problem - I have always had a high sex drive and sex is still in my thoughts - I am also lucky to have a wonderful and very understanding young partner - however over the last year or so my physical ability has dropped dramatically - I can still get erections and still orgasm but only with a lot of direct stimulation and never good enough to achieve any kind of penetration - have tried ciallis which helped until recently - I am sad for my partner and sad for myself because I always felt I would be sexually active until they put me in a box - the interest and love is still there but......
Hi gbswales/Garfield.
Have you seen your GP and discussed this ? Many years ago I had the same problem and was given Viagra....did nothing at all. Then they put me on a course of Testosterone injections. What a difference that made. Haven't looked back since. I'm 61 now.
There are many things that can now be done for this complaint. You can even get injections into the penis which sound painful but are not and by heck....it doesn't half work well.
See your GP and get a referral and some good treatment.
Have you seen your GP and discussed this ? Many years ago I had the same problem and was given Viagra....did nothing at all. Then they put me on a course of Testosterone injections. What a difference that made. Haven't looked back since. I'm 61 now.
There are many things that can now be done for this complaint. You can even get injections into the penis which sound painful but are not and by heck....it doesn't half work well.
See your GP and get a referral and some good treatment.
At the start of this post on lost libido I thought it was only younger men who were bothered by this problem, and rightly so.
I am of the older age group like tha last few posts am T2 diabetic and suffer from both ED and lost libido I also have the usual old mans problem of an enlarged prostrate. My ED problems began before Viagra came onto the scene, it must be more than 10 years ago, my libido was quite normal for my age then in my late 60's. My GP tried me on monthly testosterone injections for three months it helped a little, but by no way a full errection. We struggled on, and at that time my wife was not much bothered.
Eventualy about three years ago I was diagnosed as type 2 diabetic and until recently controled it by diet, I am now on Metformin.Since diagnosis my GP has prescribed both Viagra and the other type. For a while it helped and suddenly my wife's libido increased considerably, now my ED is total, my sex drive is non existant and ejectulation has ceased. I have got to the stage that it no longer bothers me but I feel sad that I let my wife down, I know there are other ways for her, but personal intimacy is lost. I just wonder if there is a single cause for my problem,
I had a vasectomy in my late 40,s and at that time with the fear of pregnancy gone we had a wonderful sex life, So is it Diabetes, Enlarged prostrate, or the effects of the clip, I certainly do not get stressed about the problem, just sad
I am of the older age group like tha last few posts am T2 diabetic and suffer from both ED and lost libido I also have the usual old mans problem of an enlarged prostrate. My ED problems began before Viagra came onto the scene, it must be more than 10 years ago, my libido was quite normal for my age then in my late 60's. My GP tried me on monthly testosterone injections for three months it helped a little, but by no way a full errection. We struggled on, and at that time my wife was not much bothered.
Eventualy about three years ago I was diagnosed as type 2 diabetic and until recently controled it by diet, I am now on Metformin.Since diagnosis my GP has prescribed both Viagra and the other type. For a while it helped and suddenly my wife's libido increased considerably, now my ED is total, my sex drive is non existant and ejectulation has ceased. I have got to the stage that it no longer bothers me but I feel sad that I let my wife down, I know there are other ways for her, but personal intimacy is lost. I just wonder if there is a single cause for my problem,
I had a vasectomy in my late 40,s and at that time with the fear of pregnancy gone we had a wonderful sex life, So is it Diabetes, Enlarged prostrate, or the effects of the clip, I certainly do not get stressed about the problem, just sad
