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Feeling annoyed

RosieDred

RosieDred

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Location
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Type of diabetes
Type 1
Treatment type
Insulin
Was watching a film with my partner last night and I was falling asleep (had been in work until 8pm and my sugars had been up and down all day) so I went up to bed. Checked my bg levels and they were 5.6 (was 2 hours after eating). Went back downstairs and had 2 crackers. Half an hour later I went to go to bed again so rechecked and was 3.9. At this point I was completely exhausted and just wanted to sleep so had some jelly babies and a biscuit just in case and went to bed. Again.

All the while my partner is annoyed because, as he put it, "once again we get a night to ourselves and you're tired or ill so we can't enjoy it and watch a film" (my 12 year old sister lives with us and was staying out overnight). Not only that he went in to say he's "come to expect it".

I was exhausted and desperate to go to bed twice after a really busy day and a day of unpredictable bg levels. My gums are swollen, I have a fair few mouth ulcers that are getting bigger everyday and was in a lot of pain. I was at 3.9 before bed, which worried me. I was already feeling emotional at that point and he thinks that's a good time to tell me he now expects to be disappointed by me these days.

Sorry for whining so much, I'm just still feeling a bit bummed out this morning and needed to get it off my chest.


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It's not your fault you are tired, it's not your fault you have t1 it's unfortunate about your partners ignorance about your condition. It sounds like your partner needs to be educated in the effects of diabetes


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I totally see where u are coming from, none of this is your fault at all so you must not beat yourself up about it, due to other silent illnesses i know what u mean as i too get peoples opinions that are totally wrong, my ex was the same over my diabetes hence why he is my ex , we are all here for you whenever u need to have a rant (((hugs)))
 
He's usually pretty good but he does need to know more about it. I try telling him but I think he's scared about the future so doesn't really retain anything I say about it.

I was just upset that I really needed a bit of comfort last night as I was feeling so rough and instead he made me feel bad. He said he knows I can't help it but I wish he didn't have to make it so obvious he was annoyed about the situation as I didn't need to feel guilt on top of everything else.


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Some men are so selfish and just dont think. You deserve a big hug, working hard, not feeling well, keeping checks on your diabetes, all that. X


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I can understand the frustration both ways. It sounds like you are a bit run down with gum problems and I guess doing a job full-time isn't a an easy choice. Overall is your insulin under reasonable control? You mentioned that your sugars had been going up and down all day? Is that because of disrupted and snacking-type meals during work? I assume you are on Basal/Bolus and carb-counting?
 
Daibell said:
I can understand the frustration both ways. It sounds like you are a bit run down with gum problems and I guess doing a job full-time isn't a an easy choice. Overall is your insulin under reasonable control? You mentioned that your sugars had been going up and down all day? Is that because of disrupted and snacking-type meals during work? I assume you are on Basal/Bolus and carb-counting?
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Hi, I can understand his frustration too and as I said, he's usually pretty good and has actually been very understanding since I was diagnosed (I expect I've been particularly difficult to live with).

I am on basal/bolus and have been carb counting for about a month maybe. My ratios changed after getting ill though and am struggling with my levels steadily increasing throughout the day. So frustrating has before I got ill they were good.

Also struggling to stay motivated for longer than a few days. So I start a week off positive and doing well and then by the end of the week I feel down again and eat ****. Hence the bad numbers.




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I can relate to this, although I am a man............:)

you have every right to be annoyed, and I suppose I can see why he might be feeling annoyed also, but if you love each other it will all be good......

times like these are bound to happen, it sure has with me anyway....

just have a chat with him, tell him you are in a period of change with your regime and that you need time to settle in........

stay strong....
 
novorapidboi26 said:
I can relate to this, although I am a man............:)

you have every right to be annoyed, and I suppose I can see why he might be feeling annoyed also, but if you love each other it will all be good......

times like these are bound to happen, it sure has with me anyway....

just have a chat with him, tell him you are in a period of change with your regime and that you need time to settle in........

stay strong....
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Thanks. Yeah times like this have happened before I just think I was feeling extra emotional last night.

He does understand that I need time to settle while I'm readjusting, I guess that just like me, he's obviously going to get frustrated with it too.

It's nice to talk it out on here, thanks for you response :)


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RosieDred said:
He's usually pretty good but he does need to know more about it. I try telling him but I think he's scared about the future so doesn't really retain anything I say about it.

I was just upset that I really needed a bit of comfort last night as I was feeling so rough and instead he made me feel bad. He said he knows I can't help it but I wish he didn't have to make it so obvious he was annoyed about the situation as I didn't need to feel guilt on top of everything else.


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Hi Rosie
I think that perhaps he can see changes in your relationship which at the moment he cannot manage and he is in denial focussing only on his needs and not yours. At a tad selfish I fear.



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In some respects I'm quite lucky, my other half is very understanding as far as my diabetes is concerned. And will carb count for me, when he cooks, he will also help when I do blood sugars. But it must be hard for them to fully understand what it is like to be diabetic. But I think your partner could have been a little more understanding.
 
catsbd said:
Some men are so selfish and just dont think. You deserve a big hug, working hard, not feeling well, keeping checks on your diabetes, all that. X


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Some PEOPLE are selfish.

When I was diagnosed I was told that T1 was "perfect for you as you're such a control freak".

I've also had my other half complaining that I'm being unreasonable at a nephew's birthday party when I've refused cake.
 
Julie1471 said:
In some respects I'm quite lucky, my other half is very understanding as far as my diabetes is concerned. And will carb count for me, when he cooks, he will also help when I do blood sugars. But it must be hard for them to fully understand what it is like to be diabetic. But I think your partner could have been a little more understanding.
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My partner is also very understanding most of the time and I count myself as very lucky too. I don't think he really understands just how much diabetes actually affects me though, and he probably wouldn't have acted like that if he did. Can't really blame him for not getting it completely


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We're all human beings at the end of the day and sometimes we all say and do stupid and hurtful things. We also do wonderful, kind and inspiring things. E was clearly having a GOB moment (grumpy, old ******). We all need to off load at times - lol at the number of kind people who have given you support! Take care x
 
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