- Messages
- 15
- Type of diabetes
- Type 2
- Treatment type
- Tablets (oral)
Hi all,
My name is James and I'm 43 and from the UK. I am overweight (21st 4lb) and 180cm tall. I'm active - can walk over 11 miles without issue. My resting heart rate returns to normal quickly after exercise - and I have normal blood pressure and low cholesterol. My mother had Type 1 diabetes and my father has Type 2.
I found out on Friday that I have Type 2 Diabetes - my HbA1c level came back as 52. I had the blood tests done back in January and the doctor said if he didn't call me, then the results were fine. He never called so I assumed all was fine. Queue Friday when the receptionist called to apologise that I wasn't called back. A routine check was carried out and they saw that I never got the call, so they called me to tell me.
Today I spoke with the doctor on the phone and he has prescribed me Metformin and told me to eat healthier. I know this - I'm overweight and know I need to make healthier choices. He told me he'd refer me to "DESMOND" where I can get other answers.
So off I pop.
I am married but suffer from depression. Most of the time, I am fine - managing it well. Then something like this happens and the first thing I do, is try to talk to my wife about it. All I get is lectures - everything I already know and we have talked about before - so we argue. All I want to do is tell her what I want to do to make positive changes but she tells me that eating certain things is fine ("You can eat as many potatoes as you like if they are boiled or jacket potatoes") when I know it isn't strictly true. When I tell her I want to follow the correct plan and find out more from this DESMOND course and they mention something she said as being true, I get the whole "Why is it you don't believe me when I tell you?" spiel. I just want to do it right and not base it off of assumptions.
I feel my depression is coming on again as I can't stop feeling dark thoughts coming on again. I need support, not lectures and aggression. In the past, my depression comes from the fact I NEVER talk to people about my thoughts and feelings. I began being able to do that, but now whenever I speak with my wife about this - she gets upset, shouts and it escalates to the point I go back into withdrawal talking about things. All my friends are family members on my wife's side - I have no actual friends I can talk to. I can't talk to them. I have no family on my side - so I feel so alone.
I don't even know where to start as everything feels like information overload.
What can I eat? What can't I eat? Do I have to count things? Measure things? I looked at some books on what Type 2 diabetics can eat - but everything is tailored to eating programmes which assumes you can be at home to cook everything - I work in an office with no cooking equipment or microwaves etc
I don't have much faith in the support I will get from my GP. First he doesn't call me about this issue. Then when he calls me, it's late. Then he doesn't send the prescription to the pharmacy so I have to go back to ask where it is. At no stage has anyone told me that I can claim free prescription for diabetes medication - I found that on Google. Got a form now - assume I tick the box for "Diabetes insipidus or other forms of hypopituitarism"?
I feel in despair at the moment. It will pass - so sorry for getting these words out.
My name is James and I'm 43 and from the UK. I am overweight (21st 4lb) and 180cm tall. I'm active - can walk over 11 miles without issue. My resting heart rate returns to normal quickly after exercise - and I have normal blood pressure and low cholesterol. My mother had Type 1 diabetes and my father has Type 2.
I found out on Friday that I have Type 2 Diabetes - my HbA1c level came back as 52. I had the blood tests done back in January and the doctor said if he didn't call me, then the results were fine. He never called so I assumed all was fine. Queue Friday when the receptionist called to apologise that I wasn't called back. A routine check was carried out and they saw that I never got the call, so they called me to tell me.
Today I spoke with the doctor on the phone and he has prescribed me Metformin and told me to eat healthier. I know this - I'm overweight and know I need to make healthier choices. He told me he'd refer me to "DESMOND" where I can get other answers.
So off I pop.
I am married but suffer from depression. Most of the time, I am fine - managing it well. Then something like this happens and the first thing I do, is try to talk to my wife about it. All I get is lectures - everything I already know and we have talked about before - so we argue. All I want to do is tell her what I want to do to make positive changes but she tells me that eating certain things is fine ("You can eat as many potatoes as you like if they are boiled or jacket potatoes") when I know it isn't strictly true. When I tell her I want to follow the correct plan and find out more from this DESMOND course and they mention something she said as being true, I get the whole "Why is it you don't believe me when I tell you?" spiel. I just want to do it right and not base it off of assumptions.
I feel my depression is coming on again as I can't stop feeling dark thoughts coming on again. I need support, not lectures and aggression. In the past, my depression comes from the fact I NEVER talk to people about my thoughts and feelings. I began being able to do that, but now whenever I speak with my wife about this - she gets upset, shouts and it escalates to the point I go back into withdrawal talking about things. All my friends are family members on my wife's side - I have no actual friends I can talk to. I can't talk to them. I have no family on my side - so I feel so alone.
I don't even know where to start as everything feels like information overload.
What can I eat? What can't I eat? Do I have to count things? Measure things? I looked at some books on what Type 2 diabetics can eat - but everything is tailored to eating programmes which assumes you can be at home to cook everything - I work in an office with no cooking equipment or microwaves etc
I don't have much faith in the support I will get from my GP. First he doesn't call me about this issue. Then when he calls me, it's late. Then he doesn't send the prescription to the pharmacy so I have to go back to ask where it is. At no stage has anyone told me that I can claim free prescription for diabetes medication - I found that on Google. Got a form now - assume I tick the box for "Diabetes insipidus or other forms of hypopituitarism"?
I feel in despair at the moment. It will pass - so sorry for getting these words out.
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