It's taken me 20+ years to get to this point.@zand I wish i was you. Actually i slept about 5 hours last nite, that's a real win for me.
Shame on them.I had to really work on not getting up and often lay in bed awake for hours. Then I found I woke frequently for the loo when I didn't really need to, so I just lay in bed trying to train myself not to wake. Now I don't often wake, not even for the loo, and usually sleep 8 hours, but it really has been a long haul to get back to a decent sleep pattern.
I don't regret messing up my health to check on my son. I would do it all over again, but I do get upset when people look at me and think I am fat because I am lazy.
oH @zand How very scary and horrible for you i am so sorry. It's no wonder you could never sleep. Thank God you still have your child and sanity after that.It's taken me 20+ years to get to this point.
My sleep problems started when my 2nd child woke me one night with what I can only describe as his 'death cry' He was 5 months old. He sounded like a wounded animal giving up on life. I ran to his cot and picked him up, he was cold and still, yet the bed covers were on him (not covering his face). I screamed to wake my husband and said 'I don't know what to do, he's dead'. In my panic I dropped him about 8 inches onto our bed. That was the best thing I could have done, the force of the drop kick started his heart again and my husband noticed his left hand move a little. I sat up with him in our bed for the 4 hours till morning. We put 2 hot water bottles next to him and I had him tucked inside my pj top so he could warm naturally. Finally at 6 am he woke and had a short feed. His temp which had been below 90 deg F crept slowly back up.
I took him to the GP next day. She refused to believe me that he had died. She said he was just in a deep sleep and I should have left him alone. It was my 2nd child, I really did know the difference between a sleeping baby and one that wasn't breathing anymore! She refused to give me an alarm in case it happened again.
So for a couple of weeks I set my alarm clock every hour so I could check on my babe. After that I woke naturally every hour, on the hour without an alarm. Often I would just sit by him and think how wonderful it was that he was breathing.
Every time I heard of cot death cases where the parents were blamed and accused because they found the baby cold I screamed at the TV.....'but they get cold first, then they die!'
A few years later my dentist had the exact same thing happen with her son, but she was a professional and her doc listened to her and gave her an alarm. She was disgusted when I told her that I wasn't helped at all.
After months of waking up constantly my body began to suffer. My hormones were upset. I put on weight. I caught infections often. When the danger of cot death was over other worries crept in to stop me sleeping.
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@zand how can people see you like that without even knowing what your life is all about. Isn't it sad we can't see other peoples suffering, we wouldn't be so quick to judge anyone. Such is humanity and so weak of many of us. I commend you on your strength, as for those that call you fat or lazy, surely it is not worth having them in your life.I had to really work on not getting up and often lay in bed awake for hours. Then I found I woke frequently for the loo when I didn't really need to, so I just lay in bed trying to train myself not to wake. Now I don't often wake, not even for the loo, and usually sleep 8 hours, but it really has been a long haul to get back to a decent sleep pattern.
I don't regret messing up my health to check on my son. I would do it all over again, but I do get upset when people look at me and think I am fat because I am lazy.
@ickihun Well put it this way to heck with the neighbors is all i can say. Oh and do they have children?. If so, are they perfect. Kids will be kids and i had 6 of them and wouldn't change a thing. So don't you worry about them your kids are your pride and joy.Shame on them.
It is disgusting when a Dr (even in 1970s, for me) disregards your health complaint or in your case, your babies. They were a disgrace really. Dr's have learned from those mistakes, well most have.
Little one woke us all up twice last night. He is so unsettled due to new classroom and new routine expected from him. He is happy with different toys though.
Poor thing. I wish i could do more but it has to be done every year.
Last year it took him 8mths to settle. I hope far far less this time and he has bonus of his old nursery teacher being his teacher again.
Once he sleeps we will sleep better too. He screams the house down. Maybe even neighbours too?