It's a distressingly common thing I'm afraid. I belong to a sailing forum and one of the members died. She was a fairly wealthy woman. Her husband, who was also a member of the forum, organised a wake at their home after her funeral and one of the several forum members who turned up was a con artist. He'd established a relationship on the forum as somebody who was friendly and approachable, but when he came to the funeral he stole some valuables from the house and it then emerged that several other members had been pitched various sob stories online and had "lent" him some money which, of course, they never saw again.
Lowest of the low - I don't think the Police ever caught up with him so he's still out there, somewhere.
Lack of empathy is one of the classic defining factors of sociopathy. Personal charm (which can get switched on and off in an instant) is another, which is often used to devastating effect in online Forums and - particularly - in business.I think that those who prey on the vulnerable or on those who tend to see no bad in others must have something missing in them. Something that makes the rest of humanity decent and empathic. It is so very sad.
I'm afraid I've taken this thread slightly off-piste. In my defence, some of the colleagues that I alluded to, above, gave me many sleepless nights......Lack of empathy is one of the classic defining factors of sociopathy. Personal charm (which can get switched on and off in an instant) is another, which is often used to devastating effect in online Forums and - particularly - in business.
I have a bit of a bee in my bonnet about this, but in my years as an HR bod I developed the need and the ability to identify and handle sociopaths (given guidance, they can do much good) and to see red flags when their flawed personalities were leading a business into trouble. As an example, I am not surprised that a number of Donald Trump's businesses have ended in bankruptcy....
It will take its toll.Ron was up yet again due to being in pain .
I woke at 4 to find he wasn't in bed . He was sat in his recliner he said he had pain all over his body. He's up and dressed now . We're taking his mum to hospital later for more cancer treatment. Got to go out anyway and fetch his meds . Will try not to bump into him today unlike yesterday. Couldn't believe it just brushed past him and he's clutching his arm in pain. I went back to bed but didn't sleep . I know we carers should take better care of ourselves but we tend to put others first that's just the way we are . I'm a wife,mother, carer , housekeeper, cook, bottle washer upper. Spent the majority of my life doing for others . Sleep when I can . Ron and I are a team we can't be without each other .It will take its toll.
Have you slept OK or been up with him?
Walked in snow to get kids to school and I'm totally shattered and my lungs are aching with all the exertion. We got in just in time. I was hopingbto meet my mum in town for a chat but I cannot do it now. I need to get rid of this awful pain in my lungs. After a hot drink and defrosted feet I might feel differently. Otherwise listening to Mr ickihun all day if housebound. Argh!!! I need a break from his constant chatter. Its hard work listening 24/7. I wish he shared the load with his friends, all of them. Ha ha
Once I can feel my feet I'll put the kettle on. Had co-codamol and codeine at 7am so too soon to take anything for this aching, heavy lungs. Drowsy due to codeine in the warmth. I feel like I've really suffered this winter with bugs and laryngitis. Back pain and everyone making demands. I told GP that I'm pulled in too many directions at mo. Bariatric hoops have stressed me out but only because of being in pain, on top. Otherwise I can cope with demanding people. I have young kids and a clingy partner. Jobs in past pressurize for more than one person can deliver with very little breath for delegation. I'm used to lazy people watching same thrifty people do their part too.
Mr ickihun helps as much as he can so no complaints at home even thou a job never finished unless I'm 100%. I understand the difference between laziness and capabilities.
Shame the anti-diabetes crowd doesn't. I hear some nasty stories on here of nasty words to teenagers. I'm so glad not a teenager today. Ignorance is classed as entertainment (Jeremy kiley and those tv benefits serieses). What a grotesque world we live in. Money for new defense ships and expenses but people suffering in a&e and at home due to shortage of beds in hospitals due to no family support or caring friends.
An intelligent country like ours hasn't worked out that community and family support shouldn't be seen as a weakness. Durr!
Happiness should never be compromised in the elderly or vulnerable. Are we going back to the Victoria era of workhouses and poverty? Eh yep!
Food banks are the equilevant of workhouses.
What have we become?
I know. A brilliant team at that! ☺☺☺I woke at 4 to find he wasn't in bed . He was sat in his recliner he said he had pain all over his body. He's up and dressed now . We're taking his mum to hospital later for more cancer treatment. Got to go out anyway and fetch his meds . Will try not to bump into him today unlike yesterday. Couldn't believe it just brushed past him and he's clutching his arm in pain. I went back to bed but didn't sleep . I know we carers should take better care of ourselves but we tend to put others first that's just the way we are . I'm a wife,mother, carer , housekeeper, cook, bottle washer upper. Spent the majority of my life doing for others . Sleep when I can . Ron and I are a team we can't be without each other .
Good luck night hun xOff to bed. Wish me luck. I have to be up early tomorrow so no pain relief as it makes me too drowsy. If I'm not asleep due to pain I'll have no choice but to take some. Wish me luck?
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