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Unable to orgasm during sex

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nabser

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As the title says i am unable to orgasm during sex,my history is this diagnosed four years ago with very high sugars 96.4 to be exact,was in intensive care for a week died twice and given no chance of surviving.The upshot is i did survive i lost all the weight and my hbA1c has averaged 5.2-5.4.I got involved in my first relationship since being diagnosed in the last year and this has thrown up certain problems,i have erectile dysfunction and have been prescribed cialis which is working perfectly well but the big problem is i cannot orgasm during sex,i have a lack of sensation in penis head,i have contacted my gp and endocrinologist who told me that i have damage to my pudendal nerve.I am waiting to see a urologist and was wondering has anyone here have had the same experience i would be grateful for any help or information,also i can ejaculate during masturbation but to say its vigorous is an understatement my girlfriend sometimes looks on in horror, if anyone has had this problem i would be grateful for any help and information as although i can deal with it,it does sometimes get me down and although my girlfriend has been fantastic i know she struggles to deal with the situation so again any help or info would be very much appreciated
 
Hi Nabster. I sympathise with your problem and obviously you can't undo the damage done itself. Be aware that some medication can affect orgasm so read the leaflets, search the web and discuss with your GP if needed to change medication if needed. Being older rather than younger and suffering some loss of sensitivity due to age and the diabetes I have been prescribed Viagra and have used it for a year or so; it does help. Recently I have, by chance, tried a penis ring. Although regarded and often categorised as a sex toy I have found one that works very well; much to my surprise. I can now maintain an erection and reach orgsam every time; sensitivity is also increased. My wife is a lot happier. You need to read the medical advice supplied with the ring and be aware of the need for adequate blood flow. Send me a PM if you want to know the supplier I have used.
 
I'd be interested to see what your consultant says as this could be written abut me too, albeit that my blood glucose hasn't been that high! Nobody's ever mentioned the pudendal nerve to me though...
Steve
 
Hi Steve, what drugs do you take? Do you take Pregabalin for neuropathy by any chance as one of its side effects can be "Decreased sex drive, impotence" as I found out after having it prescribed for nerve pain caused by arthritis of the lower spine. After taking it for a week I was unable to gain an erection and when I did manage it I was unable to ejaculate, within a week of coming off it I am pleased to report my bits are all working satisfactorily again. Although I have to put up with the pain now :roll:

Just a thought :) As Diabell says its worth checking the side effects of any meds you are taking regularly :thumbup:
 
Just an update on this,i went to see a urologist the other week and explained everything to him,he recommended that i lower my dosage of cialis was on 10mg now down to 5mg and it did indeed work i can now achieve orgasm,seemingly two types of nerves serve the penis and basically with using the higher dosage of cialis although i had an erection it was basically too erect and was taking the sensation from the other set of nerve endings so now i am maintaining a more natural feeling of erection and it has also made my penis head more sensitive alllowing me to achieve orgasm.I am delighted that i kept asking questions and looking to see the proper professionals as my gp said i was probably wasting my money and my endocrinoligist (diabetes specialist) said that it was highly unlikely a urologist could help me as i have nerve damage so i am delighted i paid out the €130 to see him.
 
Money well spent nabser, congratulations, you must be very happy :thumbup:

Was going to post an animated gif of a rocket/firework but thought it might be inappropriate :D
 
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