First, Mrs L has again fell over, tripped but managed to do no damage except to her pride.
She had taken a nap on the couch this mid morning and of course my visit to the shops coincided.
Of course, it was this time when I was out that she fell over.
So sorry to hear that
@Lamont D .
Good that no real damage was done, but certainly discomforting how easily it can happen & how much more difficult that makes things for you.
Absolutely nothing to feel guilty for.
You're doing your very best to keep life as normal as possible for Mrs L's benefit.
What love that shows .
But those moments are just a a warning you need to up the help (if any ) you are getting, as I'm pretty sure you realise..
God love you for the efforts you make.
But while you impress the heck out of me,
with respect, your not superman, and you can't be everywhere at once.
Sadly your tale is all too recognisable to me.
Mums world began getting smaller as like Mrs L, she Bagan having little tumbles, but at the time was capable enough to make us think she was managing ok so was still popping to the shops.
fresh air & exercise she'd say if dad offered to go or asked her to wait until he was free.
One slip & she broke her shoulder....slowed her down for ages.
Barely recovered from that when she fell & broke her hip.
Which looking back, was the end of her going anywhere alone.
Not meaning to be gloomy.
And easy for me to say, but I'm being practical
All these slips, stumbles & falls, need recording as part of Mrs L decline...(Not what you want to hear I know, I'm sorry )
But you need help & sadly you need to be able to point out how bad things are to push you & Mrs L closer to the front of any queue for such help.
For now it's just been confidence shaking, but you need to delay more serious damage however you can.
A friend or someone to shop or better still sit in while you do it, gets you those moments of desperately needed respite more safely.
(I say a friend but someone officially supporting you is what's really needed )
I know that word might seem a horrid word...respite = time to be me.
But I can't tell you how much simply taking that time out, helped me manage to cope helping look after mum and her decline mentally & dads health issues after being diagnosed with cancer (non operable).
Embrace it if you can, it's your lifeline to strength AND the best thing you can do for Mrs L....Yes really.
Better she has you attending her needs 95% of the time, then finding your too rundown & worn out to be there at all, right.....yes, right ..good man
You're climbing a mountain, unaided & without oxygen.
You maybe don't realise it yet, but you NEED to take those time outs or you won't get to the top.
Tl;Dr.
Record all slips & falls
Tell those best placed to help until their ears bleed.
Sharpen your elbows to help get you to the front of any queues for assistance.
Love & best wishes to you both.