I well remember how that felt
@Lamont D when I was forced to give up a well-paid, full-time occupation to look after my late mother. Our neighbours were wonderful, but we were worried she would set light to her home, if left to herself.
The hardest part was when she no longer recognised me, the person looking after her, was her daughter.
Friday's FBG 4.9 mmol/l on waking at 6.00 am.
Agree.
I feel your pain.
There is an advert at the moment about it.
"How mum died" ...many times is the gist.
Really hits the mark for me.
It's like the slow drifting away of a person you love deeply,
No matter how tightly we hold on to them, they slip out of our grip.
Until we are barely hanging onto their fingertips, and then even that slides out of reach .
' there but not there ', as we drift slowly along side them.
Inches apart yet miles away as they slide deeper into a world we can not see.
The only comfort I could take from that was, how lovely it must be for mum, that the world she found herself in, had everyone she had ever loved and lost before me, back in her life.
( The lies I told when she asked when HER mum, brothers or sisters, all long passed
Were coming to visit....)
A bitter sweet trade off, but one of the only 'good things' I could take from the experience.
She asked one day out of the blue for dad.
She forgotten who he was long ago.
He had passed away a week earlier.
I couldn't tell her, because she's be heartbroken.....& Then she'd forget.
And IF she asked again, it would just be the same grief, over & over again.
So I lied, & said he'd be up later.
She never asked again.
I suppose the only thing is where death can come swiftly on many occasions, leaving regrets at things unsaid.
the fact we get so long to say our goodbyes, means WE at least, get to hear the gratitude & love given for all they did for us .
A rather selfish emotion, but one I found left nothing left unsaid or regretted.
I think anyone like yourself & Lamont and far too many others, giving so much of ourselves, let's us hold our head up after the pain and say proudly "I did my best".
And no one could ask for more of us.
Respect.