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I live in Scotland and your idea sounds like a very good idea, however, I'm not very good at speaking. That's something I find even more difficult than dealing with Diabetes due to anxiety and being very quiet.
I was interested in helping out at my local cat and dog home, as I adore cats. The best friends I've ever met were always cats.
As for speaking to kids my own age, I do prefer the company of elders over the youth of today. As most music I listen is from the old days, something my Grandfather taught me, as I'd always put his old record player on for him when he was feeling down.
Perhaps in future, if I work on my self confidence, make friends here and see myself as someone who matters, I might take up that offer.
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I'm glad to know it resonates with you, Alex. Thank you for replying. You sound brighter today and I hope that is due in part to knowing that we all care about you and believe you have a bright and promising future.
My friend is now in his 50's and has had a long struggle, but he has made it, and has discovered for himself, his value to society. He's also a bit of a techno-whizz
If you'd like to chat some more, please PM me. I don't have the App for this forum to my phone, so depend on logging on at various intervals.
I look forward to your PM!
Take care
Not at all dear, I'm quite thankful. I've never quite been shown such love and promise before from strangers now friends.
Thank you. My day has been quiet and slow, but for the most part, I've felt a little better knowing I have others to talk to here.
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Night Pipp.
I've just said goodnight to Alex in a PM too. I know he's had a lot of offers from lots of lovely folk here, so I'm going to leave him in your capable hands while I catch some beauty sleep
Sleep well everyone.
I've just said goodnight to Alex in a PM too. I know he's had a lot of offers from lots of lovely folk here, so I'm going to leave him in your capable hands while I catch some beauty sleep
Sleep well everyone.
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Hi Alexander
You say that you "was interested in cats/dogs home" was there something that has held you back from volunteering there for perhaps just a couple hours a week? Would you not consider this as a small way to get something added to your cv?
Your qualities shine through Alex and older persons would love you. A lot of the older men are
in residential homes, not necessarily because they are senile etc, but to be honest,they were borne in an era whilst mothers/wife's did all the home domesticated jobs.the residential units I have worked in have certainly had more male silver surfers than females, and they are so wonderful and honestly, they so look forward to seeing people and doing activitys.
The support and love from friends here Alex is superb..
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You say that you "was interested in cats/dogs home" was there something that has held you back from volunteering there for perhaps just a couple hours a week? Would you not consider this as a small way to get something added to your cv?
Your qualities shine through Alex and older persons would love you. A lot of the older men are
in residential homes, not necessarily because they are senile etc, but to be honest,they were borne in an era whilst mothers/wife's did all the home domesticated jobs.the residential units I have worked in have certainly had more male silver surfers than females, and they are so wonderful and honestly, they so look forward to seeing people and doing activitys.
The support and love from friends here Alex is superb..
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Alex, see lots of people are glad to see you back. And are glad you are back. Have you thought about hospital radio, you get to play music, which I am sure they will like as it's the same music. You could try that I did it and got a 2hr show on a Sunday night, you can talk if you want.
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Hi @Alexander13 I'm not a T1 so in all honesty I couldn't talk to you about that, but, if you ever want a chat please let me know, although I don't know much about Machiavelli
This really is a nice place to be and no one will judge you here, I'm sure it will help you to get everything off your chest, just remember you can say what you like and no one knows who you are.
I'd happily respond to a DM if you feel it would help
This really is a nice place to be and no one will judge you here, I'm sure it will help you to get everything off your chest, just remember you can say what you like and no one knows who you are.
I'd happily respond to a DM if you feel it would help
Hi Alex,
I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling or were feeling. I too have a history of anxiety that was instigated by bullying at my school. It was 2003 and I was viciously assaulted on my head with a knuckle-duster merely for being present and minding my own business. I responded by saying to the teacher that I had a severe headache and I reached to the back of my head to find blood. The teacher told me to "be quiet" and when everybody had convened I wasn't taken to the medical room or hospital to have my head injury investigated. in the coming days, weeks and months I and other friends were attacked in all manner of ways consistently until 2004, when, I developed the symptoms of disturbed vision, extreme thirst, burning eyes, kidney pain, extreme dizziness, loss of 2 stone in weight and excessive urination which lead to me pulling permanently out of school as these were indeed the symptoms of juvenile type 1 diabetes.
Ever since those school days I have wondered, like you, whether I have any self-worth as being in the presence of other people seemed to primarily involve verbal or physical abuse being directed at me and, the then teacher, who theoretically has overall responsibility for the wellbeing of the class, could not care less; to be more precise, it felt like I had the phrase "attack me" written on my forehead. I suffered with severe anxiety when in the presence of any person from 2003 through to 2013, all the while taking anti-anxiety drugs and receiving weekly cognitive behavioural therapy since 2007. Despite the above negativity and hardship, for the first part of this year I became a RSPCA (I believe the Scottish equivalent is SSPCA) volunteer and a volunteer for the Arthritis Research UK charity. The simple act of volunteering as improved my self-confidence dramatically to the point that I can conceptualise that human beings can be trusted, can care and can help a person who is in need.
If I were you Alex, I would highly suggest that, when you feel less upset by your thought processes (which are probably being exacerbated by your blood sugar levels being either too low or high), that you try to get some practical experience of what it is like to be around people through volunteering. It just goes to show that 'thinking' about your self-worth, whether or not you will be accepted and whether or not you will gain confidence pales in comparison to physically ascertaining, through actions and interactions (such as volunteering) with other people how you feel with respect to your self-worth, acceptance and self-confidence. How can I say this? .. 6 years of CBT, which I like to refer to colloquially as "thinking therapy", did next to nothing, but 4 months of practical volunteering has transitioned me into a positive, ambitious and confident person with significantly less anxiety.
As others have said, please try to eat and take your insulin. These 2 things are the fuel/foundations that you will need to begin the practical steps to getting better.
I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling or were feeling. I too have a history of anxiety that was instigated by bullying at my school. It was 2003 and I was viciously assaulted on my head with a knuckle-duster merely for being present and minding my own business. I responded by saying to the teacher that I had a severe headache and I reached to the back of my head to find blood. The teacher told me to "be quiet" and when everybody had convened I wasn't taken to the medical room or hospital to have my head injury investigated. in the coming days, weeks and months I and other friends were attacked in all manner of ways consistently until 2004, when, I developed the symptoms of disturbed vision, extreme thirst, burning eyes, kidney pain, extreme dizziness, loss of 2 stone in weight and excessive urination which lead to me pulling permanently out of school as these were indeed the symptoms of juvenile type 1 diabetes.
Ever since those school days I have wondered, like you, whether I have any self-worth as being in the presence of other people seemed to primarily involve verbal or physical abuse being directed at me and, the then teacher, who theoretically has overall responsibility for the wellbeing of the class, could not care less; to be more precise, it felt like I had the phrase "attack me" written on my forehead. I suffered with severe anxiety when in the presence of any person from 2003 through to 2013, all the while taking anti-anxiety drugs and receiving weekly cognitive behavioural therapy since 2007. Despite the above negativity and hardship, for the first part of this year I became a RSPCA (I believe the Scottish equivalent is SSPCA) volunteer and a volunteer for the Arthritis Research UK charity. The simple act of volunteering as improved my self-confidence dramatically to the point that I can conceptualise that human beings can be trusted, can care and can help a person who is in need.
If I were you Alex, I would highly suggest that, when you feel less upset by your thought processes (which are probably being exacerbated by your blood sugar levels being either too low or high), that you try to get some practical experience of what it is like to be around people through volunteering. It just goes to show that 'thinking' about your self-worth, whether or not you will be accepted and whether or not you will gain confidence pales in comparison to physically ascertaining, through actions and interactions (such as volunteering) with other people how you feel with respect to your self-worth, acceptance and self-confidence. How can I say this? .. 6 years of CBT, which I like to refer to colloquially as "thinking therapy", did next to nothing, but 4 months of practical volunteering has transitioned me into a positive, ambitious and confident person with significantly less anxiety.
As others have said, please try to eat and take your insulin. These 2 things are the fuel/foundations that you will need to begin the practical steps to getting better.
Hi alex I too live in scotland..glasgow and I know the sspca do take on volounteers as do some vets( I work in a vets and ours does) so ask around, I know it involves some human interaction but they are ultimately more interested in your rappor with animals.....and they in my opinion are far more forgiving lol you never know you might get lucky and if there's no places at this time there's always next time.have a good day.
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Good morning.
I am just hanging around to see how you are doing @Alexander13 .
As I mentioned in an earlier post, I am extremely nosey. I am resisting the urge to be bossy though, so just want to say that I hope you have a good day today.
Oh and well done to everyone who is proving what a caring community we have here, and showing that the wider world can be so too.
I am just hanging around to see how you are doing @Alexander13 .
As I mentioned in an earlier post, I am extremely nosey. I am resisting the urge to be bossy though, so just want to say that I hope you have a good day today.
Oh and well done to everyone who is proving what a caring community we have here, and showing that the wider world can be so too.
I was interested in helping out at my local cat and dog home, as I adore cats. The best friends I've ever met were always cats.
Hey Alex, I'm so pleased that you are feeling slightly better, everyone on here is so friendly and helpful.
As you adore cats have you thought of volunteering for the Cats Protection League or similar. I have a relative who like you, adores and loves cats. She volunteered for the CPL a few years back, she still does it and absolutely loves it and gets a lot out of knowing she's helped rehome stray, injured or lost cats. She also does/help with lots of fundraising for the charity. I have noticed that her confidence has grown over the years as she didn't have any before she started.
Hey Alex, I'm so pleased that you are feeling slightly better, everyone on here is so friendly and helpful.
As you adore cats have you thought of volunteering for the Cats Protection League or similar. I have a relative who like you, adores and loves cats. She volunteered for the CPL a few years back, she still does it and absolutely loves it and gets a lot out of knowing she's helped rehome stray, injured or lost cats. She also does/help with lots of fundraising for the charity. I have noticed that her confidence has grown over the years as she didn't have any before she started.
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Hi Alex like you someone very close to me suffered years of bullying and being attacked a horrific young life which nobody seemed to be able to stop the outcome severe depression crouched in a dark room un communicating it the main cause was a form of autism leading to inability to understand social situations and basically a vulnerability which turned even the the nicest people into bullies it was a long struggle but with antidepressants voluntary work which I really believe we all need to be needed and to help people who appreciate us really help self esteem gives a purpose to daily life there's so much out there for you you've just got to find it I hope you get the strength to like the other posters have said things can get better for you
Hi Alexander
Don't lose heart. Easy for me to spout words but harder for you to take on board when feeling down. Two small items that might help. Firstly try to get involved in exercise. Running or fast walking is wonderful for the body and the mind.
Secondly a trivial matter that might tell you that you will overcome problems - forty years ago today on 9th August 1974 I got diabetes and Richard Nixon resigned. Two significant things in my life. I'm still here - lots of health issues in the last 40 but hanging in. Still running
Remember, life is about navigating uncertainty. You can do it.
Peter
Don't lose heart. Easy for me to spout words but harder for you to take on board when feeling down. Two small items that might help. Firstly try to get involved in exercise. Running or fast walking is wonderful for the body and the mind.
Secondly a trivial matter that might tell you that you will overcome problems - forty years ago today on 9th August 1974 I got diabetes and Richard Nixon resigned. Two significant things in my life. I'm still here - lots of health issues in the last 40 but hanging in. Still running
Remember, life is about navigating uncertainty. You can do it.
Peter
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