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Hi my name is Alex I am now 27 I have had it since I was practically one, I can completely understand your sons frustrations and and fears believe it or not. Having diabetes type 1 is treated very non sealant when I was at both school and college. The thing is it affects every aspect of his life, both with fear, frustration, miss understanding and heavily complicates normal relationships. How ever there is light at the end of the tunnel it does get better, you only have to learn how. I was bought up believing that sugar was BAD and if I consumed it I was there for bad. Now as a teenager with hormones you are told your hormones will fluctuate his levels all though this is somewhat true, as a teen it was more not remembering to dose and at some points hating it.
This is really simple comes down to the why me complex? . Basically hes probably thinking why me and although he's been diagnosed and told how its come about maybe shock induced or a hereditary procedure, he will not want to relate to this or believe it, As having it can feel like your simple freedoms are taken like that of a prisoner. With school & social stresses he feels probably like I did, like I was in a prison, Both of his own mind and body. ( remembering he's quite young) Now when I was his age with exactly the same issues of fluctuating levels I was constantly lead to believe I was to blame, this is not the case because as a young child your also lead to believe or in my case this is for life. So another huge anchor is sat on your shoulders. So to sum this up (points that could be bringing him down: school, relationships, friendships, himself, his condition(mixed feelings), home life( not being able to communicate) and hospital appointments ( fear of being told its his fault.)
Now the best thing as a kid would be supportive parents( not saying your not at all in fact you asking for help shows exactly the opposite.) what he needs support with will be the conversations with his doctor, pediatrician. He needs what the doctors think not tell him and how what they say can help him. I am a Novorapid user meaning I inject before I eat anything. and have one night time injection as well. I had to learn how to use this properly, not as doctor stated eat only healthy and you will survive! ..... <---- lame and script driven advice. I inject for exactly what I want when I want including Cake, doughnuts, drinks etc. And as a fact have levels of 5.6 as of today. Thing is he needs to know what insulin hes using and for what he is consuming and taking it for and how to use that to his advantage. My best suggestion is talking to his doctor about a Bertie course if hes like me. if not he needs to ask his doctor how best he can reclaim his freedom. to live as normal as anyone else cause in a world of discrimination this is what we all want. I hope this has helped you and your son build a better understanding of each other and how you both can beat it to suit you. Your son is only to blame if hes doing it deliberately which I highly doubt or like I believe hes just needs to know more and how best to make it suit him.