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I learned yesterday that one of my best mates was diagnosed with late-stage incurable cancer. He would love to join a forum that would help him live - but there isn't one.
We have something here for which we can really count our blessings. It's a place where we can help each other manage a frustrating, frightening condition. We receive advice and encouragement from the vastly experienced who have been there and done it. We get snippets from nervous new boys in short pants like me who are just starting our journey and are glad to be part of a community and just want to join in. Then posts from all in between who pass on experiences learned new every day.
One thing I am sure of is that nothing is posted in malice.
I'm on a voyage I never dreamed I would undertake, buy you lot are helping. Yesterday I went for my first eye test where a sadist squirted acid in my eyes. Tomorrow I go to find out how knackered my feet are. Today I shall walk to work in the hope that a young dolly bird will wolf-whistle at my newly pert derriere. Next week, who knows?
How I wish my mate had a place like this.
 
JTL said:
I'm sure there will be some on here that survived the war and the blitz and rationing.
Lost fathers sons husband daughters mums homes and so on.
That's what I call insulting to the human condition.
I lost my mum to cancer when I was 20 years old that's what I call difficult to deal with.
I heard yesterday that in France they're going to make it a criminal offence to wolf whistle at another person.
Seriously it's not April fools yet.
How delicate are people becoming?
A criminal offence!
My first thought was we need a pop song with some wolf whistles in it then if anyone gets pulled up they can say I was just whistling a pop song.
Then they'll have to make all whistling illegal and make real fools of themselves.
What is the world coming too?
To make wolf whistling a criminal offence moves the world further into an Alice Through The Looking Glass scenario.
Are these people completely mad I'm thinking.
Will repeat whistlers be sent to jail.
What you in for mate .... whistling.
Oh right I'm in for breaking wind.
We are damaging the human condition.
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I put 'funny' as breaking wind should be abolished, for sure. Especially my B-I-Ls ones. Put infront of a jury to decide whether they agree it is classed as breaking wind or not. Ha ha
My BIL would laugh too.
 
All I ask is for all posters and readers to have a great day today. Try and reassure your loved ones on how happy you have this forum as an outlet......... to moan on and be listened to.
A fantastic forum, me thinks. Even on a bad day. :)
 
JTL said:
So I left.
I didn't say goodbye.
Why would I I know none of you people.
You didn't need an explanation and didn't miss me when I was gone.
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Well I missed you and was glad to see you back here again. :)
 
Forums create an environment that is very special to the people on it. They can become sources of great comfort or discomfort to the participants. The tide can turn between the two very quickly.

For me personally this one is one of the best I have seen at creating a supportive environment that helps people to get through an enormous life threatening diagnosis.

There have been a few occasions when I've received slapped wrists from someone, moderator or otherwise because in my enthusiasm to be helpful I have overstepped the mark somehow. It hurts a lot when that happens, because I know in my heart I am only trying to help and sure sometimes I make mistakes, we all do. I know that when I post about success I have had its not because I want to " boast" about my success, but simply tell others - "hey this might work for you too." I am sure that when @AM1874 takes time to post, he is doing a similar thing. When written in text, no-one can see the actual feelings behind the person taking the time to post.

Words on a page cannot convey just how grateful I am that I found this place and despite the occasional waver when I have thought " what is the point" if I am going to get that type of reaction. I continue to post. I think in many ways I have to try to continue to help because the forum helped me, until outright told to go away by the admin.

@AM1874 has made the choice to some perceived negative reactions to his post, to determine his choice as to whether to continue to try to help others . It doesn't really matter whether these reactions were or weren't actually negative or the precise details. It is how he perceived them that matters to him.

I am sorry he feels that way and can only say that once the hurt he feels has died down a little, he may come to appreciate that the assistance he gives is worth the effort and the need to occasionally shrug off something that didn't quite go quite the way expected . As such when he is ready to give such assistance again, I will welcome it.
 
CherryAA said:
Forums create an environment that is very special to the people on it. They can become sources of great comfort or discomfort to the participants. The tide can turn between the two very quickly.

For me personally this one is one of the best I have seen at creating a supportive environment that helps people to get through an enormous life threatening diagnosis.

There have been a few occasions when I've received slapped wrists from someone, moderator or otherwise because in my enthusiasm to be helpful I have overstepped the mark somehow. It hurts a lot when that happens, because I know in my heart I am only trying to help and sure sometimes I make mistakes, we all do. I know that when I post about success I have had its not because I want to " boast" about my success, but simply tell others - "hey this might work for you too." I am sure that when @AM1874 takes time to post, he is doing a similar thing. When written in text, no-one can see the actual feelings behind the person taking the time to post.

Words on a page cannot convey just how grateful I am that I found this place and despite the occasional waver when I have thought " what is the point" if I am going to get that type of reaction. I continue to post. I think in many ways I have to try to continue to help because the forum helped me, until outright told to go away by the admin.

@AM1874 has made the choice to some perceived negative reactions to his post, to determine his choice as to whether to continue to try to help others . It doesn't really matter whether these reactions were or weren't actually negative or the precise details. It is how he perceived them that matters to him.

I am sorry he feels that way and can only say that once the hurt he feels has died down a little, he may come to appreciate that the assistance he gives is worth the effort and the need to occasionally shrug off something that didn't quite go quite the way expected . As such when he is ready to give such assistance again, I will welcome it.
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Very well said, @CherryAA
 
Forums are funny places, you cannot see a face or hear a tone of voice, so what was intended as a light hearted or flippant remark sometimes comes across as deadly serious and insulting. And we all make mistakes.

I for one will always be very grateful to everyone who posted on my first threads when I was new, about 14 weeks ago. I am sure that some of the posts would be considered not helpful by some people to a newly diagnosed t2d, but I welcomed all who bothered to post. The posts from daisy, the info on the home page and the low carb program were spot on for a newbie, and the posts from those who had been doing lchf for a while explained why the advice, so different to the orders given by my hcp, would work for me. The stuff that I did not understand at the time just pushed me to read more. I would hate this info not to be available because someone else had decided I was not ready for it.

I will.always be especially grateful to the ones who stick thier heads above the parapet and give details of which ever experiment they have decided to try on themselves, or give detailed reasons, links to studies, research etc . I have been lucky to learn so much. Thankyou all. I think that you have probably saved me from a slow death from ignorance.
 
Rachox said:
Really? Don’t let them get to you! You’re the first person who responded to my first ‘Shell Shocked’ post in May, the day I was diagnosed. Your speedy reassuring post help to dispel my anxiety very quickly and you consistently continue to do the same for many others I’m sure. You’ll be sorely missed. Please reconsider x
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Deviating from the subject, I was also diagnosed in May. But yes as everyone says, stay in the forum, even for us newbies. I may not always post but read many often and take advise on board, gathering from everyone and making my own decisions. So thank you to you and everyone who posts.
 
I think this forum is wonderful. Problems can arise with all social media as we cannot see or hear the person 'speaking' and as we have never met in real life we have none of the subtle cues that you pickup in live conversations. So it can be easy to misread what people are trying to say and to feel offended. We have probably all been on both ends of such dialogue.
For all that, I was telling my husband that I would take advice here and trust it more than my GP!
 
smw99 said:
For all that, I was telling my husband that I would take advice here and trust it more than my GP!
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Me too and I reckon it has saved me so much time and effort getting it right and possibly saved my health and life.
 
I know @AM1874 wasn't around when I started posting. Unfortunately many aren't posting anymore. I miss so many wise fellow diabetic soldiers. I often wonder where they are.
It seems once most posters get what they came for and return the favour, they're off.
I hang around the chat threads incase that one or two posters newly post asking about the same circumstances as me and I let them know they are no longer alone.
I feel for all those not on this forum who could really do with a diabetic friend.
I was lost for decades...... no longer. :) :) :)
 
I am still learning a lot about diabetes even though I have now got type 2 diabetes well under control and I am off all medication.

I think it would be short-sighted of me to just disappear now that I have got the crucial information to control diabetes. There is a nagging worry that the great control I have now may not last forever if my remaining beta cells die off leaving me needing insulin sometime in the future. So despite sometimes getting a bit frustrated with these forums, it is worth hanging around as the information it disseminates could make a dramatic impact on my future health.
 
Art Of Flowers said:
I am still learning a lot about diabetes even though I have now got type 2 diabetes well under control and I am off all medication.

I think it would be short-sighted of me to just disappear now that I have got the crucial information to control diabetes. There is a nagging worry that the great control I have now may not last forever if my remaining beta cells die off leaving me needing insulin sometime in the future. So despite sometimes getting a bit frustrated with these forums, it is worth hanging around as the information it disseminates could make a dramatic impact on my future health.
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Liking your sentiment and agree completely on all counts.
:)
 
I haven't gone anywhere. I have been here since 2014, and even though all my excess weight has gone and my BS are well controlled thanks to the members of this wonderful forum, I am still learning something new every day .... and hopefully passing on some of my experience to newcomers. It is only right and fair to do this. I'm not going anywhere ... unless the mods decide otherwise. ;)
 
Me three! Not going until pushed. We all over react at times to perceived slights, it is easy to do this when all you have is text to go by. In the words of my youngest 'Chill Fam!'.
As to making a genuine mistake, who of us can say with all honesty that we are innocent?
 
There have been periods when I have been away from this forum. As it happens these have been periods when I switch off from being diabetic and let my control slip.

Knowing what we have to do to stay on top of our diabetes is only half the battle, we must still stay focused enough and disciplined enough to actually do it.

I find that this forum helps me to maintain the necessary focus. In trying to help others with the benefit of my experience I actually help myself. It is difficult to be offering advice to others and then ignore that advice yourself!

In any forum mutual respect amongst the members is paramount. Nevertheless some misunderstandings are inevitable.

One should not lose sight of the bigger picture of the role such a forum plays, though.

That is why I hope the OP decides to return once the dust has settled.
 
Guzzler said:
Me three! Not going until pushed. We all over react at times to perceived slights, it is easy to do this when all you have is text to go by. In the words of my youngest 'Chill Fam!'.
As to making a genuine mistake, who of us can say with all honesty that we are innocent?
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Ha chill fam and safe fam are often used words in my boys vocabulary too!
 
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