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how do you accept it?

Discussion in 'Diabetes Discussions' started by claymic, Mar 4, 2012.

  1. scroller

    scroller · Newbie

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    How do you Except it ???

    I have had 4 Heart Attacks 4 Stent Implants , I have C O P D in my Lungs, I am in a Wheelchair after 5 yes 5 Strokes and then the Diabetis Type 2 comes along, How do i accept it ??? NO problem life is to short to be worrying about Diabetis any one of my Medical Conditions can kill me and we must all pass away no one lives for ever,

    So get on with what you have left or Worry too much brings Stress which is also a Killer, Be Positive and thank God you are still alive as i do and i get out and about and go on several Holidays all over Europe each Year , Just 2 Years ago i Travelled to East Asia Namely Malaysia 2 weeks and continued from Malaysia to Hanoi in Vietnam on my own " SOLO " on a fold up Scooter which fold up to fit into a car Booth or any Coach. So come on there is a lot to live for in life without worrying about Diabetis,

    Just be very Carefull and do as you are Informed by your Diabetic Nurse or Doctor.
    SMILE SMILE SMILE BE HAPPY FOR THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO WOULD LOVE TO SWOP PLACES WITH YOU.
    DRGERRY.
     
  2. jode72

    jode72 Type 2 · Member

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    Hi All

    I was only diagnosed in December 11 and still I don't think it has really sunk in some days are good and some days are bad BS is like a yoyo no matter what I eat I try and stay healthy but as the Diabetes was left undetected for a long time I also have nerve damage to my stomach which makes eating very diffecult and nerve damage to my feet which makes evenings very painful with numb tingling irritated restless feet seems to be the little things that get me down, at the moment I am on Metformin 850mg twice a day Glicazide 40mg twice a day + colesterol tablets every day never have I taken so many pills, I have to interigate menus when eating out and have to check and recheck that that is really a diet coke the bar man has given me ....and yes I still try to go out with my friends even though I can't drink - as alcohol seems to lower my BS so drastically it's just not worth it - I am so tired most of the time and wake up through the night with the painful feet which it appears the Doctor can't do anything about!!! As diagnosis's go Diabetes was the last thing I expected I was being tested for cancer at the time so was happy with Diabetes most days I feel positive but then sometimes I could just sit and cry at the lifelong beast I am going to have to learn to share my body with one who will be more controlling than my ex husband and thats saying something LOL !!!!

    It's great to read the forums on here means I don't feel so alone none of my friends have Diabetes and it's so hard to explain how it makes me feel without sounding like I am just feeling sorry for myself and whinging when so many people have it far worse !!

    Of course the upside is I am now a size 12 and not 18 as I was so gotta thank the Diabetes for something !! :D
     
  3. roberthollie

    roberthollie · Newbie

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    I have accepted diabetes, to me its more of an inconvenience rather than a problem its hard to understand the condition its self and getting to grips with the food and sugar content, thats my down fall understanding the food side i love my food i find that some times the food beats the insulin so i get high levels as is the case at the moment. but i will get there. :thumbup: :wave: :clap: :D
     
  4. Shera

    Shera · Newbie

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    Hi all,
    My first post, been lurking for months. :)
    Type 2, dx 18months back, I'm still trying to get my head around the low carb options, I have a really bad memory and confuzzled brain, so sometimes I can't think straight enough to work out what I can eat, lol. I didn't get testting strips, and I'm thinking of just getting my own, if I can work out which to get.

    I also have Systemic Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Asthma and Raynauds, I'm afraid when I was first told it knocked me for six, as if I haven't enough to put up with, my hardest problem is the exercise, I have such painful joints & fatigue it's difficult to move somedays let alone exercise.

    But I'll get there, somehow :)

    Dee
    xx
     
  5. sharplowse

    sharplowse · Newbie

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    Hi,
    I know exactly how you feal and perhaps there are a million answers or none,I have had type 2 for over 20yrs and to this day I have never realy accepted it (at least not fully).In my case I have a job which I love and means more to me than perhaps any job should,I am a train driver,when I was first diagnosed with the "sugary thing" (for I hate even the mention of the word) I felt my world was at an end.I cared not a jot for my health short or long term, but for the immediate loss of my job as I imagined,so I refused any medication and told nobody,after all,who could I speak to without giving myself away.
    After 3 or 4 years I overheard a colleague who had recently been diagnosed with the sugary thing and was taking metformin,he had not lost his job as a driver and so I was able to declare my hand.I too was given metformin and other stuff and to a large degree I felt relieved at not having to maintain my guilty secret.But this is not about me,it is about us sugary people finding acceptance (or not),as I said before I have not fully and perhaps never will,but it is the elephant in the room which I am always aware of.I am the worlds worst,I do not do tests nor do I take all of the advice that i know to be right,but I do from time to time try a little,this is not advice (for it would be very bad advice) and I do not advocate it to anyone,but we all have to find a path that allows us to live without the constant crushing fear of what the sugary thing can mean.
    My fear was destroying me and everything around me,I had to find a way to live even if I could not fully accept it,nor could I always do what was right which is a constant reminder in itself.The medical advice is simple (and sickeningly correct),"do all that we say,eat this,don,t eat that,exercise, do this don,t do that"etc etc etc,but we are human and it,s not easy to do things even when we know it is right.So if I have advice it is this,find a way to live life day to day without constant fear and depression even if this means that you have to put the sugary thing to the farrest recesses of your mind.Do what you CAN and never feal defeated,there will be good days and bad,some days you will be a GOOD girl and some days BAD,but tomorow is always another day,you will do better some days than others and you will always know in the back of your mind what you are.I am not in denial and nor or you but I can not let this be the dominant thing in my life and nor should you.Do your best,be good when you can and do not beat yourself up when you can not,good luck!!!
     
  6. vickylou1807

    vickylou1807 · Newbie

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    I dont see how we will ever accept it, i think its more dealing with it and living with it, well that is how it is with me, i live with it because if i dont i will die, sorry but its a simple as that isnt it?? I have had counseliing and suffered really badly to get my head around the idea, but after 5 years i came to terms with it which is what i think we all do!! How does anyone come to accept any illness especially one that is never going to be cureable :D live with it and keep smiling i say xxxx
     
  7. adorable

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    I don't let it rule my life I just get on with it. : :)
     
  8. hanadr

    hanadr · Expert

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    I live with it, control it and don't let it control me.
    I have battled for years to get the medics around me to accept that I WILL control at NORMAL bg levels [around 5 at all times] and that I'll do it by very low carb diet. My diet rules are my own and have become a habit I keep to. It's not a burden any more I'm just used to it. My exercise routine is quite hard. an hour and a half MOST days. Sometimes more. Swimming, gym and walking. I monitor bg pretty much each day. I have to pay for my supplies myself. Having had excellent service from Abbott Diabetes Care on strips for years, I've ordered the "No Coding" meter system from Amazon. the strips are MUCH CHEAPER .
    Apart from colds that my grandchildren pass on to me. I'm never ill. I'm very active. I support my daughter in care of the grandchildren and keep an eye on my T1 husband and My elderly [94] difficult T2 Mother.
    Keeping busy is the best thing for me. I find it difficult to find time to do everything I need to. Poor dogs have not been getting as many walks as they'd like recently. It will improve in Summer, when we can go out later
    I have just got organised to turn part of my front lawn into a vegetable garden, thus giving myself more work and keeping the back lawn, which isn't very big, for the children to play on.
    I don't think about my own diabetes often, but I do campaign to make things better for others where I can. I'm not depressed, I don't have time.
    I pick up a child from school 3 days a week and have 2 little ones all day Friday. In fact I'm off to collect Amelie in about an hour and I'll mind her at home till her Mother comes in.
    Hana
     
  9. Vernadie

    Vernadie · Newbie

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    I have been diagnosed type 2 insulin dependent since 2000. My philosophy is simple, if this had happened over 50 or 60 years ago I'd probably be dead now. I thank all the research and advances in diabetic treatment that is keeping me alive and relatively healthy and will hopefully keep me so for a good few years yet. With new advances I am sure life for the diabetic will continue to get better and better.
     
  10. Lynne C

    Lynne C · Member

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    Hi

    I've been a Type 1 diabetic for 32 years and really you just have to get on with it. Mostly it doesn't stop me doing stuff, I just have to be aware and test my BG a lot. I've walked 7 miles this morning and had to test 3 times and eat chocolate etc to get my BG up, nice chocolate but difficult too.

    When things go wrong I do get upset by it as keeping good control is very important to avoid complications but tomorrow is another day and things will soon get back to normal. Exercise and a good diet do help both with weight and moods and that's important too.

    Stick with it, there's no way out for any of us with diabetes at the moment!

    Lynne C
     
  11. tony48738

    tony48738 · Member

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    HI i'm type 1, had a heart attack and not even 50 years old yet. Life sucks at times doesn't it.
    I inject 4 or 5 times daily using Nova rapid and Lantus Solostar. my belly is raw and bruised at times from injecting, and my finger tips are hard and tender from the continual pricking. Diabestic nurse visits, eye tests, blood test it goes on and on.

    Accept it? of coarse, I can do nothing to reverse my condition. So live life to the full and enjoy is my outlook on life. I take regular exercise, eat and drink what I want in moderation and enjoy life with my family to the full.

    People look when youre out dinning and the needle comes out, sod em!!! I'm diabetic and no ones going to intimidate me with a stupid looking stare, if you dont like it turn away cause I'm getting on with my condition.

    Be posative, use this web site for information it has some great advice. alway look on the bright side !!!!
     
  12. nicola34

    nicola34 · Newbie

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    Hi Everyone,

    I was diagnosed type 1 in Dec 11 and I dont think I have accepted the fact I am diabetic at all !!! I have done everything that the Doctors Nurses and DSN have advised and still really unpredictable at the minute.

    Really helped reading everyone's posts as it helps to think I am not the only person experiencing these feelings.

    Take Care

    Nic xx
     
  13. adrian29459

    adrian29459 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi everyone. My feelings for my diabetes are probably a little different to most. I've had type 1 diabetes for 13 years now. This time last year and several years before that I was struggling with my diabetes having at least one seizure a month due to hypoglycemia. I used to argue with my parents when I wanted to go jogging or enter a race, they'd be against the idea fearing it'd lead to another nighttime severe hypo. This frustrated me, I always wanted to challenge my condition with exercise and race events, it helped me feel I could live normally. This was one time when I hated my diabetes.

    There were times when I had unexplainable seizures with normal blood sugars and no exercise (or alcohol) prior to sleep. Then I was diagonosed with epilepsy. This was the answer I'd been looking for and with sensible control I knew that me, diabetes and exercise could finally get along. Right now I have my own place and have not had a seizure since May. I look at my diabetes as a good thing as it has educated me and made me work harder in life. I am not allowed to drive, drink alcohol, stay up late and must keep to a healthy diet. All these restrictions are caused by my conditions and I feel I'm a better and healthier person from it. Therefore in a strange way I am grateful for my diabetes.

    I also find when levels creep up I get emotional, whether it be angry, depressed or irritable. Keep on top of your diabetes and maintain good blood sugar levels. It'll keep you smiling.
     
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    lucylocket61 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I have only been diagnosed for 3 weeks now and i feel trapped and helpless. I can already see i am going to have to fight my surgery for anything. For cholesterol testing, for referral for my eyes and feet, and anything else I may need.

    I hate having to fight when I shouldnt have to. And what do I do if my surgery refuses to refer me to a podiatrist or ophthalmic person? They may refuse to treat me, and then I wont even have a doctors to go and see.

    I feel angry and abandoned and ill and too overwhelmed to fight. I want to manage my illness, and have all the checks and education - and I cant seem to acess it.
     
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    Its just a part of life for me, I was diaganosed with Coeliac Disease before Diabetes and this is much harder, Diabetes its a doddle. With Coleliac disease I have to watch everything and read every label. A knife that has been used with gluten and then used for me will mean I will be sitting on the loo and holding a bucket for 24 hours with another 24 hours to recover. I dare noi go out to eat in restaurants, I never stay in hotels only self catering and there isnt a medication to prevent this. Type 2 diabetes, no problem and Im 70! Compared wit hother health problems what do we really have to worry about? I did make a pact with my hea;th centre that I would do my utmost to keep it under contral and I expected to best from them, so far it has worked.
     
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    borderter Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I have totally accepted it now and in fact its almost become a weird sort of hobby ie I get quite excited when a new pen or meter come out,how sad am I LOL :oops:
     
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    ali1970 Type 2 · Newbie

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    i cant accept it at all just cant handle having it got it 5 years ago while pregnant on little one then did not go back to find out if i had it still after. But 1 and half years after having little one things were not feeing right with myself, so went back in the end and was told i still have it now got for life but just cant accept it i dont understand all this about carbs or anything else to me food is food and i just eat it.
     
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    I don't accept it. I have steroid induced diabetes, and if anyone say I have diabetes I deny it. I only have diabetes because I am on medication for another condition - which sucks. If I stop the medication my diabetes goes away, and the amount of metformin I need to control my diabetes varies in almost direct relation to the amount of prednisolone I am taking.

    I'm not in denial.
     
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    I have been Diagnosed with type 2 Diabetes I find that excercise 3 times a week at the Gym and walking, being sensible about what I eat, onions are good and taking vitamins like Vitamin c;, Magnesium,Omega3,Q10 help.

    I also drink water through out the day. I had a triple heart bypas 2 years ago only 50 and I am fit again, my is sugar under control at the moment to being near normal levels.

    I find it a challenge and a game to get my Diabetes under control that is how I handle having the disease so I enjoy testing to see how well I have done or not. I accept that I may lose control of my diabetes but I hope that will be a long way off and yes I
    could do without it but I have it and thats that.
    Lots of you will have more series levels of diabetes than me so I cannot comment on how you feel.

    Be Positive. Be Active.
     
  20. Daibell

    Daibell LADA · Master

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    Hi Lucklocket61. You have right to 13 things as a diabetic and this includes annual retinopathy, cholesterol testing, Hba1C etc. You can download the list of regular checks you should have from the NHS/NICE/Diabetes websites. You can insist that your surgery arranges these and if they won't you can insist on being referred to a specialist.
     
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