Riri said:
I'm with you titchy.
Friends are meant to care and I if a friend of mine had suggested this I would have replied like you. You weren't being unreasonable and as you say it would only mean being away for a few hours. You don't all need to be joined at the hip throughout the weekend.
Unfortunately people don't realise how difficult situations can be - some cope with situations like this and others don't cope so well and it only takes small things sometimes to tip the balance. It's usually the people we care and like the most that suffer the brunt.
If you are ally good mates I would pick up the phone/text with a jokey chocolately based quip and finish by saying it would be really tough so would she really mind if you just opted out for a few hours as you really want to be there. A bit of compromise but not having to go to the chocolate thing. I, like you, would find it a total ngihtmare and it would upset me. Sorry if others don't agree.
Good luck
Good points Riri
I have been thinking about this alot, what if it was me? and my friend J got married and had a hen weekend. If she choose a chocolate event or say decorating cakes or sampling different breads, not only would that be a bitof a nightmare, because of Diabetes and Coeliac disease, I'm sure I would be 'put out'.
1) she would know I am diabetic
2) she would know I have Coeliac disease
3) Is she catering for herself? because, to be fair,she is the bride to be
4) Is she caterting for the majority of ladies/family members attending?
5) If she is, I am sure I would feel as though I was maybe pushed to oneside and not catered for like the others :?
6) If I had a fear of heights and she wanted to go rock climbing, well...........
7) If she paid for driving at Brands Htach, I don't drive
8) Hot air balooning, height issues
So I'm sure members can see where I'm coming from and where this is going.
1000's of females apparently love choclate, chocoholics and the friend probably just thought that they would all love this. I like chocolate in very small quanitites, because even injecting insulin to cover it would make me 'spike'.
Titchy, If your friend was a flower, would you pick her?
Maybe when the dusts settles and things calm down, you could discuss the problem with a 3rd party there who would be impartial. Hopefully it will be sorted out once and for all.
A quote "Those that matter won't mind and those that mind don't matter"
Take care and I hope you enjoy the Easter weekend
All the best RRB