Hello,
You have no idea how much I can relate to your post and to how you feel.
It has happened to me so many times...
I go to a cafe/Starbucks/Costa for a cup of coffee and I specifically ask "no milk because I am diabetic. Instead single cream please."
Quess what happens? Milk in my coffee and my blood sugar shooting up to a 15.
Similarly, when in restaurants I ask for no balsamic vinegar on my salad (explaining that I am diabetic) and quess what dressing I get on my salad...
Likewise, when I ask for dressings on separate containers on the side, they are drizzled all over my plate.
People do not seem to understand what being a diabetic actually means... It feels to me as if they are lost in translation.
So, to save myself from having to explain every single time to any given stranger serving my table about my condition, I started telling them "I am allergic!".
"Dressing seperately on the side please because I am allergic (to yeast/milk/corn/sugar/gluten - you name it, what ever suits the occasion) and I dont want to have an allergic reaction in your restaurant and you having to call the paramedics for me."
Now, for some reason, THAT they understand!!
And not only do they understand it but, they give me a compasionate look and a re-assuring smile telling me that they will make an extra note to the chef/barista.
Because they know that an allergic reaction in their shop can easily mean a lawsuit and a brandname humiliation.
There is no need trying to reason with them.
No need to have to accept their degrading looks as if diabetes is the plague.
No need to have to educate them, they don't care.
Just scare them with something they can comprehent, that'll do. (and in my view, that's what they deserve as well.)
Regards and compassionate hugs
Josephine