Hi
@jjraak
The last 40 years I was worried about a possible heart attack as I got older, and the info I gave when questioned by doctors on family health problems included this, and I am on 2 blood pressure medications because my mother died of a heart attack, and it was on her side of the family, and other problems like that.
But I mentioned on here a long while ago, in this thread, and privately to some of you, that I was convinced/thought my Aunty J was my mother. And my cousin, her son, told me on the day of her funeral in the church, he'd grabbed me in the churchyard, and said it was my place to walk behind her coffin into the church (you can imagine my confusion) and that Aunty J, his mother, was also my mother, and he was my brother. He said I deserved that at least, to walk behind her coffin up the aisle, and that he had put my paintings in her coffin that I had given her, and that she had on (in her coffin) a jumper I had knitted especially for her....
So, the mother that brought me up was absolutely no direct relation to me. And the information that I had given doctors over the years, when they asked about my mother's health was absolutely incorrect.
Aunty J, my birth mother, had dementia/Alzheimer's. That was one problem I thought I was never going to have as it wasn't in my direct family that brought me up.
I got proof Aunty J was my birth mother a short while ago, and I was too raw to try and tell you all on here. I broke down every time I started typing. Tears in my eyes now, but I can write about it.
As an aside, just before she died I went to the nursing home to see her. I was warned she recognised no one. But as I sat down next to her, her face lit up into smiles, and broke into recognition of me. "Little ________ (my name)", and her bony wasted hand reached for mine. Then suddenly, as quick as it came, it was gone. She finally had me back, and I have a precious memory. But I didn't know that, until her funeral when my cousin/now brother, told me that she was my birth mother.
So now, I am paranoid about Alzheimer's/dementia.