I strongly believe that, although I am not 100% responsible for getting diabetes, I did have alot to do with it and might have been able to delay or avoid it if I had looked after myself better.
My dad and his dad both developed T2 diabetes in later life. We all know diabetes is hereditary and, if it's meant for us we'll develop it no matter how much we look after ourselves. However, there are other groups of people prone to developing diabetes and being overweight is one of them.
As I piled on the pounds over the years my dad kept warning me I was heading for diabetes-not just because I am overweight but also because it is hereditary. Basically I fit into most categories. I stupidly thought "It's inevitable. I'll deal with it when it happens and enjoy as much chocolate as I can in the meantime" Oh how I wish I had approached it differently.
My dad is fully dependant on insulin now but he still keeps warning me that if I don't watch what I am doing I'll end up on it too and possibly with more complications. Am I listening to him? My brain is, but emotionally I can't-still eating the chocolate.
My dad has been really very strict with himself ever since diagnosis. However, he is of the old school and follows all advice from HCPs etc. He will not join the forum or delve any deeper than what he has been told. Since my diagnosis and finding this forum I often wonder if my dad had followed the advice re carbs etc on here instead of NHS advice, would he still have had to go on insulin? He has alot more willpower than me and never eats any sugary things. He still believes that he has to eat carbs with every meal as he is on insulin and follows DAFNE.
Anyway, back to the original point. We live in a blame culture today and no matter what happens we are always looking for somebody else to blame. I cannot blame anybody for diabetes other than myself. Yes I might have developed it if I had been skinny as it runs in the family but I doubled my chances of developing it by not watching my weight. My sister is 2stones heavier than me and my brother is skinny. Neither of them have developed it yet and maybe never will. But I would bet that my sister has more chance of developing it as she is overweight and, like me, has doubled her chances.