@welshbunny....you are probably right....it does get me down at times and difficult to cope with...is probably why I am trying to cut myself off from the situation at the moment...
..have already spoken with my GP about this ...but little he can do about it ....he did offer me antidepressants at one stage which I refused (and will always refuse) as prefer to deal with it in other ways...for a start I don't consider myself to be depressed....just having to cope with what is a depressing situation...
...as I say there is nothing GP can do about situation unless my partner wants to do something about it and asks for help to do so...this also relies on him following instructions given and being prepared to help himself...both of which I recognise as being unlikely scenarios knowing what I know about him and past experience / track record...
My recent conversation with GP also led me to another conclusion which is that I wonder how much the GP and nurse would work to help anyway....just got the impression that because HbA1c has come down from the heights of where it was (90 something at one point) down to a more reasonable level (currently around 60 I think) that the GP is satisfied that he is improving and is in his words 'better than where he started'.....
....does it come to a point where GPs are satisfied with a diabetic reaching what they consider to be a satisfactory target and that they then become less interested in helping them to achieve better control of their diabetes....does it in effect become a box ticking exercise to say that they have achieved a particular result and they can report it on their GP reporting system as a 'success' ..
..perhaps I am just being cynical here but sometimes feel that my voicing my concerns to the GP does nothing more than put me across as being a 'worrier'....would not be at all surprised if that was what my records state....
Anyway thanks for your message and I am definitely looking after number one now....almost to the point where I am not bothered anymore or no longer care....a sad fact, but true....is just my self preservation kicking in I think....guess I am not the only one to find myself in this position...
Hi again Molly, what tim2000s says below is all perfectly true, i have blood tests with my doctor at least once a year because they send for me and they can tell by that what your general reading has been for the last 3 months, so if he is dangerously high they should pick up on it. You are left to deal with it, and its has to be taken seriously. Have you thought about downloading pics off the internet of someone with ulcers and gangrene on their feet due to lack of self care, pics of people with legs amputated. Does he realise he could go blind? Sadly he is being selfish as he appears not to care what affect it has on you. I do wish I could help, but this is something HE has to do. Maybe it is time for you to take a couple of steps back.
when he goes away for a few days later this month to visit his son....
