10.12
FBG 5.2
Still not finished writing the few cards I wanted to send - but have realised why I am struggling with what seems a simple task. It's the emotional impact of estrangement. Aunts address is still in my book, but neither she nor MrSlim will budge so am unlikely to ever see her again. Should I send a card? If so what can I write in it? Pretend all is well? Beg forgiveness for something we didn't do? MrSlim will never forgive being accused of manipulation and stealing, she will not look for the missing treasures because they have been stolen. Total impasse. This estrangement gives MrSlim and I even fewer reasons to visit UK.
Also realised I don't have current address for two of my sons. Although son2 moved only recently. Son1, rarely responds to messages or phone calls. I have no idea where he is living, or even if he has an address, because in the summer he was living in a van and moving about all over the country.
So today screwing myself up to bypass these issues and write remaining half dozen cards.
MrSlim was pressing on with his work yesterday, despite the back problems. He is currently restoring a pair of iron gates to replace the rotting wood set we have at present. I think he has overdone it because this morning he said he is not fit enough to carry on today.
As for me I have taken the final antibiotic pill of my ten day course. In theory I should be totally recovered and raring to go, but am still lethargic and lacking in energy or motivation.
Extra hugsfor you
@SlimLizzy
Okay, my two penny worth.
I have a similar situation with one of my daughter's, complicated,( I've not talked about it on here). It has caused terrible dissent and distrust within the whole family and ripped us apart, and it has affected all our relationships. Been discussing it this morning on Skype with Oz daughter. Uncommunicative daughter won't allow me to have her address, so I cannot contact my grandchildren either. Daughter from Oz asked me if I had figured out a workaround to contact the grandchildren independent of uncommunicative daughter. I had. These grandchildren are teenagers, not small children. Daughter from Oz asked what it was. I told her....she was interested because she too has been told not to contact...
I have a son like your Son #1 as regards messages and his whereabouts.
My thought is send your Aunt a Christmas card. Just write it. "All the best for 2024" (or what words you think are appropriate) and sign both your names. Get in the car now and post it. Forget about it.
If you do something like this you may be able to release the block that stopping you.
Son #1
Well my son is uncommunicative at the best of times, but it is his way which I am assuming your son may be similar. My son doesn't want Xmas cards littering his life, but I, as a mother want to send something. I assume he has a smartphone, take a photo of the XmasCard and write Happy Christmas (whatever you want to write to your son). If you are extremely lucky, you might get a thanks mum text, but don't bank on it.
I am assuming then, possibly your lethargy might lift and you may get a little energy and motivation back.
This s**t stuff really does immobilise us,and it is very hard to push through.
By the way I took a leaf out of your book when you @'d me into your post, bought some Xmas cards, wrote something simple, went straight down to post office, posted them. It was a weight lifted.
And don't laugh at my next thing I did. The neighbour's cards cause me stress each year. I find it hard walking to do this. Some have the slippy highly polished steep driveways and I get up them step by step (terrified I am going to fall and break bones ), or they have nothing but gravel on their gardens, no solid path, just gravel which grinds my ankle bones when I try to walk to the letterbox, and then they are painful for days. Then Thursday morning before my opticians appointment, I stuck a second class stamp on each neighbours envelopes, and threw them in the post box. At least no broken bones or sore ankles this year....
Why on earth didn't I do that simple solution before? Forget about the cost....it is cheap for what the alternative could be if I have an accident on their driveways/gardens...
. Offspring have asked what I would like for Christmas. Peace and quiet are off the cards as are stopping the destruction of the planet and banning the sale of nylon sheets but a new pair of slippers might be nice - ones with a heel and a firm sole so I can wander about in the garden in them. And insulated of course. Art bit, another scraping of paint but this time with an expired British Legion membership card. I hope you can decide that today is a good day and that you can see some beauty in it. I have finished my koffy so might just make another.
