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Don't involve yourself in the blame game.

Discussion in 'Type 2 Diabetes' started by catherinecherub, Jun 17, 2011.

  1. theoldfunker

    theoldfunker Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    oops that should be {cramp } made me laugh though.
     
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  2. Japes

    Japes Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    After a difficult review with a GP who is fixated on the immediate information on the screen rather than the whole picture I am sternly telling myself I have worked damned hard to keep controlled with diet and exercise, as well only taking meds if absolutely necessary. I will NOT feel guilty when GP suggests I'm not doing enough with either diet or exercise nor am I feeling guilty at getting cross with said GP.
     
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  3. RFSMarch

    RFSMarch Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    So glad I saw this post. Since starting a new career in what many see as a dream job (I'm a sports journalist and tennis writer) I saw all my good work losing weight undone by irregular hours and irregular eating habits and often no say at all in how we get our grub in media centres (basically this is what you're getting, tough nuggies if you don't like it/miss feeding time!)

    But what has surprised me as I have told friends and family in how many were shocked at the news - and in fact I have to tell them that with family history I was always going to be pre-disposed to the condition.

    My 'sins' were not maintaining my exercise (some complications - no cartilage in my knees anymore make it a challenge to run/play tennis - I do, but I have to suffer for it!), and being lazy in the weeks where I am only home for a few days before heading out again, getting takeaways and my regular 'if it's Friday, then it must be scampi and chips for lunch' attitude.

    All that is easy to change. Freelancing means tightening my belt anyway, so I took to batch cooking a lot of stuff to do away with takeaways when I hadn't got anything in fresh. Unplanned, I dropped almost a stone in weight which prompted me to go to the doctor in the first place, so now it is a matter of getting that spare tyre around my waist gone.

    Because my diagnosis was also high cholesterol and recent stresses have elevated my blood pressure, I am trying to focus on stabilising one thing, and at least trying to do my conditioning/rehab exercises daily. We'll see what happens when the next blood test in a couple of months happens.
     
  4. Olivemay62

    Olivemay62 Type 2 · Member

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    It's heartwarming to know that it's not our fault, diabetis saught us out not the other way round. I have been told and explained to but I still don't understand it.which is strange as I have always worked in hospitals and doctors surgeries,praps Iam in denial.a while ago I had a bout of depression. A 'friend' said ,I would never allow that to happen to me! I was gobsmacked.
    I struggle with the diet guidelines. If I cut my carbs I feel hungry and tired. What does one do. I crave fish and chips or Chinese meal.i am not on medication.my nurse says my blood is 6.5. The rest is normal. I am about two stone overweight. Any advice and tips will be helpful. Thanks.
     
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  5. letstalk1

    letstalk1 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    pleinster Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I got diabetes from steroids I had to take as part for anti-rejection treatment following a kidney transplant (due to inherited kidney disease). I was warned that there was a risk of steroid induced diabetes prior to taking it but had little option. I had never had a problem with weight and my lifestyle had zero to do with my diabetes. I would make the same choice again as I would far rather have diabetes than be on dialysis four days a week. I would love to meet someone who told me it was my fault; it would be their fault that I smacked them in their judgemental, arrogant and stupid mouth. Love and kisses.
     
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  7. Flicey

    Flicey Type 2 · Newbie

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    Yes, it's easy to play the blame game with yourself. I just had my bloods done a week ago and my level was 9.8. I've since then cut out all carbs except Weetabix 1 for breakfast. My fasting level this am before breakfast was 7.3. I am determined to keep going as I don't want the additional medication offered of Gliptins as the side effects seem worse than Diabetes. My practice said to me, "You do know it is a serious disease". Yes, I said, thinking of course I do, I am not stupid. I am also keeping a food diary and using this site to do the diet plan and logging my food online to see what nutrients, vitamins, carbs and calories I am using. It's not easy but I am determined not to increase my medication. I've chucked out anything from my freezer and cupboards that has carbs in it. It's drastic but well worth doing. Making my own soup too!
     
  8. Mike D

    Mike D Type 2 · Expert

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    Dump the weetabix ... full of sugars. A little wake up call. Then see the improvement :)
     
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  9. Bertybean

    Bertybean Type 2 · Member

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  10. Bertybean

    Bertybean Type 2 · Member

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    I am sorry to disagree but I do believe that being overweight and not active was the main factors in myself personally becoming T2 diabetic.
    Nobody else in my family and I have 7 siblings has diabetes but they are all slimmer and more active than me.
     
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  11. Frank357

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    I have just been diagnosed with type 2 and I am confident that it was lifestyle triggered.

    But I see that as a good thing (loosely speaking) as it puts the responsibility for managing the disease mainly into my own hands. Generally I have found it easier to deal with my own messes.

    I don't like having diabetes but I would hate to have it for reasons completely outside my control as, I imagine, many people have.
     
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  12. Sue192

    Sue192 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Undoubtedly lifestyle choices can impact on your chances of getting T2. However, some modern lifestyles are not so much a matter of choice but of necessity, for example the critical role of computer-based jobs and professions. Some lifestyle choices scream T2 but the person has no signs of even slightly raised bg, even though they have had that life for many years, e.g a friend of mine: she's overweight, does no exercise at all and her diet seems to consist of bread, biscuits, chocolate and vast quantities of hot chocolate with mountains of marshmallows. Bg, bp, cholesterol? All resoundingly normal. Of course this may change, but it goes to show how hugely complex our bodies are.
     
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  13. Sue192

    Sue192 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I'm not sure if this video has been posted before (a search couldn't find it, apologies if it has) but I has just been sent to me by a low-carber friend who has lost 6.5st (and counting) and gone from pre-diabetes to normal bg. Apart from the fact that he is easy on the eye ;) I found his talk interesting. The 'uppercut' moment for me was his assertion that one bad night's sleep has the same effect of six months of junk food. One night?? Try weeks of bad nights! I know so many people who have difficulty in sleeping (and others have mentioned it on the Forum) and, coupled with stress (I've had a few years of almost constant background stress), what he says reinforces the OP's plea not to get involved in the blame game. It also reinforces my view that our modern society has an awful lot to answer for....
     
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  14. ToveyKath

    ToveyKath Type 2 · Member

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    I think the point was to remind us all that no matter how we got to be type 2 isn't important, it's how we face the situation, & blaming yourself won't help - be positive and do whatever you can to try to manage the condition.
     
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