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That's how I look at it as well, it is now a way of life.I'm doing it for my health and it's not a "diet".
That's how I look at it as well, it is now a way of life.I'm doing it for my health and it's not a "diet".
Have your finger testing numbers changed after the reduction?
Tell her that too much blood sugar causes loss of erectile function and she will have to forego conjugal celebrations later on.
Before I started lowering my carbs, I suffered a lot from reflux and other mysterious digestive problems. I even had TWO endoscopies (IMO the worst investigation in the world!). Nowadays this problem has almost gone away. Just the occasional very slight twinge of heartburn. I am wondering if trying a really low carb diet (under 50g and maybe even down to 20g carbs daily) might help your internal problems and also enable you to gradually come off the Metformin, which would presumably help them still more. (Not that I am against Metformin, I'm very glad to have persuaded my GP to let me take it, but it's horses for courses, it's maybe not the best remedy for you.) I realise in the light of the previous discussions that this may seem a risky step for family harmony, but on the other hand, perhaps adopting a really radical diet where it is clear there can be absolutely no syrupy treats might make things easier?It’s early days, I’ll give it a month. I have IBS anyway so anything which irritates the gut is not a happy blend. I just take a loperamide if I’m going out most times. I had to run back to the Clubhouse from the third tee as my guts were rumbling last week.
Thank you all for your comments and ideas, it helped me as it took me down after what had been a good few days. I think she thought she’d got us a treat as my son and his gf were eating with us, she wouldn’t touch them and my son tried a bit and didn’t like it, he also stuck up for me after my third no, I’m not eating that.
Rgs said that his wife is pre-diabetic, and that his readings have come down into the pre-diabetic range and he thinks she thinks he can now stop fussing about them. Which suggests to me that part of the problem is that she is in denial of the fact that her pre-diabetes is a serious condition that needs attention and poses a certain threat. If she admits that he needs to restrict his diet, that means she should too.You say that she tests her BG with your meter.
Very interesting point. On reflection, it seems to me that we all do this to some extent, identifying ourselves with a role or an activity or a skill or certain physical characteristics. And part of successful living (especially successful ageing) is to let go readily and welcome new roles etc into our lives to replace the ones that are lost.some/many people create a role for themselves which is central to them and to their perception of their worth.
That is SO psychologically acute, and SO tragic. I too have observed that these feeders will press people they love to eat things the feeders know are harmful to them, doing their utmost to wreck their loved ones' attempts to lose weight, stop drinking too much alcohol etc. I have even seen a woman continue to over-feed her obese (and much loved) cat after the vet had warned her of the consequences. It must be a terribly strong drive, with a sort of cleavage between the part of the brain which truly loves and wants the best for the person and the part that just wants to be feeding them even if it kills them.There is often "a feeder" in the house
One of my closest friends is a real feeder. She came round the other day for some lunch but brought loads of crisps, sweets etc as a “treat” for me, thinking it would be nice for me to have a bit of “normality” and “time off’ from being so restricted in my food choices. She genuinely thought she was doing a lovely thing. She even brought treats for my cats.There is often "a feeder" in the house.... the one that does the main part of buying and cooking food.
I think that with any diagnosis of diabetes that if there is a "feeder" in the house then it is important for them to completely get on board with diabetes as well-but more importantly is that the diabetic (if he/she isnt the feeder) to take more input into the buyingand cooming of foods etc.
My mum has become diabetic (dementia bad) since my stepdad started doing all the cooking... he makes constant bread, cakes etc... and he is now the feeder but is making my mum worse with diabetes because she us no longer cooking the healthier foods...
YES!!! But I do feel a lot less lonely since I managed to persuade my GP to prescribe me Metformin. I have realised that if I really marshal my evidence and make a good enough case (preferably handing over a printout from Nice guidelines in support) she will listen and be swayed.Please remember us with prediabetes rarely get much support at all.
I think it is confusing for partners when we eat some treats and not others. Consistency is the key although very few us of are perfect.
Be careful what you wish for, if your wife truly understood her prediabetes and your diabetes she might have concerns about your diet with the shreaded wheat, bread, and treat meals of the most sugary sauce, batter and noodles.
Please remember us with prediabetes rarely get much support at all. God I miss sweet and sour!