Hi, I am so incredibly frightened, my husband was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I am 60, he is 70, we have been together 22 years and got married 2 months ago. I don't know what to do to help him, everything I read on what to eat and what not to eat and all the information is conflicting. I have mental health issues and my darling Colin suffers from depression. What can I do, I love this man with all my heart, and I will protect him ferociously. Is there a definitive list on how to manage this. I don't care what happens to me in this world, but not Colin, I need to protect him, he is such a good man, please help or reassure me that this can be managed, I will go to the ends of the earth from him. Thank you in anticipation,
Diane x
Hi, I am so incredibly frightened, my husband was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.
I am 60, he is 70, we have been together 22 years and got married 2 months ago.
I don't know what to do to help him, everything I read on what to eat and what not to eat and all the information is conflicting.
I have mental health issues and my darling Colin suffers from depression.
What can I do,
I love this man with all my heart, and I will protect him ferociously.
Is there a definitive list on how to manage this.
I don't care what happens to me in this world, but not Colin, I need to protect him,
he is such a good man,
please help or reassure me that this can be managed,
I will go to the ends of the earth from him.
Thank you in anticipation,
Diane x
Thanks so much for your reply,I think I love you already! His reading was 54, we have been tweaking our diet all week, I am doing it with him, I have bought books, am in the middle of doing a zillion spread sheets, he is outside playing with his Bonsai at the moment, happy as a sand boy, once again, thank you so much, you have made me feel better already.Now THAT'S the kind of partner many would die for @Dianecz
( and i'm sure your husband feels the very same about you....)
so relax for a minute..and just breathe slowly.
no ones going to anywhere.
Btw, Congratulations on the wedding, and the enduring love affair.
( we are in the same boat, and have lasted WAY longer then any of our friends relationships.)
Now back to helping your man.
Many will post excellent help and assistance, because we have all been where you are now, just after we got diagnosed.
( i know i was....and i sure ain't dead yet..)
but for simpleness..your beloved is allergic to sugars.
which if you don't know, we also get sugar/glucose from the carbs we eat when they get broken down inside us, once eaten.
so essentially we are allergic to carbohydrates.
and if your allergic to something .what do ya do..?
exactly... avoid or cut down.
but until we get a bit more idea of what the HBA1C score was ( the official test to say yep, you got diabetes )
and what medication/s he's on.
we are a little in the dark.
But cutting back on some of the higher carbs might be a good idea.
so although sugars is off the table, some sweet foods are too.
as well as some of the every day foods i used to eat lots of, also..
for me that was potatoes, rice and pasta.
to begin with.
(if it helps with shopping i don't bother with calories..i simply look at the Carb content on packets and tins
under 5gm per 100, it goes in the basket..5-10 i um and ahh, then decide IF its worthy ..and over 10gms
it goes right back on the shelf sharpish.)
i then fine tuned it with a better selection of vegetables and snacks befitting a type 2 diabetic.
and my HBA1c numbers at diagnosis, came DOWN from 57 oct 2018..
( Reasonably high, but others have started out much higher.)
to 42 in january 2019..and trust me i didn't starve or miss out on too much.
as an aside, the diabetes has struck us..(your husband and i ) at a late stage in out lives after taking many years to grow and become an issue.
i personally feel that the way of eating ..Low Carb/High (better) fats.is giving me protection from the potential damages and complications T2D (type 2 diabetes) can cause.
Sufficient enough that while i truly believe it HAS and is still putting my diabetes into remission.
.... if it isn't reversing or 'curing' my diabetes, ..it will have pushed back the diabetes for several years, perhaps even a decade or two.
so i fell it's more likely i'll be hit by a bus then anything diabetes can throw at me.
But it did take some learning from the good people on here, and taking a little time to practice what was spoken of
AND find the foods that DID agree with me better, and DIDN'T spike my allergies.
so it's a bit like school...
lots of homework, plenty of practice PLUS you/he gets to try out some new exciting recipes,
which will all go a long way to helping you and your husband make better food choices going forward.
Good bless you both,
and best of luck on your Journey.
Long may it last.
Thanks so much for your reply,I think I love you already! His reading was 54, we have been tweaking our diet all week, I am doing it with him, I have bought books, am in the middle of doing a zillion spread sheets, he is outside playing with his Bonsai at the moment, happy as a sand boy, once again, thank you so much, you have made me feel better already.
Many Thanks, Diane
Hi, @Dianecz , a big worry is always about complications, and there are endless studies about how T1 and T2 raises the risks of all sort of things.
But it's important to keep complications in perspective. I'm in Scotland, and an annual survey is published, showing not risks but actual numbers. I expect England does the same.
In the executive summary pic below, you'll see that the numbers of T2s recorded as having end stage kidney failure or major lower limb amputation are a mere 0.6%.
Other pages show around 1 to 2% having foot ulcers, and a mere 11 people recorded as being blind caused by diabetes.
It's obviously no consolation for those patients, but those are all very small numbers.
I suspect many of those will be older school, when there was less understanding of how important it was to keep blood glucose in normal range.
There's a surprising number of both T1s and T2s who just aren't that fussed if their levels are in the high teens or 20s, and they are the most likely candidates for complications.
While there can be absolutely no guarantees against complications, all the evidence shows that provided a decent effort is made to keep levels in check, the chances of developing complications is massively reduced, and the numbers actually experiencing them are reassuringly small.
The numbers are on Colin's side here provided he takes steps to keep bg in range.
Good luck!
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interesting post..cheers.
worrying how the T1..increase is near 20%
yet the T2D was close to 60% over the same period
and 5.5% of scotland diagnosed as diabetic back in 2017
if i read that right.
Thanks so much for your reply,I think I love you already! His reading was 54, we have been tweaking our diet all week, I am doing it with him, I have bought books, am in the middle of doing a zillion spread sheets, he is outside playing with his Bonsai at the moment, happy as a sand boy, once again, thank you so much, you have made me feel better already.
Many Thanks, Diane
Please don't be frightened.. a whole load of us are now so much more healthy that we are quite grateful for being diagnosed.. In the early days you may find that hard to believe but trust me it can happen.Hi, I am so incredibly frightened, my husband was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I am 60, he is 70, we have been together 22 years and got married 2 months ago. I don't know what to do to help him, everything I read on what to eat and what not to eat and all the information is conflicting. I have mental health issues and my darling Colin suffers from depression. What can I do, I love this man with all my heart, and I will protect him ferociously. Is there a definitive list on how to manage this. I don't care what happens to me in this world, but not Colin, I need to protect him, he is such a good man, please help or reassure me that this can be managed, I will go to the ends of the earth from him. Thank you in anticipation,
Diane x
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