I'd been puzzling on that one when I couldn't sleep because of the heat. He's been going though a phase which really should have happened around age 3 not 5. What got me was the cheek. He's always been cheeky but in a cute way. Now it is just plain rude. Loads of things had been tried but it wasn't bothering him so it was a question of finding something that made good behaviour more desirable than bad behaviour. Son thought I was being a bit harsh wanting 5 rosettes in a row but as I pointed out he had to realise it is consistent good behaviour that is rewarded not when it suits him. He'll have meltdowns but if I can get him to stop and think that's a plus.I love reading your posts your tales are always so entertaining, sounds like you may have found the magic needed to promote good behaviour, well done.
The old Fen Boys used to also use the "milk" from a sliced poppy seed head to cure the Ague: it didn't but it helped them cope!!!!!Rumour has it that the old Fen boys used to take cold tea and a leather strap into the fields on days such as this. Soak the strap and suck it while hoeing - those fields were massive. Not exactly cold brew but only idea I have heard of. Mrs P has a penchant for iced tea. Welsh people born in the London Borough of Fulham are a strange breed
Thanks for the congrats @GrumpyOldPhart . Are you a Fen Tiger as I seem to remember you talking about tests at Peterborough Hospital?The old Fen Boys used to also use the "milk" from a sliced poppy seed head to cure the Ague: it didn't but it helped them cope!!!!!
Also great congratulations on the birth of granddaughter ;-)}
I think what you are doing is great and not harsh at all. You are trying to encourage appropriate behaviour, as you say it was cute at 3, not so much at 5, the older he gets the less cute it will be. Keep up the good work, everyone will thank you for it in the long run, especially your son. You are teaching number 2 that every action has a consequence, I think that message has by passed a lot of younger people and children in recent years, or maybe its me being "old fashioned".I'd been puzzling on that one when I couldn't sleep because of the heat. He's been going though a phase which really should have happened around age 3 not 5. What got me was the cheek. He's always been cheeky but in a cute way. Now it is just plain rude. Loads of things had been tried but it wasn't bothering him so it was a question of finding something that made good behaviour more desirable than bad behaviour. Son thought I was being a bit harsh wanting 5 rosettes in a row but as I pointed out he had to realise it is consistent good behaviour that is rewarded not when it suits him. He'll have meltdowns but if I can get him to stop and think that's a plus.
My coconut oil is most definitely not solid at ‘room temperature’ at the moment!
Ha nor mine! Had a shock when I looked in the cupboard - thought it had gone off for a minute.
That just about sums him up!@maglil your pennies in a matchbox made me smile. I have a picture in my mind of a Just William little boy with a catapault in his back pocket.
Not old fashioned at all. There's a lot of very rude children going about. One thing that has been stressed with them is the importance of good manners and I've lost track of the number of people who have said they have impeccable manners. No matter how naughty they get , when they calm down and have a think about it, they will always come and give you a hug and say sorry. They hold doors open for people, say please and thank you without being asked and the one that tickles me is if someone says Thank you to them they always answer with "you're very welcome".I think what you are doing is great and not harsh at all. You are trying to encourage appropriate behaviour, as you say it was cute at 3, not so much at 5, the older he gets the less cute it will be. Keep up the good work, everyone will thank you for it in the long run, especially your son. You are teaching number 2 that every action has a consequence, I think that message has by passed a lot of younger people and children in recent years, or maybe its me being "old fashioned".
Bless him, exactly the kind of response you were hoping for at bedtime.Not old fashioned at all. There's a lot of very rude children going about. One thing that has been stressed with them is the importance of good manners and I've lost track of the number of people who have said they have impeccable manners. No matter how naughty they get , when they calm down and have a think about it, they will always come and give you a hug and say sorry. They hold doors open for people, say please and thank you without being asked and the one that tickles me is if someone says Thank you to them they always answer with "you're very welcome".
The pennies worked at bedtime too. He had his usual routine of bath, quiet time , stories but then instead of his usual 2 hour shenanigans he went to bed and slept!
Fascinating reading this and thinking back to my teaching days. All the Oxbridge students bar 1 were very much in the mould you ladies are promoting. Some very unpleasant, ill mannered young people came from backgrounds which stressed my child is always right whatever they have done. The worst offenders were those who felt they had "made it" through cheating "the system" then on A Level results day looked bemused as other students received their A*sBless him, exactly the kind of response you were hoping for at bedtime.
You are right in saying there are lots of rude people nowadays. As my nan always said manners cost nothing. I see my daughters bringing up my grandchildren with boundaries and acceptable behaviours, it makes my heart sing.
I fear this "I'm always right regardless of how I behave" attitude is becoming the norm, there seems to be little regard for how your actions might affect others. I was so pleased to see certificates and "places" being awarded at my Grandsons recent sports day, for years many schools have run sports days without celebrating winners, what does that teach in this competitive world?there is no message in that approach about work hard and strive to do your best to try and achieve the result you would like.Fascinating reading this and thinking back to my teaching days. All the Oxbridge students bar 1 were very much in the mould you ladies are promoting. Some very unpleasant, ill mannered young people came from backgrounds which stressed my child is always right whatever they have done. The worst offenders were those who felt they had "made it" through cheating "the system" then on A Level results day looked bemused as other students received their A*s
Lived in Sutterton for 12 years to 2016, but now moved back to Wales. Always been interested in the history of the area in which I'm living. Wales is a place in point, as I was born in England, but have spent considerably more than 30 years here, on and off.Thanks for the congrats @GrumpyOldPhart . Are you a Fen Tiger as I seem to remember you talking about tests at Peterborough Hospital?
Exactly the same as my observations whilst a Governor at a secondary school in South Wales: much the same as pupils who behave & work hard have parents who attend Parents' Evenings, whereas those that staff would dearly love to talk to about behaviour or performance never attend!Fascinating reading this and thinking back to my teaching days. All the Oxbridge students bar 1 were very much in the mould you ladies are promoting. Some very unpleasant, ill mannered young people came from backgrounds which stressed my child is always right whatever they have done. The worst offenders were those who felt they had "made it" through cheating "the system" then on A Level results day looked bemused as other students received their A*s
Ha nor mine! Had a shock when I looked in the cupboard - thought it had gone off for a minute.
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