Hugs
@Annb
You describe exactly as I am for cleaning, the mammoth effort, the pain, etc
I cannot use a vacuum cleaner. But try to explain to someone why I can't, and that mammoth effort and pain it causes, they look at me as though I am stupid, and I feel so inadequate.
I can sweep the floors with a long handled broom, I have wooden floors. But I can't bend down to pick stuff up. I use a grabber a lot, one in each room.
It is the same for washing up, I'm in agony after a couple of minutes at the sink. I used to have a dishwasher a long time ago but it broke down and I never got another one. Now I use disposable stuff a lot - cardboard plates, cardboard cups to cook in the microwave.
I used to have a cleaner about 20 odd years ago but the money I paid her and the actual cleaning output I got from her as regards cleaning the place did not add up for me. I tried different ones, each was as bad as the other in different ways. I sacked the cleaners and went back to doing it my own way. So a lot does not get done and I do fall behind a lot, but I'm much happier not having those darn cleaners in my house.
Yet my father at the time, paid less than I did for cleaners, and got more than 10 times the amount of effort from them. They actually did a job I would expect from a cleaner. But I lived over the water so none of them would travel that far, and yes I would have poached one of them of him if I could. He got them by an ad in a newsagent's window, whereas I used an agency.
Hence I do not invite any one in.
I have thought about a cleaner a couple of times since I have lived here, but they were from an agency, and I checked what jobs they would do, and one of the main jobs I needed was my bed sheets to be changed and fresh bedding put on, and none of them from the different agencies did that. Yet my father got his bedsheets changed from his cleaner no problem.
More hugs Ann, for the huge effort to get done what you managed to do.
I feel less inadequate now reading someone else's account on how they struggle to do something.
Take care x