Krystyna23040
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It's great that you are now making decisions in her best interests. I tried right up to the end to involve my father in law in all the decisions which was very clearly the wrong thing to do and did cause him stress.Thanks for sharing your stories, Krystyna. I can certainly relate to them. It's good that you have memories to make you smile. My FIL did not have dementia but could be mischeivous and a bit impulsive. In his 90's he was still mobile but was beginning to struggle with his sight. Once we had taken him on holiday with us. When it was time to leave we couldn't find him anywhere. Becoming really concerned we set of to search for him and looked everywhere we could think of. An hour later he casually walked up to us and told us he'd been on a lovely boat trip around the bay! When we were working he often liked to surprise us -like the time he painted our garden wall a shocking shade of bright red which took years to fade, bless him. With mum it has been a steep learning curve and for a long time I made the mistake of trying to involve her in choices/ decisions and of explaining what was going to happen but have now realised that she cannot cope with that and I have to make decisions in her best interest. Best wishes.
After he died all I could remember was the bad times with his dementia but as the years pass the things I remember about him now are the good memories and the things that made me smile. It seems like the bad memories have faded away.
Your FIL sounds as though he really enjoyed his life - it's good to be a little bit mischievous.