@dogslife Hi dogslife my heart goes out to you both from reading others posts I now understand where your coming from with your mum,a few years ago I had this problem with my father in law vascular dementia not nice and no matter how I struggled with work and looking after him his wife my mother in law had died a few months before he was diagnosed he never used to remember me calling on him or doing anything for him it was really hard and upsetting at times to get through to him.
Because they don't remember how much you do for them but we would beat ourselves up if we didn't do it. But and it is a big but we too have to think of what it's doing to us and sometimes you know you have to find help for them because they will never be able to make that decision themselves.
It the most cruelest illness it really is, but please seek help you could still depending on your mums level of dementia still have her stay in her home but get some day care for her then it gives you some respite once or twice a week.Any help you can get is better than none,speak with your doctors and they should be able to advice where to go to discuss your options it's not all bad so much more help out their if you know where to go for it. And depends on what you decide it can be funded with allowances for her and managed by you to help pay others to do some of the care in her home. Hope this is of some help to you, regards Kathleen
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