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"What have you eaten" Parallel Chat

My, mostly unproven, impression, is that since about the age of 16, I have surrounded myself with/ gravitated towards neurodivergent people and am probably ND myself. Unlike my husband and daughter I'm not seeking an adult diagnosis as I don't feel I'm struggling at all.

There's quite a bit of autism in my family, including an aunt who had it on her medical notes in the 1950s (v unusual then, especially for a girl) but we didn't know until after my gran died and my uncle found some paperwork. Both my cousin's boys have it, and my mum reckons her uncle was as he was considered quite "odd". (She says the same about me, less affectionately). He also played the clarinet, and according to a recent Radio 3 programme, "neurodivergence is more prevalent among musicians than the general population".

My friendship group from 6th form onwards has consisted mostly of quirky, geeky people. It began with a core of the only 3 girls studying Further Maths and has expanded to include scientists, engineers and IT people. The other "core member" who has children has become very interested in neurodivergence as she's trying to get her eldest diagnosed so he can get support at school.

Maybe I've been lucky, or just made study/ career choices that meant I could stay in a comfortable ND bubble, but I don't feel it's held me back in any way that matters. Yes, I used to argue with teachers, and didn't fit in with the popular clique at school, but I feel I've used my differences to achieve things rather than be crushed by them.

Back on topic, yes, yesterday we did have sushi. Unfortunately I was too tired (possibly a sign) to test BG 2 hours later, so I'll have to try it again sometime- what a sacrifice, in the name of science;)!
 
MrsA2 said:
My mum liked Snowballs, advocat and lemonade. Never see them these days.

In a few days I'm going to pick up her charm bracelet...never see them these days, and I haven't seen this one for over 50 years but instantly remembered it.
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Reading through the mentions of Babysham, and Snowballs is bring back some lovely memories of grandmothers at Christmas. I remember Advocaat, for snowballs, being in a cabinet with the best China that also only came out at Christmas.
 
MommaE said:
Reading through the mentions of Babysham, and Snowballs is bring back some lovely memories of grandmothers at Christmas. I remember Advocaat, for snowballs, being in a cabinet with the best China that also only came out at Christmas.
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My mum drinks advocaat year round, without lemonade. (She's not a big drinker, and once the bottle was open for so long it solidified!)

I don't understand the "best china" thing, if you like a pattern, use it every day so it brings you pleasure. My parents had Arabesque crockery for their wedding which came out at Xmas, Easter and dinner parties only. I was astounded when as an adult I visited a friend's house and his mum had the same pattern and used it all the time.

My parents are downsizing and offered it to me but, apart from nostalgia, it's not really me, so I've suggested they sell it on ebay as 70s stuff is having a revival.
 

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debs248 said:
My mum drinks advocaat year round, without lemonade. (She's not a big drinker, and once the bottle was open for so long it solidified!)

I don't understand the "best china" thing, if you like a pattern, use it every day so it brings you pleasure. My parents had Arabesque crockery for their wedding which came out at Xmas, Easter and dinner parties only. I was astounded when as an adult I visited a friend's house and his mum had the same pattern and used it all the time.

My parents are downsizing and offered it to me but, apart from nostalgia, it's not really me, so I've suggested they sell it on ebay as 70s stuff is having a revival.
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I have a lot of "best" china because we bought it in 1965 in Japan. It is very fine porcelain but we fully intended to use it. However, it terrified everyone we put it out for - they were scared of damaging it so it sits there, in the cupboard, a total waste of space and our mt of our usable china comes from a charity shop.

Neil found a box of cups and mugs out in the container. They belong to Alistair but he says he doesn't want them so we can do whatever we want with them. Some of them are really attractive. Em was here this afternoon and I offered to keep them for her, which idea she was very happy with. So - up into the loft they go. No point taking them home - there's no space, which is why Al doesn't want them.
 
Woke 3 times in the night, the early too!
B: chia raspberry yoghurt pudding
L: olives, cheese, 2 cherry tomatoes. A mini ice cream
D: the filling of a salmon tart, left the pastry, tenderstem broccoli. 4 strawberries with greek yoghurt and 1 sq 70% chocolate chopped on top
 
Today so far:

Coronation chicken with lettuce. I ate a whole lettuce minus the two leaves that went into hubby's sandwich, they're so tasty at this time of year!

Salmon with tenderstem broccoli, spinach and fried tomato.

A glass of orange juice diluted 50:50 with sparkling water. Figured I'd risk it as I haven't had a refined carb all day, BG was down at 7.5 and I did refuse both a pastry "slice" and luxury pizza earlier, despite the tempting smells rising from the oven. Very refreshing in the heat!

Cold salmon later as I saved a bit to take with meds.
 
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
 
Annb said:
I have a lot of "best" china because we bought it in 1965 in Japan.
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Can you show me a photo of this treasure? Porcelain is probably the only type of luxury that I understand. I have only one cup and saucer, which I bought with my first "big" salary and was very proud of it.
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RosemaryJackson said:
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
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so glad your first eye treatment is over. I couldn't have been as brave as you. Think they would have had to knock me out as I'm not good with procedures. Once again a very happy birthday.
 
Zhnyaka said:
Can you show me a photo of this treasure? Porcelain is probably the only type of luxury that I understand. I have only one cup and saucer, which I bought with my first "big" salary and was very proud of it.
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That's a lovely cup. I would be to scared to use it as I'm heavy handed. Bet your drinks taste lovely out of it. ☕️
 
RosemaryJackson said:
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
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Happy birthday!
All my life I thought there were no nerves in my eyes, but now I'm more afraid of eye-related diabetes complications. I hope the rest of your day goes well.
 
RosemaryJackson said:
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
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Happy birthday, Rosemary. Glad the eye procedure went well. Bravo!
 
RosemaryJackson said:
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
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Happy birthday to you. I hope you have a lovely special day.
 
Antje77 said:
Thanks for the tips @MrsA2 , very useful!
Funny too, I joined a facebook group for neurovergent adults yesterday to ask for tips for dating someone with autism, esecially as he's newly diagnosed and still working very hard to find out how to adjust to make his life a bit easier. Your reply fits perfectly with what they advised. :)

This weekend is for enjoying ourselves and eachother, and seeing if this becomes a friendship (possibly with benefits) or potentially more. I have absolutely no idea yet, but I do trust we'll have a good weekend together.
I'm not worried about adjusting to more planned spontaneity. He's pretty spontaneous himself, this meeting was proposed by him earlier this week because an 80 km walk was cancelled, and I have no problem asking if whatever spontaneous idea suits him and listening to the reply, even if it's no.
The things he seems to struggle with the most are very similar to my own when I was still depressed, what he tells me sounds very familiar.
I'm more worried about completely different social backgrounds, I hope we'll be able to understand eachother.

You'll hear, don't worry!
It may take a few days, he's planning to stay all weekend and even packed his work clothes so he can choose to spend half the night with me on sunday before leaving for work at 3 am, he lives a two and a half hour drive away. Sounds like a pretty bad idea to me, but it sounds pretty flexible as well! :hilarious:

Same food on the bridge as yesterday, prettier picture. And with added basil leaves, which I don't buy for myself but with having a guest on my bridge tomorrow I had the perfect excuse to buy a basil plant. :)
I have my break 4-6 pm and another two hours of work after that. So I eat at around 6:30, food tastes better during paid hours, no need to waste my break! :hilarious:

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I kept thinking about "Planned spontaneity" and your date today. People usually tell me I am spontaneous, but I'm very much not. I just know what my options are before I get into something, so if I have to shift gears, I can go to plan B, C, D or even E. They're not spontaneous ideas, I researched the ***** out of it all long before I went anywhere. That goes for menu's and holidays, and everything in between ;) If things do suddenly change and I have no idea of options or what is going to happen (like when a friend is having a great big laugh because I'm lost and can't find her, and won't send me an address... Not naming names. :P), that can trigger one heck of a panic. The unknown and I are not on speaking terms. A vague clue I can at least work with, but complete unknowns, nope. I think your friend might be the same, so i do hope he knew where to find you, haha! Planned spontaneity though... I love it!

I am hoping your weekend is going swimmingly. (How is he with swimming?) :)
Hugs,
Jo, who keeps getting more and more amused sifting through what is the 'tism, and what is ADHD.
 
RosemaryJackson said:
Good morning all. Beautiful day again. It's my birthday! 87 years young, going to count backwards on certain years! Had the first eye injection of 6 yesterday. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be but the stuff they put in to freeze it stung like blazes, for about 2 hours. Hope you all have as good a day as I'm going to have. :singing:
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Well done on coping with your eye injection the stinging sounds really unpleasant - sending hugs.
Couldn't let such a special day go by too without wishing you a very happy birthday - many happy returns and hope you're having a wonderful day celebrating.
 
Zhnyaka said:
Can you show me a photo of this treasure? Porcelain is probably the only type of luxury that I understand. I have only one cup and saucer, which I bought with my first "big" salary and was very proud of it.
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What a pretty cup and saucer.

I don't have a camera, so can't provide you with a photo of mine, I'm afraid. My little tablet will take photos, but I don't know how to get them off the tablet onto the pc. The dinner and tea set are white with black, hand-painted Japanese scenes. Very tastefully done. I've actually given the tea set away to my DIL. It was the finest (eggshell) porcelain and people were terrified of using it. I do still have some bits and pieces of the same kind of cups and saucers from older sets held in the family and I do still have the teapot, sugar bowl and milk jug from the original set.

I am a sucker for glass and china, as was my mother. I have inherited all of hers, added some of mine and inherited other bits and pieces from grandparents and great grandparents. Nothing of financial value; just nostalgic value.
 
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